What holds you back?

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Kokopelli

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So what holds you back from reaching your full potential and how do you plan to overcome this?

For me there are loads but the main thing is my mind, I'm too analytical and when I ride I need to get out of my head and ride from my heart.

I plan to overcome this by thinking of random things whilst riding and to not think about what I'm doing, also riding with music will help me.

So your turn now :)
 
I think for me it's my confidence. Especially when jumping. I worry and get scared of jumping anything over 2ft 3! Handy's fab and will jump anything.

I will overcome it by..
Having regular lessons with my instructor,together Handy's flatwork has improved a lot (he can now canter 10 strides, collected trot and canter 10 strides on a elongated 3 loop serpentine!) So once flatwork's in place I'm going to attempt jumping him with my instructor :D

And maybe lunging him over fences.

Hopefully then we can go showjumping :D
 
Ive no confidence and I really want to hack out and do jump x. So this year I have resolved to:-
1. Get fit - been doing this for 3 weeks now - at an hour per day.
2. Set myself little goals each day - like I will reach the end of the yards road, I will reach the lamp post just past the gate etc
3. Take regular lessons - Ive had to cancel heeps recently due to the weather - iced up school etc
4. Go to a jump x training day even if its just a toddle around the course.
5. Do a teeny weeny jump x compition.

and finally do a couple of sponsored (sp) rides for a charity.

Quite a lot for me to do but I am going to do it :) I know I will need help and I know Im going to be terrified but if I dont my poor boy will be standing in a field most of the year and thats not fair.
 
Same here, Koko! I also have this crazy fear that if something went wrong, Len would get hurt. It really is stupid, as I know the chances of anything going wrong are tiny.

I like that though, ride from the heart, not the brain. Shall try that in my lesson on Friday :D
 
My confidence.

I have an amazing horse who could go really far but I hold her back.
This year I've given myself a big kick up the arse to get on with things and not make excuses.
I'm booking myself in for as many riding club rallies as possible to get out doing things. Once I've been out and done more things I'm hoping my confidence will grow.
 
Some good ones here, best of luck overcoming them everyone :)

jessandcharlie- its easier said then done but once you start riding from te heart the difference is amazing, I get about 5mins of it in a schooling session so I just want to ride like that more consistently
 
The thing that most holds me back is ... the hole in my horse's tendon. I will overcome this by ... nicking someone else's horse :p
 
I'd rather potter about the countryside with my non-competition horse than sell her and buy something that I could compete. Alot of people really don't understand this, especially when I turned down £3000 for her which really would buy a RC horse in this market.
 
Money. I'd love to affiliate but just can't afford to.

Tend to overcome this by finding a rich bloke who's happy to support me in my expensive hobby, rob a bank, or find a sponsor. None of which is likely to happen any time soon.
 
Sorry to hear about those who are injured and have injured horses, get well soon :)

dafthoss- have people been talking bad about our shetland grand national idea? :eek: They will have me to deal with and I can be very mean, sometimes :mad: :D

jenna- I'm in with bank robbing idea, I can be the getaway driver if you want :D I want to BE but can't afford 200 odd to register :eek:
 
My 'what if' outlook on life :(:(:(:(
Drives me mad. Thers so much Id love to do with my boy but Im always thinking what if this happens, what if that happens. He isnt the easiest of horses which I dont think has helped my OCD :D:D
 
Louby said:
My 'what if' outlook on life :(:(:(:(
Drives me mad. Thers so much Id love to do with my boy but Im always thinking what if this happens, what if that happens. He isnt the easiest of horses which I dont think has helped my OCD :D:D
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I think like this aswell "what if this happens" etc. If you ever find a way to overcome it please share :D
 
I think like most people I have a MASSIVE a lack of confidence. My nerves get the better of me all the time and I get scared about "what if"........

I am going to continue with my lessons and try to just enjoy my horse instead of stressing about what I consider (in my head) to be my lack of ability. I am my own worst critic but would just to love to get out and do something with my horse ie showing, hunting. I am so scared of losing control of him that it just puts me off doing anything.
 
Lol!! Held back by accident prone TB and lack of transport!!!

Will try to keep him sound so I can get to RC and beg for lifts!!!

(did well this year- kept him sound til September, then it all went a bit wrong :-( )
 
Lack of cash!

I have the opportunity to jump my TB affiliated now her confidence is sky high (Only taken all of about 5 years to get there :eek:!) but don't have the money to do it :(

Anyone want to sponsor me with money?! :D
 
Wow, good thread! Time for some self-analysis!

A number of factors:
1. precision. I need to become much more precise and effective. This requires concentration, while being yelled at by an instructor who can spot this.
2. accident-induced chickenitis. Strategy: setting small tasks, being strict with myself, and taking lots of lessons on horses that don't freak me out.
3. lack of schoolmaster lessons. Strategy: book some!
4. difficult pony. Strategy: well, he's teaching me an awful lot about dealing with a difficult pony! He won't set the world on fire, but he's my pony, and I need to learn to celebrate small victories.
 
PonyFeet10 said:
Lack of cash!

I have the opportunity to jump my TB affiliated now her confidence is sky high (Only taken all of about 5 years to get there :eek:!) but don't have the money to do it :(

Anyone want to sponsor me with money?! :D
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You can join us in our bank robbing if you like? Any good at safe cracking?
 
my age!

As you get older a self preservation sub-consiousness kicks in and 5 years ago, tanking uncontrollably across ploughed fields in the pouring rain didnt bother me at all but now, that scares the poop outa me.

TBH, i dont feel the need to roar around anymore either so I'm not exactly held back. I like to poodle around and school etc.

Sometimes people ask me what I do with my horse, expecting me to say jump, dressage etc but strangely, they never ask me what I do with my dog or guinea pigs... I find i dont need to do anything with my horses, just care for them and hack out when I feel like it.
 
ponyfeet10- do come and join our bank robbing all your money issues will be gone :D

spookypony- Some very good ones there, I know what you mean about the difficult pony :rolleyes: best of luck

giveitago- As long as your enjoying it thats all that matters :)
 
Travel phobia..... me not the horse!!!
This is a bad one for me as Ive just bought a wagon :eek::eek::eek:
Ive got to get over this one :(
 
I have a severe lack of faith in my ability as a rider. Not sure really where it comes from but I know it holds me back and makes me tense when I'm schooling. I'm determined to find a good instructor this year and really try to improve and I'm thinking I'm going to give your idea a go about listening to music when I ride Koko to see if I can loosen up a bit!
My new years resolution is also to get out and about. If not competing then at least a trip or two to the beach or a sponsored ride. My lack of transport has always been my excuse and the fact that I get told by my YO that George might be a nightmare to take out because he'll think he's going racing (very supportive, not) But I have decided that I'm going to hire a box and buy a tube of calmer and go for it!
 
I need to join you in this bank job!! Outwardly it's time and money stopping me, in order to keep horses have to do long hours at work so gives me too little time to ride. Need some tips on finding a man to pay for them LOL. Don't think if anyone was fool enough to sponsor me I'd cope with the pressure of having to be sucessful!
Inwardly though if you've got to my age realisticly there has to be a lack of talent there (on my part not my horses). I'm stubborn though and have the most talented horse I've ever had so still keep trying
 
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