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I work really long hours and all night shifts i am always knackered i live in surrey and i rent my house so i would say 40%of my salary goes on my rent my best freind has a 5 bedroom house we have been freinds for years and we get on great she is the only one who tolerates my grumpiness she has said why dont i move in with her just pay towards the bills but no rent ect financially i would be so much better off maybe even change my job for less hours but... i have 2 cats i have had them for 12 years now and i love them to bits but she has 5 mini dachsunds who my cats would not cope with so i would really need to rehome my cats but i feel so guilty even though i only see them once a day for breakfast and i leave their tea for them as they are out when i go off to work i struggle each month to live i have a horse as well but that is my life i dont smoke drink ect i feel like i am on a treadmill with my life i am 50 so no spring chicken so do i stay on the treadmill and keep going and wait for kittys to pass on which wont be soon as very healthy country cats or do i try and find them a good home
 
Why don't you ask your vet if they can think of anyone who has lost their cat recently who might give them a nice home. Good luck.
 
what about rehoming them to where you keep your horse?? they sound outdoorsy and also you will be able to still see them. or ask around local yards. Is there no way you could take them to your friends place anyway and they just live outside?
I knwo personally i wouldnt be able to give up my cats of 2 years nevermind 12 but i am a softy and also luckily not in the financial situation you are.
I hope you can find a solution x
 
Is there anyway you could give it a go, move in with your friend and see how the cats actually cope, they may surprise you. They may not be the best of friends but they may tolerate one another. In the event they do not, what about keeping your cats in one or two rooms when you are out, with a litter box and let them out when you are home.

Do your cats have any health problems? If they do not then you are more likely to re-home them.

Don't feel guilty for having to think about re-homing, all our circumstances change and so long as you try to ensure the best possible outcome for their future then do what you need to do.

I wish you good luck and hope everything pans out for you x
 
If you are struggling then perhaps look into rehoming the cats. That way you are able to be more subjective if you find a suitable home. 12 years isn't old for a cat - mine was in her mid 20s before she passed away.
 
I think it's entirely reasonable to try to find them new homes. Let's face it, if the tables were turned the cats would cheerfully give you up for a cushier option - and they wouldn't care whether you were ok or not! ;)
 
It sounds like a big house, is there any part of it where the dogs don't go? Perhaps you could find a dogproof bit of the house where your elderly cats could settle?

A very hard decision for you. I do hope you can resolve it. Have you discussed it with your friend to see what she can suggest?

Re-homing could be an option, but it's hard with older animals. Worth a try though, your cats might just be lucky. :)
 
Goldenstar said:
Why don't you ask your vet if they can think of anyone who has lost their cat recently who might give them a nice home. Good luck.
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yes that is agood idea i will pop and see them tomorrow also i cant take them to stables as to many dogs at yard i know it is a heart breaking decision they would also have to go together as they adore each other to be quite honest i will probably end up staying at home till they pass on but i am so tired they will probably outlast me
 
FionaM12 said:
It sounds like a big house, is there any part of it where the dogs don't go? Perhaps you could find a dogproof bit of the house where your elderly cats could settle?

A very hard decision for you. I do hope you can resolve it. Have you discussed it with your friend to see what she can suggest?

Re-homing could be an option, but it's hard with older animals. Worth a try though, your cats might just be lucky. :)
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these mini dachsunds are sods they are like a little hunting pack they already killed 2 of the chickens and the house even though backs onto big fields it has a main road outside i also have a norfolk terrier but she sorts the dachsunds out so she will be fine
 
Archiesmummy said:
Is there anyway you could give it a go, move in with your friend and see how the cats actually cope, they may surprise you. They may not be the best of friends but they may tolerate one another. In the event they do not, what about keeping your cats in one or two rooms when you are out, with a litter box and let them out when you are home.

Do your cats have any health problems? If they do not then you are more likely to re-home them.

Don't feel guilty for having to think about re-homing, all our circumstances change and so long as you try to ensure the best possible outcome for their future then do what you need to do.

I wish you good luck and hope everything pans out for you x
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no health probs never been to vets only for vacs the more i think about it the more i get upset
 
you might be surprised how they get on with the dogs! It is possible to get them used to one another - I'm sure your friend would want to help you get them all introduced happily. I would see if you can do it before finding them a new home, or other drastic measures!! ;) Good luck - sounds like it might be fun!
 
MrsHutt said:
you might be surprised how they get on with the dogs! It is possible to get them used to one another - I'm sure your friend would want to help you get them all introduced happily. I would see if you can do it before finding them a new home, or other drastic measures!! ;) Good luck - sounds like it might be fun!
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Good answer, We had a German Wirehair Pointer and a terrier. It took 14 weeks of patient training to integrate then with a new feline family, but it worked out ok for 7 years or more. Best of British. Am sure all will turn out well .
Tegs :)
 
If you have had your cats for 12 years and love them to bits then you would not think of re-homing them whatever your circumstances.
That said, I hope you do find a solution, circumstances change for the worse ...I know from personal experience...but they also change for the better. Maybe you are struggling now, but it wont always be the case.
Good luck anyway.
 
I'm sure given a bit of time your cats will deal with the dogs. Mine has to deal with a friends spaniels staying every few months while she is overseas. His nose is out of joint for a few days but a quick smack across the nose of a dog pushing the boundaries seems to sort everyone out pretty quick.

At one time he would leave home in a huff for several days but now he barely cares and comes home within a couple of hours.

He's sitting on the top of the armchair right now taunting a quivering spaniel - she desperately wants him to move so she can play with him.

Cats are more resilient than we sometimes give them credit for. So long as your friend is prepared to discipline her dogs a bit during the initial days I'm sure they will be fine.
 
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