when is it the right time, will i know?

I am sure that you have made the right decision and that you are doing the best by your old friend. Give him plenty of nice grooms and lots of his favourite treats.
 
I think you already know the answer, but you're finding it difficult to admit it (totally understandable) as others have said, if doubt creeps in then im afraid its the end of the road :(

Listen to what your gut is telling you, it'll never let you down.

Really sorry of your situation, cant begin to imagine what your going through:(

Just remember...when he goes, doesnt mean he isnt listening and that he isnt there in soul. The fantastic memories you shared will always be in your heart and you can look back and be proud of yourself that you did the best by him.

Wish you all the best
xx
 
First of all sorry that you find yourself in this awful position. Why is it that they don't just make the decision for us and just "go to sleep"?

Having been in your place twice and looking at it again soon I think, the words from someone wise on here always stay in my mind. "Better a day too soon than a moment too late".

He does not worry about tomorrow or look forward to anything. He knows "now" and if "now" is not great then maybe the time has come.

(((hugs))).
 
Can only echo what everyone else has said. Its the hardest decision, but the right one. My heart goes out to you. Enjoy your last few days with him, love him and hug him, and stay with him at the end. He'll be at peace and in no more pain. Gosh, I could cry for you, in fact I am! Bless you, take care x
 
I know exactly what you are going through - i had my lovely girl PTS yesterday, was a tough decision but after seeing her in alot of pain i knew it was the right thing to do.
Big hugs to you xxxxxx
 
blucanoo1990 said:
Thank you for all of your support.

I think I know the right time is now.
I'm going to increase his Bute and give him a lovely weekend.
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Well done for being brave. Don't feel that you have to be there holding the lead rope, it's a big ask and I simply could not do it for the horse that I had put down last week. He would rather be with someone else who he knows who is calm, than with you if you are desperately upset, as most of us would be.

But if you feel able to, do take a quick peek at his body after he has settled and someone tells you it's all over. Then you will be able to say goodbye to his spirit more easily. I didn't see the body of my first one and it haunted me for a long time that I didn't have any proof that he was gone.

I hope he has a lovely last weekend and that you can get through it as best you can, knowing that you are doing your horse the greatest favour that an owner can do - giving him a quiet, peaceful and pain free end to his life.
 
I think by writing the post you know yourself what the answer is...... Let him go...... It sounds like you just need other people to back up what you already feel is the best dicision for you and your boy.
I had my old pony PTS last July and it was the hardest thing I have ever had to do but I now know that it was the best thing to do for her and the situation was very simular to yours, we picked a date, stuck to it and allowed everyone (human and horsey) to say their goodbyes.
My thoughts are with you at this time but trust that you will know what is best for him ((hugs))
Teresa
 
i am in tears just reading this, having lost my seemingly healthy 12yr old mare in october, i had got her from the field tacked her up she was fine, then went up and over for no obvious reason whatso ever the fall caused a bleed internally then she fitted for a while and died in my arms it was the worst day of my life seeing her suffer for more than a second was awful , i really do feel for you, the fact you are thinking about what to do almost shows you know what needs doing my mare taught me so much not only about riding and horses but life and people in general. think of all the good times , lots of hugs xxx
 
cptrayes said:
Well done for being brave. Don't feel that you have to be there holding the lead rope, it's a big ask and I simply could not do it for the horse that I had put down last week. He would rather be with someone else who he knows who is calm, than with you if you are desperately upset, as most of us would be.

But if you feel able to, do take a quick peek at his body after he has settled and someone tells you it's all over. Then you will be able to say goodbye to his spirit more easily. I didn't see the body of my first one and it haunted me for a long time that I didn't have any proof that he was gone.
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I totally agree with this. I had my boy PTS in October last year. He had been getting worse slowly over summer, but the last couple of weeks he was struggling. I told no-one on the yard and not even my OH that I knew he was coming to the end. I had booked the vet for a Wednesday morning to come and assess him, although I already knew what the outcome would be - I just couldn't actually make the booking to have him PTS as that way I sort of knew there was no other option. Anyway, the Friday prior to this Wednesday I brought him in from the field where he had been standing at the gate most of the day. His back legs were wobbly and I just knew - I asked a friend to discreetly call the vet as I couldn't do it and made sure it was the only vet who had ever dealt with him and knew him. She did exactly as I asked and 15 minutes later the vet was there. She put her arms round me and told me that it was his time. We lead him up the yard where the vet sedated him. He was totally out of it with the sedation and I left him in the hands of the vet and the farmer as I didn't want to upset him. We walked away and in less than a minute the vet came to tell us he was gone. I went to see his body which the vet and farmer had put a tarpaulin over and I stayed with him a while and wept my heart out. I could barely stand and nearly had to be carried back to the car. But there is no doubt in my mind that I did the right thing. There was less than 30 minutes between the call to the vet and Rebel going.
You will know when it's the right time - you know your horse best. Enjoy every last minute with him and then just make the call. Once you've done it there will never be any doubt that you did the right thing.
If you want to PM me for support, feel free. xx
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You know it's time, we had a pre arranged pts and the old boy knew he was loved by us and his field mates, on the other hand, our injured 18yr old's heart gave out during colic, I pray he knew just how much he was loved by all that met him. Appreciate the time left with him
 
My advice would be this.
You will know. He will let u know.
My old boy was arthritic and on bute daily. One morning my friend was turning him out n he'd been thrashing in his box overnight and scraped all his handsome face. I said enough was enough and planned the vet to come 4 days later to put him to sleep. For those 4 days he wanted for nothing and I spoilt him rotten. I honestly don't know how I got through those days but I did as he was the forefront of my mind. You will know when his time has come trust me and trust yourself as no one of us knows him like you do.
I wish you strength and courage for the time when it comes and don't let anyone push you into a decision that you are not sure of. I retired my old fella at 25 and he had a happy life until 31 years old. Some would of had him pts on his arthritis diagnosis at 24 but I decided as he was well and I could manage it to make him as comfortable as possible and he enjoyed those years of his life xx
 
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