What keeps you moving through hard/frustrating times?

Jade&Syrah

Jade&Syrah

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I've just been making a video of my 5 year old, who I get so frustrated with, to the point where i've wanted to cry when i've ridden with, but also who I don't want to stop riding some days. As somedays I feel i'm getting no where as she's a very talented mare but is so naughty at times.

I found this song and I had to make the video, especially after my lesson the other day where my instructor told me to get off before I fell off. I've put all my bad bits and good bits in the video (well what I have on film) From our first jump, where I fell off, to cantering bareback. It just made me think of how special the good days actually are.

What keeps you going with your horses when you feel like giving up?
 
i look at my youtube account and look at the videos - first and last and i can see the improvement is huge and i just think there is always something else to worry about 1 day out of many and that one day something will click like it has before and i will have a lovely ride - yesturday i took taz out for a canter for the first time in 5 months and i was bareback as i have no saddle and he didnt buck out of excitedness or anything and we ended up in a gallop and he loved it and i was grinning like a mad woman and i was so proud of him and me as i was putting it off as i thought hes gonna dump me but he felt immence and i think thats the first time i have ridden without an argument in about a year and it really has made my year i was so happy :) you just have to think of them days :) xx
 
In life I try to remind myself of the saying 'all things must pass'. But I probably only remind myself of that when things are going badly, let the good times roll and all that...

With one horse that I had things were getting dangerous (he bucked a lot) so I sold him back to the people that I'd bought him from, the same yard that he was still on. And got a 'trade in' deal whereby they found me another horse, who I still have 7 years on.

I now realise that the stable management of the trade in horse had a lot to be desired and I wouldn't let the situation develop now, but I did get a much better horse in the deal. And the original horse is still there and doing fine.
 
Proving to all the people that slagged my mare off, told me that my exracer would never settle, always tank into fences, not canter properly, not submit at all in dressage, be silly etc that I will turn her into an eventer and a damm good one at that! Six clear xc in a first season eventing, dressage gone from 38.5 (her first) to 33 with more to give in 6 events and learning to canter straight with 3 beats keeps me going!
 
A combination of love, addiction, determination, stubbornness, and remembering what it's like when it's good.

When my mare went lame a few years ago with a bad tendon injury, I got quite depressed. For about a week, all I did was get out of bed twice a day to visit her, and then get back in bed again. After 18 months of all that, I finally sat on her again and she came sound after three months of walking. Even though I knew she'd never do anything but hack again, the feeling of sitting on a sound horse again was amazing.

Now she's gone and though we had many downs, I'll always remember the best bits instead - like our last hack back in July, speeding past two combines and three tractors, a man shooting a gun, loads of pheasants and deer. We had a fab time together, no matter how hard it was to get there or how much it broke my heart in the bad times.

After all that, I've got three projects in the pipeline still - none of them mine. It's an addiction. And it's SO worth it when you get where you want to be!
 
When I go and sit next to him in the field, and he looks down at me with his big brown eyes :) It makes me remember that it was my choice to take Tont on, and all of the problems that came with him, but I love him enough to make it ok :)

Sorry, it sounds really cheesy :D
 
I have to say,I have had many days like that with one thing and another that has happened to me over the past few years. The one thing I turned to was my horse, but when things do not go right I feel even more upset that she has let me down, when I turn to her for help to get me get on with my life. I find now that by coming on here and saying how I feel and what I am going through really does help me, the people on this forum have been a real support to me when I just wanted to hide under a stone.

You must focus on what you have done and can do and perhaps not set your goals to far, I was told the trouble with setting goals is the nearer we get to getting there we change the goal so in fact never get there. Horses will be horses and never do things out of spite, do you have lessons ? Since I started I have found that things are getting better it just takes a while to get there. Horses are wonderfull animals but they can also be soooo very frustrating when things do not go right. So be positive remember the good times and there will be loads more, tomorrow is another day look at it with a fresh start, and if you ever feel like this then just post on here and see what great people there are to give you help and support. Hope things get better :)
 
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