When do you admit a horse is too much for you?

What is his work load/management/feed etc like at the moment. I loaned a very highly strung arab mare who was only manageable if I worked her hard for 6 days a week, sometimes even 7 days a week. Now her owner only works her 4/5 days a week, and they are becoming scared of her. They have got everything done vets, physio, saddle fitter etc. She is a fit and highly strung horse and needs the work. I have gone to ride her in the holidays and ride her hard 6 days a week and she turns back into a little lamb. Maybe he needs the work that as a competition horse he is used to?

My friend bought a horse that was drugged when she went to try him. Luckily though she has persevered as we found out he had changed homes every month or so for about 3 or 4 years as no one could handle him, and 5 YEARS on!!! she has a lovely horse.

I would agree with others though, riding and owning horses is supposed to be fun. when you start dreading going to the yard, and don't have fun riding or being around your horse, then maybe admit that you are over-horsed and sell to a competition home?
 
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We all make mistakes when buying horses.The only thing that stopped me the last time is that I have found a wonderful instructor.She came with me every single time, when we viewed horses and I told her clearly that it was her call.I wasn't going to burst into tears or throw all my toys outthe pram if she saidno.She did, twice.We then found the newbie who isnearly perfect for me.
 
I think you know the answer already ... there is nothing wrong with holding your hands up and admitting you are not a match made in heaven. You don't sound as if you are enjoying your time at the moment, nor have been for the last three months. Perhaps he is trying to tell you you are not suitable for him.

I would advertise for sale, even get your yard owner to show him off if she is able to and start looking for a more suitable, quieter type. I am not sure what your aspirations are but for a steady neddy perhaps ID or cob or both combi would be more suitable.

I really wish you luck and hope to hear some good news soon xxx Best wishes xxx
 
I had a ex race horse what a pig spend most of his time on his back legs spun bucked every trick in the booked i fell of three times in fifteen mins but omg this horse had huge jump crosscountry won everything dressage was a no no has he couldnt stand still but it took me a year to bond with this horse i hated. either bite the bullet and sell on to someone with more experience or try and work out if things can get better youve only had him a short time and he is trying you out even the best nature horses will do this. I sold my horse on after a while as his talent was so much greater than mine. But if id had the guts i could have gone so far with him.
 
Hi I have a WB mare, we've been together a few years now,and like others she can be a right b**** (I have to add she's also chestnut!!!!)Like a lot of others I've hit the deck several times but got back on and carried on with what we were doing.She dinted my confidence a couple of years ago,(brilliant Instructor)but now I wouldn't part with her for the world.

Before her I had a Hannovarianx gelding and he....well!!!! He decked my son,my son ended up in plaster for 8wks and I had a broken nose and displaced collar bone which had to be operated on a year later.He was only on loan at the time so within two days he'd been returned to his owner.He was only 8 and I had to admit I was over horsed.

Each Horse is different but the final decision is yours,If your oh confidence is going then,as said previously, find him a good home will the help of the yo.
 
Before I bought Che, I bought a warmblood mare, she was sold as a happy hack/low level Riding Club horse which was exactly what I wanted. I kept her for 12 weeks before I decided enough was enough and sent her back to the dealer I bought her from. She could be pure evil and definitely not the "kind, family horse" it described in her advert. She spent a huge amount of her time on her back legs, both ridden and in hand and was the most bad tempered mare I have ever come across. I am experienced and confident handling horses, a capable but not overly brave rider and I just didnt want to be dealing with this behaviour every day. I think if your OH is not enjoying Pride the decision is made really, he sounds as if he will be a fabulous horse for someone and hubby can look for something a bit more like dear Hovis. A friend of mine has a TBxShire who has the very best traits of both breeds so agree that a similar cross would be a good idea maybe. Size and strength with a wonderful temperament but a bit of speed thrown in for good measure. Problem being, as someone already said I think, you just can't generalize. I now own a little ex racer who is the sweetest, kindest natured horse I have owned. He does have his silly moments (dont they all) but overall he is a superb hack and not at all a stereotypical TB! Good luck to you both whatever you decide to do but please dont keep going until someone gets hurt.
 
Feel v. sorry for you, but have to say I think I would sell the horse, it seems the wrong horse for you and hubby might not ever want to ride again soon possibly?

I know it is hard, have been there, had one similar, kept for 9months and eventually had to admit that he was far too big for me, although he only decked me once, and he really didn't mean to. I just never clicked with him, and stopped enjoying riding him. I have a smaller horse that decks me every few weeks, but I've had him years and still enjoy riding him. Your hubby just needs to find the right horse -good luck with the search :)
 
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