What would you do?

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Right sorry but this may be a long post so wine for all who get to the end.

I have a friend who 14yr son has a horse on livery with mine. The horse they have is a happy hacker and really not interested in doing much else. So they have talked to a few people who has contacted a dealer and they are going off to purchase a new horse from them. The son wants to do more jumping than his happy hacker can manage. I have said that if he wants to do more then he would have to look into getting a new horse later on in the year.
But last week the other friend said they needed a new horse and contacted dealer straight away and arranged to go see horses he had in. The mother said to me that the horses he had were too expensive so would wait and see what else came in. But I found out today that they are going this week to view the expensive horses (mother wont be there as she has to work) the horses in question are 2 grade B showjumpers.
I have a feeling that these horses may be a few stages above what they would be looking for at present. As the son needs to be brought on to ride( not done much bar hacking to be fair) and I fear these horses may be slightly too advanced for the 14 yr old at present. They need something that will bring the boy on but not over horse him.
From what I gather one of these horses will be coming home when they go up they just need to choose on.
What would you do? I have tried to voice my concerns but it doesnt seem to get me anywhere. Would you let them get on with it and take one or how would you tell them your fears about the horses? I dont want something to happen which will put them off horses if they get the wrong on.

thanks for helping guys and wine and chocoloate if you have got this far.
 
If they have one on livery with yours then I'm guessing you're not the YM.

To be blunt, its their money so they can do as they please. They may be more likely to listen to the YM or instructor however but sounds like their minds made up. You've voiced your concerns and as long as you don't need to be involved with the horse leave it at that.
 
hmm, are they (and what does ''they'' mean?) going on their own to view the horses? Or are they taking an instructor/experienced friend to help make the decision?
Are you basing your worries just on the fact that the horses are grade B showjumpers or do you have some more info that leads you to believe they might be unsuitable for the lad?
It very much depends how much you want to be involved, to be honest... If it was me, I would probably go to see the horses with them (if they were happy with that) and would voice my opinion based on the viewing. If they didn't want my help, however, I would just let them get on with it and if it went sour, I would mutter to myself ''what a surprise'' whilst helping them sort the mess out and pick up the pieces. :)

ETS: just re-read your post and realised you are not the YO/YM, so have no professional involvement with the lad's horse. In that case - leave them be, it's none of your business, really (don't mean that harshly, just practically :))
 
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I Have Had This Problem Myself, Its A Difficult Postion, Maybe If You Tried To Talk To The Mother, And Explain To Her That It Could Be Potentionaly Putting Her Young Boy In Alot Of Danger, If He Doesnt Know How To Ride, Then Hes In For A Shock, If This Doesnt Work, Theres Not Alot You Can Do Apart From Letting Them Get On With It, And Pray That The Little Man Will Be Okay, If & Once They Get This Horse, Maybe You Should Take A Look At It, And Then Have Another Got At Voicing Your Opinion, You Never Know, This Horse Might Be The Most Obidiant Trustworthy Loving Animail Ever! So, Maybe They Should Learn From There Own Mistakes
Hopefully This Helped A Little Bit,
Sorry If Not..
Clo
 
CrazyHorse! said:
I Have Had This Problem Myself, Its A Difficult Postion, Maybe If You Tried To Talk To The Mother, And Explain To Her That It Could Be Potentionaly Putting Her Young Boy In Alot Of Danger, If He Doesnt Know How To Ride, Then Hes In For A Shock, If This Doesnt Work, Theres Not Alot You Can Do Apart From Letting Them Get On With It, And Pray That The Little Man Will Be Okay, If & Once They Get This Horse, Maybe You Should Take A Look At It, And Then Have Another Got At Voicing Your Opinion, You Never Know, This Horse Might Be The Most Obidiant Trustworthy Loving Animail Ever! So, Maybe They Should Learn From There Own Mistakes
Hopefully This Helped A Little Bit,
Sorry If Not..
Clo
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I don't mean to be rude but do you have any idea how difficult and annoying it is to read text like this?
 
You've voiced your concerns, they haven't taken them on board. I'd leave it at that personally, their money, their choice.
 
I have said that if he wants to do more then he would have to look into getting a new horse later on in the year.
Why do you think you can tell them what to do? Why do they have to wait? What business is it of yours?
 
All you can do is offer friendly advice, but otherwise, its not your decision. 14 yr olds can be remarkably quick to learn, so he may surprise you.
 
Not much you can do, or really should do.
Its their money ther decsion.
You said they just have to choose one and will bring it straight home, so no vetting?
Straight away a disaster waiting to happen.
 
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