What would you do if you got this email from your livery yard owner?!

I wonder if you are at the same yard which I used to be at? The woman sounds remarkably similar. I left after a few months after I realised that she and the chap who came to teach were both a bit off their rockers!
 
Hmm, possibly, there is a chap who comes to teach on a Saturday who is as you say 'a bit off his rocker'...! PM me if you like!!
 
You could email back and say

" I totally agree with you glad you have the seen the light all this NH pretending to use wands and hands etc, when you really use it as a whip. If you want any advice please feel to come and speak to me, Also I find that saying "I think you are mad twat" at least 5 times (doesn't have to be said backwards ) always help me.
 
Hmmm, I think anyone even running a livery yard has to be a bit bonkers, so let's not be too harsh, lol! I didn't see anything actually wrong in what she said, but agree it could be seen as a little patronising, if you already feel 'out of the clique'. I would sleep on it for a couple of days and not reply yet, if at all. If you aren't beating your horse, then you have nothing to worry about. There can also be those of the 'NH' set who are a little (a lot) too physical with their horse's discipline, so it could also be that someone else on the yard is the perpetrator here.

If you and the others all feel like you don't fit in, though, then I would just move. Whether or not you're being targetted doesn't matter. It's whether you *perceive* that you are being targetted, as this is what affects the enjoyment of your horse and riding in general!
 
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You could email back and say

" I totally agree with you glad you have the seen the light all this NH pretending to use wands and hands etc, when you really use it as a whip. If you want any advice please feel to come and speak to me, Also I find that saying "I think you are mad twat" at least 5 times (doesn't have to be said backwards ) always help me.

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Zoobie - you rock!! Brilliant!
 
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My friend and I were thinking of replying to the email with the following:

'Hi X(YO), that is all fine however Y(friend) and I were talking over the weekend and we were wondering if you could explain what prompted the comments regarding whips? As far as we know none of us are in the habit of 'beating up' our horses?! If there was a particular incident you were referring to perhaps it would be better to raise it with the individual concerned. If not, I'm not sure if the comment was really necessary as personally we found it rather patronising.'

What do you think?! If we get kicked out we'll be round to your yard in a shot Arwen!!!
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I'd go for that - she didn't sound loony to me - I'm on a number of NH lists and there are always questions of 'how do I constructively handle horse-abuse on my yard?'

I'd talk to her as if she were a concerned human being and follow it up - she's probably entirely rational and trying her best.

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You could email back and say

" I totally agree with you glad you have the seen the light all this NH pretending to use wands and hands etc, when you really use it as a whip. If you want any advice please feel to come and speak to me, Also I find that saying "I think you are mad twat" at least 5 times (doesn't have to be said backwards ) always help me.

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Zoobie - you rock!! Brilliant!

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My thoughts exactly!!
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It is a strange email but if you don't beat your horse out of temper then it doesn't apply to you.
Some of her calming techniques are quite good and I might try those out.
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I wouldn't get too upset about this although in your position I would be annoyed.
If it is bugging you too much I would suggest being brave and going and having a chat with her. See if she does feel that you are one of those in the wrong etc, etc.
 
Look for another yard - she sounds potty IMO
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Oh, PS - count to 7 breathing in and 11 on out etc etc before speaking/replying to her - apparently it works PMSL
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PPS - please remember to talk to your pony woney very wery nicey picey pleasey weasy too
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Sounds like she's one of the 'my way, every other way is cruel' brigade. I would leave as if you are getting disapproving looks its probably not much fun.
 
As I undertsand it, this was a 'general'email sent to all liveries, not just you, so it is not personal. I would ignore it and just start looking for a new yard.
 
I think, after picking myself up from rolling on the floor with laughter, that I would be finding a new yard.....
 
i would be looking for another yard..i have the opposite probelm here...people who dont discipline and then complain they cant handle there horses.......then come running to me to sort it out.

My horse is the worst behaved on the yard except when i am around and he knows that he is in trouble when the finger gets pointed at him.

I wouldnt ever write an email like that to any of our liveries. We have a policy of s[eaking direct to the livery in question about behavior.
 
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