Mary3050
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Morning had a message from a friend who wanted me to post this for her.
Hi Mary, please send this. I am unsure if it’s time for me to give up the horses. I am struggling with my health to look after them and I don’t ride like I used to. I have limited enjoyment as I can’t compete anymore and I rarely ride. I used to ride at least twice a day now I am lucky if I ride 3 days a week. But on the other had they are what keeps me happy even when I go snuggle them and motivated to some extent the only reason I go to work. However they cause me a lot of stress of relying on other people to care for them as I physically can’t. I love them both and it would break my heart to see them go but my family keep telling me they aren’t helping the situation and they are causing more stress.
As you know this last months And a bit have been very difficult. As you remember me saying that the yard girl that does the schooling at the yard had been chucked off and broken her arm. That the YO said she couldn’t get a replacement to work the horse while the Girl was recovering. She said we had find a freelance to do them that she would allow until the girl recovered . We couldn’t find anyone willing to work them both for more than two days a week which isn’t enough as it’s not possible for to do the rest. Luckily the the mum and daughter pair that I am friends with on the yard amazingly stepped up and offered to work Tommy the older and better behaved one three days a week. Which was amazing they have been great been around to help me get on etc which the girls usually do but have been to busy. We thought this would make it easier to find a freelance to fit the other in more but it was harder.
Anyway we tried to leave Billy out without work but it sent him nuts and made him very difficult to handle. I spoke to the yard owner as my friends on a yard that does schooling. She said they had room for 4 weeks and she would keep an eye on him. It’s an over an hour away so I could only go every other week . The YO agreed this was the best solution but wanted a holding fee for his stable. Which I begrudgingly agreed to this Is the same price as she charges part livery £65 . But I agreed as it was only for 4 weeks and we couldn’t go on as we where.
So all was fine on the 3rd week I began making arrangements to bring him back. I told the yard owner which date he would be back. She then said the grooms got to have a pot on two more weeks can he stay longer . The schooling yard said it was fine but he must go after the 2 more weeks as she had horses coming back and need the stable. The yard owner also asked if she could move him into a different stable as she had a big 16hand horse moving on to the yard. The stable is on the same block as my other one is smaller but a nicer stable so I agreed. I said it won’t affect him coming back she said no as the other horse in the new stable is moving home this weekend . All the time I still paid £65. It’s been a week since and Sunday I got a call from current YO to say that she wouldn’t be able to have Billy back date we agreed as the horse in his new stables owners haven’t finished building his stable at home. I was so angry and told her this was stupid I was paying for a stable that has someone else’s horse in. The other owner had a stable free but brought a new horse over the weekend. Posted it all over Facebook that she brought it on a whim. The schooling yard has said she absolutely can’t keep him in a stable and would have to stay out on his own at night in the field which he’s never done before. My yards saying first week of December for sure. What on earth do I do ! It’s so stressful I wonder if it’s time just to give them up . I am so stressed . I have been on other yards they are all the same don’t look after the horse which this yard does up until now . Is it just a mishap or should I give them up as my family says .
Thanks for posting it for me !
Hi Mary, please send this. I am unsure if it’s time for me to give up the horses. I am struggling with my health to look after them and I don’t ride like I used to. I have limited enjoyment as I can’t compete anymore and I rarely ride. I used to ride at least twice a day now I am lucky if I ride 3 days a week. But on the other had they are what keeps me happy even when I go snuggle them and motivated to some extent the only reason I go to work. However they cause me a lot of stress of relying on other people to care for them as I physically can’t. I love them both and it would break my heart to see them go but my family keep telling me they aren’t helping the situation and they are causing more stress.
As you know this last months And a bit have been very difficult. As you remember me saying that the yard girl that does the schooling at the yard had been chucked off and broken her arm. That the YO said she couldn’t get a replacement to work the horse while the Girl was recovering. She said we had find a freelance to do them that she would allow until the girl recovered . We couldn’t find anyone willing to work them both for more than two days a week which isn’t enough as it’s not possible for to do the rest. Luckily the the mum and daughter pair that I am friends with on the yard amazingly stepped up and offered to work Tommy the older and better behaved one three days a week. Which was amazing they have been great been around to help me get on etc which the girls usually do but have been to busy. We thought this would make it easier to find a freelance to fit the other in more but it was harder.
Anyway we tried to leave Billy out without work but it sent him nuts and made him very difficult to handle. I spoke to the yard owner as my friends on a yard that does schooling. She said they had room for 4 weeks and she would keep an eye on him. It’s an over an hour away so I could only go every other week . The YO agreed this was the best solution but wanted a holding fee for his stable. Which I begrudgingly agreed to this Is the same price as she charges part livery £65 . But I agreed as it was only for 4 weeks and we couldn’t go on as we where.
So all was fine on the 3rd week I began making arrangements to bring him back. I told the yard owner which date he would be back. She then said the grooms got to have a pot on two more weeks can he stay longer . The schooling yard said it was fine but he must go after the 2 more weeks as she had horses coming back and need the stable. The yard owner also asked if she could move him into a different stable as she had a big 16hand horse moving on to the yard. The stable is on the same block as my other one is smaller but a nicer stable so I agreed. I said it won’t affect him coming back she said no as the other horse in the new stable is moving home this weekend . All the time I still paid £65. It’s been a week since and Sunday I got a call from current YO to say that she wouldn’t be able to have Billy back date we agreed as the horse in his new stables owners haven’t finished building his stable at home. I was so angry and told her this was stupid I was paying for a stable that has someone else’s horse in. The other owner had a stable free but brought a new horse over the weekend. Posted it all over Facebook that she brought it on a whim. The schooling yard has said she absolutely can’t keep him in a stable and would have to stay out on his own at night in the field which he’s never done before. My yards saying first week of December for sure. What on earth do I do ! It’s so stressful I wonder if it’s time just to give them up . I am so stressed . I have been on other yards they are all the same don’t look after the horse which this yard does up until now . Is it just a mishap or should I give them up as my family says .
Thanks for posting it for me !
