What to do now??

[Kazz3uk]

Sadly my boy was PTS on Friday.

My issues now is what do I do.. for the last 25+yrs I've got up in morning and gone to horse, gone to work, finished work pm and then gone to yard at end of day.

All my friends are horsey etc.. and now I feel I'm stuck in limbo.. ive no idea what to do with my extra time.

Yes my doggie is getting extra walks, but he is old so can't go too far..

I dont wany to become a couch potato

Eugh...

 

[The Xmas Furry]

Give yourself a fortnight of 'holiday' ? literally give yourself permission to have some time to yourself, catch up with house stuff, read books, sort any annoying stuff out in the house.
Do you want to keep horsing? perhaps use the time to think about the future a bit?
its blooming hard xx

 

[Kazz3uk]

Give yourself a fortnight of 'holiday' ? literally give yourself permission to have some time to yourself, catch up with house stuff, read books, sort any annoying stuff out in the house.
Do you want to keep horsing? perhaps use the time to think about the future a bit?
its blooming hard xx

The annoying thing is I work from home (other half works away mon-fri) so I've literally only got myself and the dog for company... eugh... I think its just the change in routine thats making me feel meh.. books may help... I love reading but never had the time.. thanks for your reply xx

 

[cauda equina]

So sorry you have lost your boy
I think it's pretty normal to feel lost and indecisive after a bereavement
As TFF says, why not give yourself a bit of breathing space before trying to make a decision
Take care xx

 

[nagblagger]

When you feel up to it could you still go to yard with your friends, maybe offer to help them out a day a week so they get a lie in or evening off. I often wonder what my work colleagues do outside work if they haven't got animals. Sending hug to you..

 

[Fransurrey]

I think nagblagger's idea is a good one and was going to suggest the same thing. On the other days, maybe try something new, like running or swimming?

 

[Four Seasons]

Don't rush into any horsey decisions just yet, especially when you are still grieving. Like others have send, give yourself a bit of "me time". Go out for a walk on your own even, try an interesting podcast, give yourself some time to think what you want. You can always get back into horses, but give yourself time... big hug for you, its never easy x

 

[welshcobabe]

Sadly my boy was PTS on Friday.

My issues now is what do I do.. for the last 25+yrs I've got up in morning and gone to horse, gone to work, finished work pm and then gone to yard at end of day.

All my friends are horsey etc.. and now I feel I'm stuck in limbo.. ive no idea what to do with my extra time.

Yes my doggie is getting extra walks, but he is old so can't go too far..

I dont wany to become a couch potato

Eugh...

So sorry for you loss I lost my 22 year old lad in January so I got another in April best thing I did life feels normal again

 

[spotty_pony]

Sorry to hear about your boy. As others have said, maybe take a break to work out what it is that you want - whether that be another horse, a horse on loan, helping friends etc. Give it a good few weeks until you are starting to think straight again and can make the right decision for you.

 

[Wishfilly]

I was going to suggest as others have that if you feel up to it, it may be nice to go and see a friend's horse for cuddles/pats and to do some jobs if you feel up to it. If you were on a nice, friendly yard, maybe pop up and see everyone?

I can understand that might feel too painful, as well!

But if you felt you were still getting that interaction in some way, it might feel a bit less like you have to make any decisions so soon?

 

[Muddy_wellies]

Give yourself time to grieve. The first few weeks are tough. I was in a similar situation as you, felt I’d lost my routine, my husband also works away. I spent some evenings making a photo book of my boy. I felt it helped keep him around for a bit. I hope your doing okay

 

[Spotherisk]

I’m so sorry for your loss.

 

[Lucky Snowball]

So sorry for your loss. Nothing worse.

 

[MidChristmasCrisis]

I genuinely feel for you…and I’m not sure what is best to do…

 

[Birker2020]

Sadly my boy was PTS on Friday.

My issues now is what do I do.. for the last 25+yrs I've got up in morning and gone to horse, gone to work, finished work pm and then gone to yard at end of day.

All my friends are horsey etc.. and now I feel I'm stuck in limbo.. ive no idea what to do with my extra time.

Yes my doggie is getting extra walks, but he is old so can't go too far..

I dont wany to become a couch potato

Eugh...

This happened to me last year when I lost my darling Bailey.

I just hit the gym and concentrated on losing weight. My legs felt so restless, a really weird feeling but I felt I had to do something physical, I really wanted to run and run and not stop but wasn't fit enough for that. I felt I had a lot of sadness and frustration and channelled it on the spin bike. Besides I wanted another horse and the thought of me trying horses was bad enough but even more so with my wobbly bits on display for all to see. I lost one and a quarter stone, but sadly put most of it back on over Xmas.

After a period of grieving the loss of my horse I then channelled my enthusiasm into looking for a horse to ride.