What its all about...

Queenbee

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Hello everyone, Im putting one foot in front of the other and marching on since I said goodbye to Ebony. Poor Ben is taking a pounding emotionally and is actually not really fussed about the other 2 horses, he is generally low but its me hes clinging to, not the other 2 neds at the yard. I bought him in tonight because he seems to want to be in, he was so subdued as he walked in and we had lots of cuddles and smooches, he is eating dinner but not fussed too much about haylage, Im going to get him some neroli oil which is apparently good for grief, I have also spoken with the trainer he is going to and he will be visiting her for his boot camp next month, all being well, she is also happy for me to go and be up there as much as I can, which I think will be a good thing for us both, until then we will be taking it easy, doing lots of bonding and not asking too much.

I am raw and numb, but I think that the process, the way that I handled the end for Ebony has really helped me to accept and move forward, which is great for ben, I couldn't bear it if I let him down when he needs me the most.

So anyway, I thought a treat was in order for everyone, youve all been fantastic throughout my loss of my beautiful mare, and weve seen some heartbreaking photos of her, many people have of course reminded me to hold on to all the good (and boy, wasnt it good!!) and have requested some pictures from before it all started to go wrong, So, In a nutshell, here is what it was all about:)

I want to get around to doing a bit of a video to this song, but since my computer crashed I have to transfer all my pictures over onto my new computer before I can... plus it will take me an age to get my head around making the damn thing. So, open the music in another tab, let it play and scroll through at your leisure, my fantastic mare, in her prime doing what she loved best x

Music
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V1bFr2SWP1I



The beautiful, irreplaceable, darling Queen Bee

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Some amazing photos! How lovely to see these gorgeous pics glad you and Ben are getting through the days since you both lost your best friend. Really brave of you to try and help with others problems on this forum too . You have my complete respect. Best of luck in the future for you and Ben xx
 
big lump in throat- life is truly rubbish at times x

A butterfly lights beside us like a sunbeam..
And for a brief moment its glory and beauty belongs to our world..
But then it flies again..
And though we wish it could have stayed..
We feel lucky to have seen it..
 
What lovely photos, Thankyou so much for sharing them. Hard as it seems now, in time how she is in those photos will be how you always remember her, not the end x
 
Lovely photos and that is how you must remember her, in her prime and a picture of health.

Ben will be fine he just needs some time and tlc, which I'm sure he will get plenty of:)
 
An absolute stunner, what a gorgeous horsey.

I'm afraid I didn't listen to the music though, would have bawled my little guts out.

Big big hugs to you and to Ben too x
 
I put the music on and am crying :(. Such beautiful pictures of ebony, you'll always remember her like that. As someone else has said you and ben will be each others comfort now, be strong for each other and take some solace in knowing you did everything you could for your beautiful lady. xx
 
Could not have listened to music - the photos did it for me. Lovely memories to treasure forever. All the very best for you and Ben now. <<<<<<Hugs for both>>>>>
 
QB, I only just realised she had gone. I hadn't caught up with the other thread! I am so sorry you lost your beautiful girl. I read this post and started looking at the pics and then scrolled back up to play the music too. As soon as I clicked on the link and saw what the song was I had to close it down again as that song means a lot to me and once I teamed it with your beautiful photos I knew I would be bawling for England!

I will play it in my car in the morning and think of Ebony. Beautiful girl!

So sorry xx

ETA - The pics got me anyway in the end :( So full of life. God I'm a sap!
 
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I've just read your "can i cry pls" thread, I'm so so so sorry :'(
It sounds exactly like what Archie had and sadly died from as well. He got hideously thin. We never found out what it was.

*hugs* You did your best for her, she was stunning!
 
What lovely pictures she was beautiful sending you and Ben lots of kind and loving wishes and thoughts, it is so hard when this happens you were there when she needed you most though and that is what counts.

I hope thing slowly get easier for you both.
 
What a wonderful tribute to the absolute best of horses. My heart really goes out to you and I just want to give you and Ben a big cuddle. Take care of yourself and think back to the good times. She was a wonderful lady and she had a fabulous life with you.
 
You have some wonderful pictures there, heartbreaking stuff, I understand that numb pain, reading about the loss of your girl and the love you had for her brings it all back for me. There is not a day that goes by that I don't wish I could see Seren again, they are amazing creatures. You and Ebony had a wonderful chapter together and your lovely pictures show that x
 
Sorry for you, really I am.

You might like to try Star of Bethlehem which is one of the Bach flower remedies, or Rescue Remedy which has Star of Bethlehem in it - this helps with bereavement.

I can recommend the lady Julia at Juliasflowerpower on Ebay. She has given me loads of help with the remedy for my horse.
 
Oh my bawling my eyes out, sorry. She was beautiful. Brings it all back loosing my lad but you know what there is a reason they go, and i'm sure they are somewhere, happy and free. What a glorious mare, I hope your doing well. Keep Ben close and smile.
 
what a beautiful tribute to a stunning mare, thank you for sharing QB:)
i struggled not to cry without the music so there's no way i'm going to listen to it;)
 
Beautiful pictures of a lovely mare. I am so sorry that this happened, QB :(

I hope that soon you'll be able to delete the ones when she was so poorly from your head (even better, from your hard drive) and just look at these ones and remember the fun bits.

x
 
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