What happened to the thread about the pervy YO?

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Ha ha. Took me a while to find it.

Its the exclamation mark next to the green light showing poster is online.
 
Can't believe this is back up.

The thread was pulled because I, stupidly, posted about being raped, and Ted's Mum told me that it was my fault because I didn't stand up for myself.

Please, PLEASE, let this go.
 
That is truely dreadful,I am so sorry. I must admit,I don't think for one minute that ppl would be taking the p*** out of that subject.......just perhaps watching the more light hearted banter.
 
I recently found out that someone I thought I knew well was a serial child beater and
wife abuser. The abused child and her sister are now very mature ladies with careers, had children etc, but this man has the ability to make them white and rigid with fear. If I had not seen it I would have not beleaved it. As I have said I knew the man well and at no time has he shown this side of his nature to me or my children
It is all very well to say stand up for your self, if your confidence has never been undermined. Bullies have a sixth sense and know how to expliot venerable people weeknesses, and sexual bullying however subtle is just that. This man is probably well aware the effect he is having, they know what buttons to press.
The only way to get rid of them is to expose them but when you are intimidated that is easier said than done.
 
Cazza525 said:
That is truely dreadful,I am so sorry. I must admit,I don't think for one minute that ppl would be taking the p*** out of that subject.......just perhaps watching the more light hearted banter.
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Cazza, .......... sorry, there was NOTHING lighthearted about that thread whatsoever. Button pushed.
 
No worries, would just rather it was laid to rest now. People don't realise how their comments on here can not just hurt, but can actually harm people. I went to bed last night fighting the urge to return to old ways of self harm - due to a stupid child (and yes, TedsMum, you are a child, I may be the same age as you but age doesn't account for maturity) telling me that actually, what I felt about myself, that I had caused it and I deserved it, was not only true but that other people felt the same too!

I often feel like I wish he had suceeded in his feeble attempt to kill me. The thing that keeps me strong is that other people think that HE was the sicko and I was the victim. Last night, I went to bed wishing he'd killed me.

TedsMum, I'm sure you think its funny, and I did understand to an extent what you were trying to say - that if you stand up to people, they will go away. However, this is only the case with people who were just having a bit of a laugh - people with serious, dangerous intentions will either ignore your complaints or see them as a red flag to land on you 100 times worse. I also know that its incredibly hard on here to back down once you've made a stand - I've been in that position myself before. But please read what I've just posted and realise that actually you can do great harm with words. Its not all about sticks and stones.

xxx
 
flamehead said:
No worries, would just rather it was laid to rest now. People don't realise how their comments on here can not just hurt, but can actually harm people. I went to bed last night fighting the urge to return to old ways of self harm - due to a stupid child (and yes, TedsMum, you are a child, I may be the same age as you but age doesn't account for maturity) telling me that actually, what I felt about myself, that I had caused it and I deserved it, was not only true but that other people felt the same too!

I often feel like I wish he had suceeded in his feeble attempt to kill me. The thing that keeps me strong is that other people think that HE was the sicko and I was the victim. Last night, I went to bed wishing he'd killed me.

TedsMum, I'm sure you think its funny, and I did understand to an extent what you were trying to say - that if you stand up to people, they will go away. However, this is only the case with people who were just having a bit of a laugh - people with serious, dangerous intentions will either ignore your complaints or see them as a red flag to land on you 100 times worse. I also know that its incredibly hard on here to back down once you've made a stand - I've been in that position myself before. But please read what I've just posted and realise that actually you can do great harm with words. Its not all about sticks and stones.

xxx
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Really sorry to hear this. I really didnt mean to bring it all up again. xx
 
Removing a thread from the general forum community is a last resort and done for a valid reason. Therefore resurrecting the issue is not something HHO welcome, and anyone who does so, or contributes, may find their forum access restricted.
 
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