When having horses stresses you so much it makes you ill.

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MrsElle

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I have recently been in that position. Life in general was a nightmare and I couldn't even face going down to the field after having Ellie put to sleep a few weeks ago. I would go down and see a 3 year old who really could do with starting and a 9 year old who I should have been riding. I just couldn't face riding and felt guilty.

Due to other stuff going on at home Chads old owner took him back last week to sell from hers, so that was one less thing to worry about (she really is a star!) and someone else was taking Blue for me. However, once Chad had gone I felt a weight had been lifted from shoulders. The stress of feeling that I should be riding him was taken away and I felt so much better! He was rather a pricey field ornament and to be rather mercenary about it the longer he was sat there doing nothing the more he was depreciating in value, as well as me not being in a position to keep him when the decision was made.

Things have changed in my real life though and OH made me realise that I can have horses and not ride! Blue is ok for another year if necessary and then I will break him to drive instead. I really have no urge to ride ever again, especially after Mrs Mozarts latest escapade!

As Blue was not happy by himself a friend of mine who owns a Miniature Shetland stud offered me two of her boys and after a bit of squealing and running about Blue and his new tiny friends Jack and Braveheart are settled happily together. The intention is to show Jack next year and I am really really happy to wave the 'I have horses and I don't ride' banner! It really is a weight lifted!

Here are the new naughty boys - Jacks favourite game at the moment is waiting until the wheelbarrow is full and turning it over, little swine!

Jack is the black, and Braveheart the cream dun (according to his passport).

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Braveheart:

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Jack:

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JACK!:eek: Put that AWAY!:o

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As long as they're happy and you're happy, go for it, no law that says you have to ride;)
 
Arnt they gorgous?! What a great post. I am in a state ATM too. After my last horse died I decided not to have a horse again. Yet I have seen a youngster and fell in love. He's coming to live with me in a few weeks time. Meanwhile I am stressing about company and fencing. Today I forgot to collect some medicine from the Doctors and its my wedding anniversary and me and my fantastic other-half sent the morning discussing fences and fixing things up in the paddock. He then went off to work. I sometimes really do think it would be much easier to be "normal and boring",go out for meals,have decent clothes,is it worth all the stress? I guess once hes here it will be,just in a state at the moment.
 
Oooh, gorgeous shetlands! I want a few dozen myself but no land :D. Whatever makes you happy Mrs Elle,life is too short to be doing what we think other people want us to do.

Horsesforever1 - I have just done the same thing and fallen in love with a two year old Highland. I am also thinking I am mental and I'll never make a success of it, but I've got my fingers crossed for another long and happy relationship. I miss my old girl but I miss having that bond too, if you know what I mean?
 
I think its important to remember that we choose to keep horses & no one makes us do it & it is important that you get what you want out of it. I came into riding late in life & no one else in my family is horsey & i have seen people take pills, drink, remedies before riding as they were so nervous & frightened - so why do it??? i think you are right to do exactly what you want to & enjoy your horses as you wish, you pay for them! xx
 
Yes I do know! I've even talked myself in to the idea that even if the youngster I an buying is never ridden it will alright. He will be groomed,taken walks around the village,loved and valued. My pig-netting sheep-proof fences are driving me beserk at the moment though. I have been a walk around the village and have noticed that all the fields with horses in have metal gates and pig-netting,barbed wire,a mix of post and rails with pig-netting attached,and hedges with pig-netting. All the horses in them seem to be ok. Lots of them are single horses with a flock of sheep. So why do I feel the need for post and rail only and a mini horse herd? Bescause thats the best I suppose. I've even made an appointment to discuss it all with my vet.
 
I have come to the same conclusion. After the recent accident where I broke my back, to bgin with I was desparate for a new horse. Knee jerk reaction I can see now.
Its only been this last week that I have really admitted to myself and others that I really was not a confident rider and half the time was s***ing myself, especially when the just started getting higher, 2.6maynot be over the moon, but it bloody felt it! So we are now looking for a pony for a bit of driving, but maybe to just be loved. I hae no desire to ride again, and feel quite comfortable saying that now.
 
I'm sorry the sad bits of my life with neds has had such an impact :(. I hope the good bits have had an equal impact on others :)

I was going to give up riding after Saturday's event, but then I heard of someone who went for a jog. Sadly the person tripped and is now paralysed. And that is not an unusual occurance.

Life if full of risks, but we have to do what is right for us as individuals :). You have gorgeous neds there MrsE and will no doubt have lots of fun with them :D
 
ME - meet another - I have horses and don't ride. And I am very happy.
I haven't ridden for years as my back hurts so much when I ride it is just no fun. I am also a lousey rider:p and have spent years being my daughters groom/assistant. TBH it is great. She now only has a youngster and a retired girl so both of us no longer ride until the little one is ready to back.( she borrows and hacks but hates "proper riding" other peoples). I would love to do what you do and have a couple of minis and will probably do that in a few years. Good on you for finding what works for you.:)
 
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after reading your previous posts i understand why you have made that decision, but if you don't mind my i play devils advocate.....................and when you look for a driving pony also try to find one that is broken to ride as well as drive..............and maybe over the years whilst you recover you confidence there is always the option of riding. i am one for leaving your options open, life and things change happy searching :)
 
I have been stressed to hell with having two horses, one I find makes my back hurt with his short choppy stride to such an extent that I have no desire to ride him, the other my youngster I brought to bring on myself has turned out to be a huge headache from day one. Now he is being backed I honestly feel utterly terrified that I may soon have to get on him. Like my husband is saying now "be careful what you wish for!" I feel I have aged years over the past year, I am 54 and no longer feel fit enough or competant to handle a young green horse. I honestly think I just was better off pooh picking and having cuddles with mine. But I guess thats no life for a young horse.......so STRESSED I certainly am, to the point of feeling ill with anxiety every day.
 
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