When you are not included

[gingerarab]

Not sure how to take this to be honest so opinions welcome.


Neighbors of 20+ years across the road from me, organized a low-level dressage event and invited various local people but left me out - not sure why I was not included but they do have a history of making spiteful comments at times, although overall I would say we were friendly. It made me feel like the only kid not invited to the birthday party in the next-door garden - left out and watching from afar!

 

[Fransurrey]

Says more about them than you, but if they have a history of making spiteful comments (presumably about you), is an event worth having to pretend you like someone? Maybe I'm just getting old, but I can't be bothered with masking my opinions about people these days, so I just don't mix with those people I dislike!

 

[TPO]

If I was organising my own dressage competition I wouldn't invite anyone that would beat me ? so take it as a compliment ?

 

[Antw23uk]

If I was organising my own dressage competition I wouldn't invite anyone that would beat me ? so take it as a compliment ?

OP you can be upset or you can take TPO's comment as the way forward. Absolutely spot on lol Dont take it to heart, it says more about them than you, just mind your business and organise a lovely visit out with you and your horse and not give it a second thought.

 

[Ratface]

Let it pass, my lovely. "They don't deserve the drippings off your nose", as one of my grandmother's friends used to say.
Smile pleasantly, and pass by, preferably on the other side.

 

[dorsetladette]

If I was organising my own dressage competition I wouldn't invite anyone that would beat me ? so take it as a compliment ?

/\ This is totally what happened! They just wanted all the frilly's for themselves!!

 

[scruffyponies]

If the 'various local people' are their friends, then they have hosted a private event, and you were just not part of that group. It's a bit odd to be judging other people's friendship choices, and getting yourself all het up because someone else doesn't consder you one of their friend group is playground politics. Nobody is ENTITLED to an invite to a party.

 

[southerncomfort]

I'd be delighted!

No need to make up an excuse not to go! ?

 

[The Fuzzy Furry]

Human nature lends itself to getting miffed when not invited (even to things we might not want to go to), but as others have said, rise above it.
If you hear of another 'event' going ahead in the future, then make your own fabulous plans instead, just for you ?

 

[[153312]]

I'm not sure I understand why you'd want to go to an event with people who make spiteful remarks, or have done in the past, anyway....?

 

[Arzada]

Neighbors of 20+ years across the road from me, organized a low-level dressage event and invited various local people but left me out

Do you usually invite each other to meals, parties, BBQs etc?

 

[Ratface]

They're really not worth bothering about. Let it pass and do your own thing

 

[GSD Woman]

I know how it hurts to be excluded but everyone here is correct; Censored favorite word 'em.

 

[Shilasdair]

If I was organising my own dressage competition I wouldn't invite anyone that would beat me ? so take it as a compliment ?

Absolutely this.