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I'm actually spitting as I sit here because I am sooooo angry . The story is , got Danny (loan horse) last January happily had him on part loan for 3 months sharing him with his owner . Then his owner approached me to take him on full loan as at the time I was horseless . I agreed and i've had him ever since . In July she announced she was pregnant (therefore wanting me to keep horse on full loan eventhough I had bought Sol ) . I agreed as she prety much agreed that I could do what I wanted with him . All was going great even when in august he went lame and was off work for 3 months and has just really come back into full work in the last 8 weeks . In the meantime I had moved Sol yards so was going out of my way to a different yard to look after Danny which I didn't mind .
Since she has had the baby she's become a bit of a b*itch to be honest , I 've had text message after text message of - I don't want danny showjumped etc etc . Texting me to tell me that she wanted to ride him the next day when I had lessons planned . And today she just out did herself
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This was the message : Don't take this the wrong way but you don't have my permission to take Danny anywhere . I am riding with Ceri tommorow .
She knew I was going to this thing at Broomes and I chatted to her about it several times . I have over the last year gone to several 'away' shows and its never been a problem .

Sorry for the really long rant but I'm at the point that I could kill her . Ive looked after her horse for the last year and now she can ride again she's taking the piss .
I know that she doesn't want me to have him anymore but there are easier ways of getting rid of me than this
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ETS - I wanted to give this horse back in october and didn't because no one else would look after him while she was pregnant , she just doesn't seem to realise that she isnt doing me a favour anymore because I have Sol and i'm not going to let her treat me like sh*t because I'm desperate for this horse !
 
I would reply to her message that you are giving notice on the horse and if she is still wanting you to not take the horse for your lesson at Broomes then from that day onwards the horse then becomes her full responsibility and you will not be doing it from that day onwards. Do you have a contract with her? if not she doesn't have a leg to stand on as she is the owner and is reponsible for the horses care. Also then let the YO know the details of the owner and that you are no longer responsible for the horse and that the owner from X day is taking full responsibility for it. Good Luck
 
Are you paying for this horse's keep? Are you still doing all the work of looking after him? What a horrible person. Sounds like you would be better off out of the situation. You could a) Have a rational discussion with her about giving up the loan. b) Do it her way. text and say from tomorrow you are not having anythig to do with the horse. Bill her for missed lessons and keep anything you have bought for the horse.
 
I completely agree with Cazza, if you don't have a contract with her then give him back pronto. Why should you do all the work so that she can float in and out as she pleases like Lady Muck!!!
 
Sounds like her hormones have gone on overdrive!!

Ditto to everyones comments, kindly tell her that you are cancelling the loan agreement. It doesnt sound like she is taking the agreement seriously at all and wants her cake and eat it.

Keep your chin up !
 
Sounds like this woman wants to have her cake and eat it while you do all the leg-work. It's not fair on you, end the loan, give her horse back then she can ride as much as she wants
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Can anybody lend me some pigs
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Thanks everyone , I thought this might be the answer . Will try and speak to her tonight .
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Remind me never to have a horse on loan again
 
I will do , but if you hear that someone in S. Wales has been fed to a pig you will know why .
I tried to have this chat with her in october and she ignored me and didnt go down and do the horse and me being a t*t went down and looked after him so she got her own way ... I know stupid me
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Sorry its not working out for you, and i agree with all the others - terminate this loan pronto, because this lady is taking the wotsit out of you.

Having a horse on loan is fine, as long as it doesn't belong to a complete headcase ! Plenty of people have loan horses and everything is fine, because the horse's owners are not bonkers ! I may well be getting my share horse on loan, ok her owner is ever so slightly off her trolley (
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After you have spoken to her this time don't back down, if you do like Cazza suggests and also inform the YO of the situation and that the owner is now responsible you will at least know that someone will care for the horse. If the owner can't be bothered to turn up presumably the yard owner can take some action and bill her.

Good luck.
 
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Slight hitch in telling yard owner as He is owners brother
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Well, not really.

Once you have spoken to her, tell YO that you have ended the agreement. Leave on good terms.
 
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That's ok, just make sure you tell her first, once you have informed them both the horse is their responsibility not yours.

I know its easier said than done but I think you have to be firm this time or the situation could go on indefinately and drive you mad! Tell the people you have to, give them notice if you should and walk away from it. That way you will be able to enjoy your own horse without all this stress.

Hope it goes well.
 
then there should be no hitch on it. Send a registered letter to the owner so she has to sign for it stating that you are terminating your loan agreement with her and on the bottom of the letter to her cc her brother in. then give him a written letter confirming your last day of duty of care for the animal, and a copy of the letter you have given to his sister. This way both parties are informed and none of it can come back on to you. also make sure you keep a copy of the correspondence. At the end of the day the horses passport and papers are in her name and she is the one responsible for the animal at the end of the day. You said you don't keep your own horse at this yard anymore so it shouldn't be too difficult for you to walk away. Just make sure you pack all the things you have bought and paid for for the horse that you own before handing either of the parties the letters. Or you may find that they will play silly buggers and not let you collect your stuff.
 
God, i never understand how people think it is ok to act so horribly!? This is the sort of think i was thinking about when I replied ti a previous post about sharers and this is a case of where it's gone wrong cos even though horse is technically 'shared' the owner likes to remind you she actually legally owns the horse and there ain't anything you can do about it.

Definitely say you don't want to have anything to do with the horsenow. You said yourself you were going out of your way to look after him anyway, why give yourself the hassle.

yes, she may well be suffering PND after having the baby which isn't nice but still does not excuse behaving like this.
 
Amymay is quite right. You don't have to make a big drama out of leaving, and the one good thing that you don't have another horse at the yard, so you can simply walk away and not look back, really.

The other advantage of the YO being the owner's brother is that he's not going to let his sister's horse suffer, plus from the POV of him getting his money, he knows she's not going to do a runner, etc.
 
End your agreement.......politely. Give her the notice you agreed on and walk away, no need to give any reasons, better things to do in life than be someone else's monkey.

btw, wasn't it a Hitchcock film that had a wife whacking her husband over the head with a leg of frozen lamb then cooking it and then feeding it to the Police who came to investigate?
 
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btw, wasn't it a Hitchcock film that had a wife whacking her husband over the head with a leg of frozen lamb then cooking it and then feeding it to the Police who came to investigate?

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Ah, no, that was the wonderful Roald Dahl with his superb Tales of the Unexpected. That one was always my favourite...
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Agree with everyone re terminating loan now & if you put it in writing to YO to confirm you no longer have any responsibility for the horse then he can't say you didn't tell him - try to make sure someone reliable witnesses you telling him & giving him the written confirmation. That way you won't get clobbered for anything. But agree having a lona horse can be fab or yuk depending on the owner's whim !!
 
Some times you have to wipe your mouth and walk away. As for giving notice i would keep that to an absolute minimum. Just think about it you could end up looking after him for another month, whilst she come and rides out etc the whole time.

I would just say due to circumstances i will be giving him up and leave it at that. Don't get into a situation with her

All the best
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