What do i do? *long story*

i'm still not entirely sure. she has been a proper cowbag today again, although, i have managed to throw the leadrope over her neck and catch it she went mental, shaking her head, reared and galloped off. i should have held on to her but its kinda hard to hold on to 500pounds that is trying to run from you. i thought, maybe she does hate me so i asked my friend to go and see if she can catch her, mare just kicked out at her and galloped off (bear in mind i did stay out of sight so that the mare didn't connect the dots). i have no idea though. i still got 3 years till uni but don't think its fair to give back a 16year old horse to the owner, as the horse won't be as easy to sell in the future as it would be now. i have to really sit down with everyone involved with the horse and talk about it as i just can't make the decision on my own. yesterday i was certain that she needs to go back, today i don't know. thanks for help everyone and i'll update once i know what i'm doing :)
 
gosh i didnt realise you were going into Year 11. Please please please please be careful - I will be very honest and perhaps blunt so please do forgive me as i do not mean to offend in any way.

This mare is dangerous, you arent capable/experienced enough to cope with her. She remembered what happened yesterday and is playing up to it.

I understand why you have thrown the leadrope over her neck but that could have startled her, especially as im betting that you were a little anxious given what had happened yesterday and she picked up on that.

She needs bringing back to basics with someone who has the knowledge and experience to break her out of this mould.

for your personal safety send back - so what if its 16? it will 19 when you go to uni so no arguement there! its not yours, never will be yours, send back and et something that you can catch, and wont feel afraid of and certainly wont potentially put you in danger.

HOSPITAL FOOD IS CRAP!
 
she's 13 now hence i think better and easier for her owner to sell her now than when she's 16 :) i have had her since february and she's got waaaay better since then, but she's never been like this before. the thing is i just don't know if i'm over reacting because of how she behaved and what if she's back to normal in a week? i suppose i just don't wanna say 'she's got to go' just because of the past 2 days, i'm like that. my last horse, it took for him to start doing rodeo and me landing on my head and every single adult telling me to let it go cuz he was seriously dangerous for me to go 'i think i've had enough' so i'm just a very stubborn teen that needs to prove something, not sure what and not sure to who :confused:
 
it takes a mature person to be able to admit when they have taken on too much, she is too much for you by all accounts. For her sake she needs to go back so that her problems can be sorted out, rather than stay and get worse and put you in danger. You need to be more mature and do what is best for the mare not your pride.
 
i know what i should do and what i will probably end up doing but it just hurts to let go :( she has taught me so much but i think we've come to the end of the road together, will always love her and remember her :) i will cry like a big big baby :o
 
i know chick but she is dangerous and she could kill you or worse you could end up being paralysed for the rest of your life roughly the next 80 odd years.
send her back and remember she is not yours - get your own which is safe and trustworthy. Be safe around her - PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
i promise to be safe. tomorrow is my last shot at catching her but i will have a few horsey adults with me to help. i'll wear my hat and bp. and then i'll get another horse thats good to catch, for a 3 year loan so then i don't have a horse for uni that i don't have to worry about payments and can just focus on study. :)
 
i hope she comes in tomorrow for your sake and your confidence. be safe and let us know how you get on, give off positive vibes!

p.s i find a sugar lump works - by the time they have in their mouth and worked out that is sweet and needs to be crunched the head collar is on and we are walking, if you can get this, then have a couple more in your pocket and bring her up gently. a rub on the shoulders as you are walking up works well also. things to take her mind off whats really happening. when do get her in, make a huge fuss and groom her lots

positive catching vibes for tom! x
 
To be fair I think she does sound too dangerous for you, when I got mine 4 years ago and I was 14, it was very very hard work and vey dangerous, but it has been one of the most rewarding things I ever did keeping her as I learnt sooo much. But seeing as your even asking this question and due to the fact that shes on loan and you would have to give her back at some point, I would say give her back. I was totally devoted to getting my horse better, and would spend hours evryday researching new ideas and methods and trying them out and never once considered selling her, the only time I though about selling her was when I was offered a nice SJ horse jumping newcomers, but even then I couldnt! Give her back and find something nicer to loan. As for a horse while your at uni, it depends on you, I have a friend that kept 3 horses through uni and another friend that had to sell hers as she couldnt cope. Im currently at college 3 days a week studing equine management, also working nights as an trainee accountant, and studying for my exams to be a fully qualified accountant and I have 2 horses who both get ridden every day, but I dont get much sleep! If you have a good work ethic then their shouldnt be a problem!
 
Update on today : She just stood there and let us put a headcollar on her. no ears back, no running away, no kicking, just stood there. While i'm trying to firgure out what i'm doing with my life after year 11, i'm keeping her for now. I'm planning on sitting down with her owner, explaining the situation and asking her what she'd like to do, take the horse back now to be able to sell it or leave her with me until i either go to college or to uni. :) i enjoyed a nice hack on her and she got loads of grooming, sweets, cuddles and carrot stretches. we'll see how she is tomorrow :)
 
shiny-ISH said:
this is exactly what my head is telling me to do but then my heart comes into the conversation and goes 'how will you feel when you see her step onto the lorry with all her stuff and never see her again'... and that makes me feel like crying. :(
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She's on loan to you so sooner or later you're going to have to face that scenario, and if the mare's putting you at risk (even if it's only 20% of the time (and, IMO, that's WAAAAY too much) you really should think about contacting the owner and discussing terminating the loan. As someone who's experienced a kick in head from a horse in the field (left side of my face is reconstructed) I can vouch that it's simply not worth the risk. What would have happened if she'd kicked that 30cm closer to you on that day? Yikes, life's too short. I think your plan to talk to the owner is a REALLY good idea! Good luck and make sure you don't put yourself at un-necessary risk.
 
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