what do i do?????!!!!

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i keep my horses quite close to where i live, and its grass livery, i love it where i keep them, the field owner is in his 80's, he's a typical old cornish man! he does well for his age, he's just fenced a big field in to 4 paddocks!!

we've had them there for almost a year now and whenever my OH isn't there he says how gorgeous i am and he's syas he fancies me, im only 21 and i usually cringe and shrug it off and have never told OH about it.

yesterday my OH dropped me to the yard and went again, as i was tacking bear up he came over to the gate and started saying how loads of blokes must fancy me etc...
then he started saying if i do him favours he'll do me favours i.e free rent, i was gobsmacked!then he started saying ''come over here'' and i kept saying no and he wouldn't stop telling to come to the gate, and in the field he was stood in there was a lad in there poo picking his sisters ponies field and then i said NO quite loud and he said ssshhhh he'll here me. i started to get quite scared!! and i quickll got bears saddle and bridle on and went and then he asked if i wanted to meet him in the afternoon and i said no thanks and he had the cheek to call me a tease!!!!!

i really wanted to tell him to EFF OFF but he would kick us off, i wasnt going to tell OH as i thought he would go nuts, but i had to tell because i dont want to be up there on my own anymore!! i think he was gobsmacked!
i dont know what to do now cos it wont be the same up there any more. my friend who lives down the road has told me i can keep them there temp but she hasnt got enough grazing unless she speaks to her nextdoor neighbour nicely.

what should i do? oh and the old man is married with 8 daughters in their 30s-40s!!!
 
I'd treat it as a huge joke, and let him know that nothing about his ambitions could be taken seriously.
Comments like 'Oh, now you know you're gorgeous, but my OH wouldn't like it. Anyway I must ride now'
And if he gets too rude, say, firmly 'That's quite enough. Behave yourself or I'll tell your wife!'
All with a smile, obviously, but make your meaning VERY VERY clear.
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If he's 80, I'm assuming you can outrun him if need be.
He probably just thinks it's harmless fun (so you need to either take that attitude or tell him you are uncomfortable with it and tell him it's got to stop)
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I used to work for someone like that! He used to tell me what a fine girl I was and recite old folk songs to me! It was all a big joke though, I'm sure he would never have tried anything. I tended to just ignore him or walk off, so he knew not to push it. He was also of the older generation, I think they have different social attitudes to us, I expect your guy is harmless too but you'll know best whether this is the case. Personally I'd ignore him or get grumpy at him, this will soon put him off! Or even tell him you feel uncomfortable, I expect he'll tell you it's all a joke and will probably tone it down from then on.
 
it depends wether u think he would take it a step further - tbh if he can still fence a massive field, hes ob still strong and i wudnt want to risk anything, harmless he may be but how do u know 4 sure? if he is making u feel so uncomfatble that u dont want to go up there on ur own then the signs are not good. if i were u id tell ur OH about it and move ur horse. trust ur gut instinct - if he were a 40 year old bloke at work making u feel this bad wud u ignore it?i think not..
 
I would see what he would do if you did treat it as a joke.
I suppose you could fart infront of him or live in the knowledge that he probably can't get it up!!!
On a serious note what were his intentions whe he asked you to come here? If he does do this again answer him really loudly repeating what he says and make sure your other half comes down with you just to make sure you are not left by yourself.
You don't have to live like this I know it is a pain moving yards but you may have to, also tell the other liveries.
 
Years ago when I was young (
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he wasn't joking, i felt really scared! it was horrible, i didnt want to get close enough to find out, i didnt tell OH everything he said cos he would probably murder him!

my friends gonna talk to her next door neighbour about his empty fields, he may well be impotant etc... but the thought of what he was saying is making me feel sick!

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this is a hard one..I used to have the same problem with an older farmer who would just seem to not leave me alone...In the end I moved fields cause it got annoying and he was always there..
I spose the only thing maybe is to go up there with your OH or even a family or friend and that should put him off coming over to you....
 
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