where are all the horsey men for us women??

I want a tall one that can ride, has a HGV licence and plays rugby...I dont think thats unreasonable :-s hehe!
 
A couple of weeks ago I was driving through our village and had to slow down for this gorgeous hunk riding a horse, oh I think, he's lush, fresh meat in the village must find out where he keeps his horse and ride past ALL THE TIME til I get to introduce myself, alas 2 days later I saw same hunk walking down the road holding hands with his boyfriend :rolleyes:

His boyfriend was gorgeous to !!!
 
Show Girl said:
A couple of weeks ago I was driving through our village and had to slow down for this gorgeous hunk riding a horse, oh I think, he's lush, fresh meat in the village must find out where he keeps his horse and ride past ALL THE TIME til I get to introduce myself, alas 2 days later I saw same hunk walking down the road holding hands with his boyfriend :rolleyes:

His boyfriend was gorgeous to !!!
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Lol, life is so unfair!!!
 
narkymare said:
make your own!!!!
my hubby wasnt at all horsey till we got our horse last year - now hes totally besotted!!! Calls in every morning on his way to work to give him a carrot and check hes had a good nights sleep lol
Find a nice young man and teach him the joys!!!! :p
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My OH is starting to worry me. I have had my old horse for nearly eight years. I can count on my fingers the number of times he has been to see the horse. In April this year, I bought another horse to school/compete over summer while the old boy (the horse, that is) had some time off.....OH appears to have become besotted with this new horse, who was supposed to be going for sale. We had to take to the horse hospital in Edinburgh on Wednesday and when they had done their tests and said that she needed an operation, I think he was more cut up about it than I was! He's been texting me at work to either find out whether the vet has phoned, or to tell me that the vet has phoned him and spoken to him and even offered to go and pick her up himself next week (don't quite trust him to put her boots on and tie her in the box properly though). I keep reminding him that she will have to be sold, but his reaction has now changed to "She needs some TLC", and when I point out that it will be too expensive to keep two horses, he just says "Never mind, we'll manage".......definitely worrying signs....
 
I've found mine haha he's my perfect guy - he knew as soon as we started going out that my horses came first and even though he's allergic to them he is so willing to help me with them and loves them to bits now. He understands why I love them so much and want to spend so much time with them so i think in a way ive started to compromise and work with him a bit more coz he tries so hard to help me that i should give a bit more time for him =D Tbh i think ive got my perfect guy - I love him so much and he loves me and my horses together haha what more could i ask for =D you may be able to tell i'm quite smitten.

(he's even convinced me to leave them for 3 days as he wants to take me to dublin for our anniversary - first time ive left them in 5 years lol should be interesting haha)

x
 
Trakehner said:
I'm male, first pony when I was 4, pony club etc...I learned as a teenager not to date girls with horses.

I tell male friends who don't ride, "Do not date a girl with a horse, 2 dogs or 3 cats".

I hear my female riding friends with amazing attitudes. "He'd better not get between me and my horse," and "I don't want to hear complaints I'm never at home". Usually followed by "I pay for my horse with my money, he can't complain about the cost."

Problems...no guy likes to place last behind a horse, dog and her friends. If a guy has a girlfriend/significant other etc in his life...he really would like to spend some time with her, and not just when she's sweaty coming home from the barn and complaining. For cost...when I hear a comment of "I pay for the horses with my money"...they are being selfish. He's probably paying for the house/car/vacation/insurance/clothing/vacation...on and on and on. Guys want a partner, they don't want to be an employee or a wallet.

So, I think the main problem is do you really want a guy in your life as a partner or wallet? How much time are you willing to share with him? Who will come first, horse or him? Can you afford your own lifestyle or are you going with him because you "need" his money to enjoy your horse expenses? Even simpler, do you want him because you need him to "complete the set"?

I love equestrians, I love their talent, attitudes and skills...I love they can manage to deal with the problems and challenges horses can bring...but some of these same skills make them terrible dates for many guys and terrible partners.
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ok, i see your point, but can I just say I am a single parent of 2 teenage kids, and have a horse in livery at a very nice yard....i DO NOT expect anyone to pay for my horse, my house, my bills or my kids!!! i work full time, so i am not claiming anything, and my horse and kids have everything they need within reason, i have manged without a man so far so I can manage all the time.
i did not post this looking for a rich sugardaddy to pay for everything for me, and really would never expect anyone to pay for my "hobbie".
i was with my kids dad for 14 yrs, and i never let him pay a penny for my horses and my last relationship of 3 yrs i also never let him pay a penny neither, and he had his own seperate house...so i was still paying all my bills i just wanted to make it clear that i didnt mean i wanted a rich man to pay for things for me, i meant just someone who would enjoy the horsey side of my life, just like i would enjoy his pursuits be it footi, rugby whatever.
i think a lot of people on here pay for their own horses and bills. i dont think any of us would expect anyone to support us in that way.
 
goneshowjumping said:
ok, i see your point, but can I just say I am a single parent of 2 teenage kids, and have a horse in livery at a very nice yard....i DO NOT expect anyone to pay for my horse, my house, my bills or my kids!!! i work full time, so i am not claiming anything, and my horse and kids have everything they need within reason, i have manged without a man so far so I can manage all the time....i meant just someone who would enjoy the horsey side of my life, just like i would enjoy his pursuits be it footi, rugby whatever. I think a lot of people on here pay for their own horses and bills. i dont think any of us would expect anyone to support us in that way.
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Actually, I think you're pretty rare. I've heard a lot of my mates talking about the girls they dated who had horses. Every one said, "don't do it!". The word is out there.

I've had friends where the wife bought a horse 6 months after they married, went horse nuts (schedule/showing/money/more money). She pretty quickly stopped being a partner. She actually said, "I pay for my horse with my money" and when I suggested he paid for all her other expenses she really didn't understand the problem..."He wants me to be happy!" They divorced soon after, "her" money left her with a bad car, bad flat and no horse. He said he'd never go with another rider (her mum even warned him, "don't let her get a horse"..he should have listened).

My wife doesn't ride any more (she had a terrible fall off her gelding and almost died, 5 months of rehab etc.). She won't get on another horse. She loves that I still ride and I bought a carriage so I can take her along on drives sometimes. She comes first. I still ride my guys 4-5 days a week, but I may ride late or very early so we can have dinner together 6 days a week. It's worth it.
 
NeilM said:
Here's a tip ladies. Find a nice genuine bloke (yes yes, I know stop laughing there must be some out there) and then convert him to be a horsey type.

This is what my OH did and it only took her 28 years :D
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Check on the first part-the conversion is not going to happen,but he has reached that wonderfull place called acceptence :p
Short version,people who havea time consuming obcessive hobby need an OH who either shares it (although :o at that at times) or who has an obcessive time consuming hobby of their own.
Saves on the "but your never here" arguments :p
 
Saucisson said:
Be expected to do all plaiting (woman's job apparently)
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And your point is? :p It is a womans job. Mens fingers just dont work that way :D
Al the other stuff on your list I am NOT guilty of except perhaps criticising riding if she rode like a numpty in a test but then you should hear what i have to put up with if I roll a pole. :eek:
 
JunoXV said:
And your point is? :p It is a womans job. Mens fingers just dont work that way :D
Al the other stuff on your list I am NOT guilty of except perhaps criticising riding if she rode like a numpty in a test but then you should hear what i have to put up with if I roll a pole. :eek:
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Have to disagree! Big butch red haired builder (guy - lol) plaits all his kids show ponies and wins supreme championships time after time with his dainty, floaty little ponies. His plaits are to die for. His wife floats around with the endless supply of perfectly plaited in hand young show ponies and broodmares. Works for the - sigh!
 
Ah i must be lucky then! My OH isn't horsey but cooked a lovely curry last night and waited till i got in at 9.50pm after 2 sj lessons after work to eat with me - bless him.

He doesn't begrudge my horses one bit - when we met i had one, then i got another, then i sold him, then i got another two, so now i have three!

He even comes to Ireland with me and sends all day at the sales looking at horses. I once caught him asking for a horse to be trotted up and i watched him check over his legs to which he reported back to me (he hadn't seen me watching) that the horse moved well and had no 'Spints', bless he meant splints!

I do how ever try to be fair, i missed our local BE horse trials last week to go away with friends and OH for a weekend, which was nice, but i was happy to be home and see my 'boys' (horses!)

There is a fine line with having horses and OH's - but if you get the balance right its great :)
 
JunoXV said:
And your point is? :p It is a womans job. Mens fingers just dont work that way :D
Al the other stuff on your list I am NOT guilty of except perhaps criticising riding if she rode like a numpty in a test but then you should hear what i have to put up with if I roll a pole. :eek:
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Ah, but.........

Tick removal
Lorry stuff (including driving)
Putting in studs
Loading beer in the lorry fridge
Injuries, infections, anything that makes me want to puke

ALL mens' work :D
 
I married a jockey, a tall one not a little one! he dosen't eat much so is easy to keep ;-) but he does get broken a lot!
 
Saucisson said:
Ah, but.........

Tick removal
Lorry stuff (including driving)
Putting in studs
Loading beer in the lorry fridge
Injuries, infections, anything that makes me want to puke

ALL mens' work :D
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Agreed but you also missed
Stacking hay
Injections
Turning out on a sunday morning so OH can have a lie in
Acting as groom at comps
Calling stressage tests
Discussing attitude with welsh dressage pony
Video training sessions
Crash test dummy for youngster
the list just goes on and on and on :p
 
alpha1 said:
I want a tall one that can ride, has a HGV licence and plays rugby...I dont think thats unreasonable :-s hehe!
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I don't think its unreasonable at all!

I ended up with a city boy pen pusher... He has sat on a horse once, complained that mine was bigger than his, then fell off - ironically not his fault bit o' a freak accident as he has a very nice natural seat. He is also slowly learning that I am happiest when my horses and dogs are healthy and happy so I found him clearing the paddock the other day. He only did 2 wheel barrows but that because he refuses to drive anything bigger than a Golf and absolutely will not tow a trailer... He would muck out but is allergic to the straw so he does the water buckets and grooming instead and he does like the boys and girls. We do have objections when the dogs steal the douvet so I gave him his own (which they now lye on anyway!). My word does he winge. Its wet, its cold, its hot, its dusty, it hurts, it smells... the list is endless but you do switch off after a while.

Will it last? I have no idea as he is bit of a "mothers spoilt brat" and at his age thats not a good thing. But he is a good guy, he learnt very quickly about feeding (he is particularly careful with sugar beet), fence building, empting the poo trailer. Still working on the "don't traipse muck all over the living room carpets" but we are working on it. He now has wellies which he refuses to get dirty because he likes them so much so he wears his office shoes instead... Not so good when you are a lawyer. He is learning about fly masks, various rugs... and did start steeping garlic in extra virgin olive oil (I am not nearly as extravigant!) for the old boy. He has yet to fully figure out the head collar but as mine all come to call its no big deal. After spending time "in the wilds" he would now quite like to run a rescue centre when we are older and I have more time to look after more animals (gee thanks hon but as I pay for them I may actually still have to work!!!). He rescued chickens which he loves and we have now extended so he can rescue more.

A farmer would be nicer though as they tend to be easier to get out of bed in the mornings. They understand that 8am is a lye in. And I doubt that they would have to be shown how to rewasher a tap, change a light bulb, reverse a trailer, weed a veggie patch etc etc etc...

Dreams eh.
 
P.S. I was on Kissing Gates (don't as you get all sorts on there) and I was emailing one of the chaps thats on the muddy whatsits one. He is quite funny when you get to know him but I never did get to meet him because all the good looking ones are up north! Why is this?
 
Why would you want a horsey OH?
I like being in a serious minority of male rider with own horses but I enjoy the fact that my wife has no interest in neds at all. She will pat them and feed them carrots but that is it.
Fine by me!
 
I have to admit I'm lucky in this respect. My husband isn't horsey at all but he loves animals and completely understands my obsession with my horse. He does all the shopping so he makes sure I'm always well stocked with carrots, plus he's a carpenter so he cheerfully comes out to the barn to do repairs or renovations (which reminds me, I need to have him put a shelf in my tack box.... ).

I've never had a horsey OH and while I've often wished I did, I've found that just having someone who doesn't make a fuss about it is enough for me. He does love my mare and comes to the barn now and then just to see her and spoil her with treats.

But I'm lucky with him in so many ways - he works full time, yet he does all the shopping, the cleaning, the cooking and the laundry. He does it because he likes to and I don't do anything except get spoiled and play with my horsey. :)
 
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