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OH's horse is a wonderful 16.3hh tb, hes not rode him since he fell off him at the beach near 2 months ago. He is very loving to the horse and spends time with him but not ride him!

Now ive been offered £2500 for him from a hunting yard, Mo used to hunt loads and seemed to be really good at it. I talked to OH about it, did he want to sell him and he just keeps saying its up to me.

Hes nicked Mae on me!! He would ride her about all the time, go and sit on her in the stable but he makes excuses to not ride Mo! He said if my friend rides him first then he will ride him.

His last horse Ozzy was evil, he would buck him off and rear with him. He did injure himself with him. He came off Mo when cantering on the beach and Mo spooked at a hole that they didnt see until the last minute.

Its a good opportunity for Mo, but hes a good schoolmaster and good to bring OH's confidence back. I told him with me being pregnant that hes welcome to take Mae on for me. He really loves her and shes good with him, but then so is Mo.

Sometimes i feel that he wants Mo sold but then i will feel rotten if i sell him and he didnt want him sold. But he just wont talk about it!!

I talked to my friends about it and they said that there are still good schoolmasters/mistress out there that arent TB's, ozzy was a tb so i think thats what makes him that bit scared. Also he has a 2 year old cob that will be his horse when broke. I told him that i might not be able to ride Mae for a good while as i might be busy with the baby! Hes full of confidence with Mae, he jumps her, takes her for gallops etc, but with Mo he refuses to canter him!

Ive no idea what to do!!!
 
My hubby had a TB who dented his confidence, but it was me who 'suggested' we sell Indie and buy something safer. I think it was hard for my husband to admit defeat. Once the suggestion had been made, I took charge of advertising etc and we bought an ID/Shire who got his confidence back in leaps and bounds. Maybe your OH doesnt feel that he can openly admit to being nervous of his horse? If it were me, Id say that I had received an offer for the horse, it sounded like a good opportunity for the horse to do something enjoyable and at the same time a good chance for your OH to take on your horse whilst you cannot ride. Id say that unless he said otherwise, Id let the horse go. Perhas he's a typical man and wont make any kind of decision in case he has to admit it's the wrong one? Or maybe Im just bossy..?!!
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That sounds absolutely right Ethel, spot on. I think your OH has plenty of horses to ride, what Mae and the youngster up and coming. He will be nervous to ride Mo for a good long time, meantime all those feelings will excalate and with Mo being unridden, will all spiral. Best to make that decision for him as Ethel says and make it look as though they are keeping on at you for the horse, who will go and have a nice fulfilled time.
 
See i sold his horse Ozzy on him as he was riding away at him cause he was too scared to say that he was scared. Mo is a different horse, hes sweet and has had beginners on him, but i think in OH's head he still sees him as a nasty tb.

He takes Mae out along the fields with just a headcollar and leadrope!!! He asks to get Mae from the field, he rides her up the lane with no leadrope but Mae walks right up and stops at her stable. He has created a bond with her, ive lost my horse
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It sounds a hard decision and I can understand your dilemma but in the best interest of your OH and the horse it may be better to sell him on.
If your OH is not getting any riding pleasure from the horse and he is not being ridden then it may be better to cut your losses and sell him.
It is true that there are plenty of confidence giving horses out there and maybe a 16.3 tb may not be the best choice for your oh at this moment in time no matter how good his bond is with the horse on the ground.
Whilst you describe him as a schoolmaster he is still a TB and perhaps may be a bit too forward going for your OH particularly as his confidence may have been dented by the fall.
16.3 is a long way up ( same height as my big lad) and sometimes I feel scared when riding him and I have not fallen off him yet.
Why don't you sell Mo or loan him with a view to buy to the hunt ? Let your Oh ride Mae for you which will do his confidence good and will help to keep her in work whilst you are pregnant and after having the baby.
Put the money into a decent savings account and don't be tempted to spend it lol and then when you are ready to ride again if your OH is determined to have a horse of his own again and you are awaiting your youngster to grow up a bit more for breaking in you could maybe look around for a horse for him then.
Just a thought and I know it is your decision and as heartbreaking as it may be sometimes it may be better to let go of something good because there is something even better for you around the corner.
I hope you can make the right decision for you both and I wish you luck and the best of health with the remainder of your pregnancy too x
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When i sold Ozzy i bought Gypsy and Mo lol, we only paid £700 for Mo. Hes a gentle giant, and to be honest it will be harder to let him go than Ozzy as he is so sweet and willing to do anything!
 
For a tb he is the sweetest horse ever, he doesnt do silly things and he is fine to ride if not rode for a month! Infact he is a lazy git unless pushed.

The guy that used to own him would hunt him, but he bought a younger horse and couldnt afford to keep Mo aswell, like he thought he might be.

My friend rode Mae before and wanted to ride Mo, shes only been on a horse 3 times and that was Mae, i was nervous putting her on him but he just plodded along.

OH just likes the finer horses but he fell for Finn as my biggest horse is mae at 14.1hh and hes to make 15.2hh. He said he feels more confident on the bigger horses, but he did hurt his back when he fell off Mo at the beach.

YOs daughter has offered to ride Mo for him, but i just dont see him ever being confident with him again. Like we all say, its suppose to be fun and when the fun stops then its time for a review!

Told him we would put the money into a savings accout for the baby. He said i better not sell his Finn lol.
 
You will be making a profit then! Well done you.

But really it sounds as though things are not going to get any easier, your OH is unlikely to suddenly want to ride him, so who will?
 
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