What would you do in my place?

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I haven't ridden my horse for 2 days (these are the days loanee rides him), and got a txt earlier (from loanee) to say a very nasty note had been left by the only other livery there (there are 2 of us) for me, down right accusing me of riding her horse. This livery has been there a week, and took all her tack out of the tack room yesterday.

I would never ever dream of riding someone else's horse without asking especially a horse I don't even know or have never touched. This livery has now gone telling YO and neighbors that I rode her horse without her permission.
It's not my horse, I will not touch it.

This has greatly annoyed me and it seems as though everyone knows about this and is accusing me of doing this ! I also noticed how she used my jumps in the field (we are not allowed to ride in the field).

I am stuck at what to do, I have no number for the owner but I am furious if I was there I could have honestly lost it ! I would never do such a thing, and hope that no one else would ever ride my boy when I'm not there so am very upset.

I am honestly thinking of saying 'f* it' and taking the horse out tomorrow but I think it's probably me being OTT.

What would you do in this situation ? The owner has told everyone and I am being practically bullied for something I have not done, have had some VERY nasty looks from the owner's familly and children as well as YO wife!

My life is just full of drama :(
 
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First I'd speak to YO and ask him to sort it out. If he doesn't trust you enough to take your word over someone who's been there a week then I'd be looking for somewhere else to keep my horse.
 
sounds like the cheeky cow is trying to get you to move by being a complete biatch! Hence why she is getting the whole family on side. I suggest you leave her a note in return saying How dare she accuse you of such a thing and to come and talk to you face to face like she should have done in the first place and then speak to the family there and suggest that they witness your conversation
 
spike123 said:
sounds like the cheeky cow is trying to get you to move by being a complete biatch! Hence why she is getting the whole family on side. I suggest you leave her a note in return saying How dare she accuse you of such a thing and to come and talk to you face to face like she should have done in the first place and then speak to the family there and suggest that they witness your conversation
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this!
 
I'm a confrontational person so others may not agree with my stance

I would publicly announce (to her obviously) that I had categorically not ridden her horse, nor had I ever wanted to. I would also ask why she thought I had ridden her horse and if someone had led her to believe I had.

What reason can she give if she suspects you are riding her horse?

She sounds like she's making a jolly good impression :rolleyes:

ps... I'm nice really :D
 
spike123 said:
sounds like the cheeky cow is trying to get you to move by being a complete biatch! Hence why she is getting the whole family on side. I suggest you leave her a note in return saying How dare she accuse you of such a thing and to come and talk to you face to face like she should have done in the first place and then speak to the family there and suggest that they witness your conversation
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Seriously? You think she should leave ANOTHER note???

Speak to her face to face. She obviously hasn't got any balls if she left you a note in the first place
 
Firstly, sleep on it!! But also stand up for yourself.

Secondly, if I was you, I would make it more formal - that normally scares the hell out of people.

Ask the YO for a formal meeting and set an Agenda for it. Including the very obvious questions of why they thought you had ridden her horse, the evidence for it and also for a revision in the yard policy of resolving dispute.

Keep your head and take the emotion out of it if you can - then you have to deal with facts like grown up, not hysterical children, which seems to be where everyone is at the moment!
 
jemima_too said:
First I'd speak to YO and ask him to sort it out. If he doesn't trust you enough to take your word over someone who's been there a week then I'd be looking for somewhere else to keep my horse.
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Ditto this. I wouldn't want o stay on a yard where the YO thought so little of me.
 
Ok, so the woman is obviously a fruitloop, but what would bother me most, is the people who know you, believing this idiotic accusation.
So, yes, I'd be stuffing my horse in a horsebox and moving elsewhere.
 
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