What happened to the thread about the pervy YO?

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At 1.30 am I was catching up on the goings on in it,`bout page 16 and then POOF!!:eek:It was gone.Wish I had caught up earlier really,think it was Ted`s Mum being attacked from all sides,shame really she was the voice of commonsense IMO.Hey Ho:D
 
I imagine it was pulled when one poster told another that the second one could have prevented herself becoming a victim of child abuse y telling him to f off.

All was rather heated and not really dealing with OP on thread's issue
 
Frequently, I disagree with thread deletion.

On this occassion, the deletion was absolutely right and should have occurred earlier.

Whilst we all have different views, mocking those who lack your personal confidence is totally out of order.
 
mtj said:
Frequently, I disagree with thread deletion.

On this occassion, the deletion was absolutely right and should have occurred earlier.

Whilst we all have different views, mocking those who lack your personal confidence is totally out of order.
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Absolutely mtj and to express such views on someone's abuse/child abuse is appalling
 
Is it fair to use this thread to re-run the arguments? Whatever your views, spare a thought for how the Op feels maybe?
 
I think the thing that came out of that was that you cannot expect a man to pick up on anything other than to speak loudly and clearly in words of one syllable exactly what you mean. They don't understand hints.
 
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true indeed
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seeing as you really were the one to put the cat among the pigeons and I do not agree that yours was the voice of common sense. THAT came from people who dealt with this kind of individual on a daily basis and THEY are the ones who gave good sound advice. Not telling someone to face up to an unpleasant individual who was manipulating them and terrorising them.
 
I read some of the original post. Can I raise my head tentatively above the parapet here and suggest that Ted's Mum is maybe viewing things a little black and white.
Phrases like 'only the strongest survive' etc don't really help the situation. Sometimes strength is not the answer to a situation, but rather tact, diplomacy and sensitivity would be better employed.
I'm not sure that advising someone who is in a situation where they feel under pressure or uncomfortable to suddenly start acting in a way that is out of character for that person is necessarily going to help them. Ted's Mum, that might be the way you would act, but not perhaps how another person would.
I understand your sentiments that you think victims should take steps to empower themselves and not let themselves be victims, and in an ideal world this is how we would all act. But some people, through a combination of who they are and how they have been raised, do not necessarily feel confident to do this. I suppose it would be analagous to say that we should all be excellent swimmers so that we don't drown if we are ever in the situation where we fall into water. It wouldn't be a realistic expectation for every single person to be able to swim. Nor is it realistic to expect that every single person who is put into a difficult or uncomfortable situation by someone else is going to be able to stand up to that person.
I think the OP received some very good advice, mainly around getting help from a trusted source and removing herself from the situation. I just hope she didn't get the impression from anyone here that she was somehow to blame for what has happened.
 
Yes, please can we leave this now. It was deleted for a reason.

Or I'm going to get furious again upon remembering some of the things said on that thread. Let's just say some people don't seem to possess an ounce of sensitivity.
 
Well, I do not think the direction of this thread has anything to do with enjoying horses. Button about to be pushed - my first time...
 
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