When you are ill........

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TicTac

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who see's to your horses for you? I am just recovering from flu, and I mean proper flu, extremes of temperature, dizzyness, severe lack of energy etc, you get my drift and my husband has been a complete a***. He has completely ignored me for the last week with passing comments like " oh it must be nice to stay in bed all day!" I am generally very lucky with my health so it takes alot for me to take to my bed for any lenght of time.

So I have dragged myself out of bed in the morning to turnout and muck out 2 horses and then the same this in the evening to fetch them in. To make matters worse my mare is on restricted turnout after her KS operation. Yesterday when I went to fetch her in she wasn;t where I left her in the morning. She had jumped the fence into the paddock to be with the others!!! So today, I put up some more fencing and put her back in her own field that has plenty of grass and she was like a pig in muck.

Normally my husband can be quite helpfull but he's been completely ' off ' I did tell him that heaven forbid he gets PROPER flu because he certainly wont get any sympathy from me.

Hopefully I am on the mend now but I wont forget his lack of consideration in a hurry.
 
Aww, that's not nice! Wait till he gets pathetic man flu. Let him get on with it by himself :D

Hope you are on the mend and feeling better, flu like that is awful! Only had it the once but it does certainly knock you for six! :)

P.s In answer to your question: I don't have horse at the mo, but would use the services until I felt better I guess.
 
I still have to do it, even when I had that vomiting/diarrhoea bug when it was going around (now that was fun being sick on the muck heap!!) and have to bike to the stables too. Have done it all this past month with a broken rib..

If you don't do it, no one else will unfortunately!
 
My wonderful and up till he met me totally non horsey OH....one of the first things he did when we moved to DIY livery was to have some "how to handle the horse lessons".

Sorry but he is pretty perfect:-))
 
I have no one to help me either, no matter how ill I am. OH would no way help me out with flu. As I am at a yard with only one other woman who is often ill herself it is me struggling along. I am in agony with my back just now, must have put it out gardening at the weekend, I am really struggling to walk and am laid down typing now!(Much is my determination to get on here!)
So even though I am in terrible pain the one other lady cannot come down either so I am trying to get her two horses done as well as my own, its a nightmare :(
I really want to go back to my old yard as could pay YO to help at times like this but I cannot afford to move just now :(
 
Moggyinmanolos said:
I have no one to help me either, no matter how ill I am. OH would no way help me out with flu. As I am at a yard with only one other woman who is often ill herself it is me struggling along. I am in agony with my back just now, must have put it out gardening at the weekend, I am really struggling to walk and am laid down typing now!(Much is my determination to get on here!)
So even though I am in terrible pain the one other lady cannot come down either so I am trying to get her two horses done as well as my own, its a nightmare :(
I really want to go back to my old yard as could pay YO to help at times like this but I cannot afford to move just now :(
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Do neither you or the OP have friends up the yard? If someone sent me a text asking to sort out their horses because they had the flu, I would do it for a few days for them while they recovered. Then they return the favour when you're unwell :)
 
I have to be dying before I don't go, but am lucky that I share, so when I'm at deaths door, the other person does them, but we have an arrangement where I do them full time on weekdays because of their work, so I hate to feel that I am letting them down.

There's the reason why I still did them whilst racked with a severe chest infection on three different occasions one year. But amazingly, for someone who is always ill (chronic incurable condition that leaves me open to every bug going!) I didn't get flu last winter for the first time EVER!!! In the worst winter for 30 years!!!! How odd!!!!!
 
I'm lucky that my yard owner will help out whenever needed, i just dont like to ask, so until recently i've always sorted things myself no matter how ill i was. I've since met my amazing man, who is a bit horsey and loves my ponies. I'm currently signed off work with a bad back, so although i can see my babies everyday he wont let me lift a finger at the moment. I'm so lucky... :D
 
TicTac said:
my husband has been a complete a***. He has completely ignored me for the last week with passing comments like " oh it must be nice to stay in bed all day!"
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EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEESH!!! I hope you are sleeping very close to him at night.....hopefully you'll pass it on :D

I live next door to where my horse is kept but if I'm THAT ill, I call the YO and ask them to see to him, I return the favour so they can have the day off
 
When my friend (on another yard) went on holiday for 2 weeks and then this past week, been in hospital having a baby - I did her two for her.

When I go on holiday, she will do the same for me, or if I am ill, my OH will do it and I do have the luxury (such as at the end of the month) of paying the yard to care for my two. Depending on circumstances, I have a few options.

Hope you feel better soon. xx
 
sarah sum1 said:
Do neither you or the OP have friends up the yard? If someone sent me a text asking to sort out their horses because they had the flu, I would do it for a few days for them while they recovered. Then they return the favour when you're unwell :)
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There is only me and one lady who keep our horses there, its a tiny yard.
Thankfully just got off the phone funnily enough, other ladies friend is very kindly going to feed them in the morning. But its only me and her so if we are both ill its can be very hard if her friend is not about like tomorrow, absolute god send right now as we are both hurt/ill :(
 
There are only 3 of us where I keep Che, mum with her daughter and me. I think we are very lucky as there are never any questions asked, we just help each other whenever needed, all thats needed is a quick txt message. Although the yard itself is very basic, just stables and grazing, the fact that I know I have help whenever I need it (OH is very unhorsey) is worth an awful lot to me, I would trust them implicitly with Che as they do me with theirs. OP, I do feel for you, I have had proper flu a couple of times and it really does knock you for six, look after yourself.
 
I keep mine at home which is super 99.9% of the time, BUT as I'm feeling like death warmed up at the mo its not so good. I don't know whether its flu or what, but every muscle in my body's aching, am getting shooting pains down arms and legs, head feels like its made of brick, throat feels like barbed wire .... need I go on.

I have to "do" my animal myself, there's no other option, so I've had to drag myself out to muck out & bring in etc.

Am sitting/chilling drinking the remnants of last years Sloe Gin!
 
This is really something to think about seriously.

My friend died of cancer this year, following a year of illness, for most of which she was in hospital, and most of her familiy's time was taken up looking after her.. Her husband had to leave work to do this, and couldn't do the horse as well. Luckily the girls who share a small yard with her cared for her horse like troopers. Luckily the horse is pretty much retired, and lives out, so it wasn't too much of an ask. They have the horse on loan now.

It really got me thinking just how important it is to know what you'd do if, god forbid, something that awful happened to you - re looking after your animals. I hope that it never does.

To make you feel better, her husband was totally un horsey, but used to take her up and just sit by the stable while he did things there - just so she could be around the horse when she was very ill. He was quite surprising how much he learned/tried, so there may be hope for the unsuportive husbands out there...
 
I would be breathing germs over the OH to make sure he was next!!! lol!!!

I broke my leg on 10 August and I am still sat here unable to do anything :(

I have the most fantastic friend who has seen to my horse day in, day out for the past 9 to 10 weeks and will continue to do so till I am back up and running (Well to be able to walk would be a good start!!) She is even occassionally riding him to keep him ticking over till I can get back on board.

I feel a very big thank you pressie will be winging her way once I get mobile!! I would have had to have managed somehow but she has taken the main worry away from me leaving me to worry about healing my leg.

You certainly find out who your friends are when your poorly!!

Get well soon! x
 
Unfortualy I have to do my horses , but again it takes alot for me to become I'll
The only time my partner has offered to help is when I was pregnant saying that he does help when asked
Hope u feel better soon
 
My gorgeous OH is amazing when I'm sick (which is alot!). Two of the horses (out of three) are his, but he always does everything for me, from the horses to the dog to cooking dinner and hugging when I cry!
 
I detest people saying they have flu, when all they have is a cold, I fully sympathize as I know what proper flu is like, Iv'e had it about 3 times in my 56 years up to now, I can remember last time I had it, I commented to my wife that "no wonder it kills old folks".
I am sitting here with a "cold", yes I feel crraap, but I have carried on going to work and ridden in the xcountry field jumping tonight, thats pretty much impossible with proper flu, you have my sympathy.
As you said, when he get's proper flu get your own back on him.
 
Hmm- I did read about one womans response to a very unhelpful husband. She waited till he was asleep, then gave him a hefty dig in the ribs, so he woke up spluttering " what was that!?" "Nothing darling, you must have been dreaming"!
 
Me usually. Although I have a lovely friend at the yard who will drag in and chuck out if I needed her to. She always offers but I feel naughty accepting so haul my arse up to do it myself. Had a real bout of nasty food poisoning earlier in the year and managed to get up at least once a day all the way through even if I didn't manage both shifts. OH would probably do it if I really needed but he commutes to London everyday so they'd be out early and in late and honestly they're a bit too much for him. (opinionated 2yo and even more opinionated 5yo)

I think I am very lucky as I am at a yard where I could probably ask anyone and they would say yes. We all do the best we can to help each other out and it works pretty well. The only problem I have is that mine are a bit friskier than the others so it isn't a fair swap. I count my blessings that I found such a lovely bunch of peeps to share with


And get well soon. I have never had real flu before but have witnessed it and it looks like the pits. I have a stinking cold and have been moaning all day but I shall stop now!
 
I had flu over the day after Boxng Day a few years ago and was in bed for about 5 days, unfortunately my oh had if just before me (of course he reckoned he had a chest infection as well!) and nether of us could go up - he would have done f able - so i was able to pay the YO to do him for those few days. thank goodness!
 
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