Where does your horse fit into your life?

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I dont have any children (and have just come out of a relationship) so my horse is quite an important part of my life. I would never not go on a holiday because I would miss her- but I would cancel a holiday if she were ill etc. However I just realised how much she meant to me as I have been told the issue of my back 'could' (but hopefully wont) take a year to sort out. All I can think of right now is the horse- I wont be able to ride/muck out etc if my back needs 'packing' hopefully this wont happen- I will find out tomorrow! fingers crossed guys! Anyway, I am now so worried about her- not me! And never realised how much she meant to me till today. The other issue is if I loose my job because I cant work - how will i afford to keep her. What a horrible end to an already rough year! Are you guys the same? Do you think of your horse first?
 
Jack means the absolute world to me. I avoid going away because i always miss him so much. I put off going home to visit my family because of it but finally dragged myself at the beginning of this month. It resulted in full tears when i had to say "goodbye" to him and many calls to the girl who looks after him on livery and even sending my poor OH up to see him (thankfully, he doesnt mind!)

I dont have children and Im not 100% sure we ever will. (Sad thing is that whenever i do feel broody and my OH asks me honestly if i'd prefer a youngster to a baby... its the horse everytime). He's absolutly treated as a substitute child though.

I worry about him with the tiniest problem or issue and can get myself stressed over silly things related to him.

There was certainly no question mark over him coming with us when we decided to emigrate... it just wasnt up for debate and my OH was never stupid enough to even ask! He just found me a transport company instead
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Over sentimental? Yes, probably! But hes an enormous part of my life.
 
All the time, my life fits into my horse not other way round, bit ridiculous really, they totally consume you, hope things work out ok for you.
 
My life pretty much fits into my horse too, although he has travelled around with me before, I do tend to arrange my life around him, I avoid going on holiday not because I would miss him but because I dont trust anyone else to look after him! I had my first holiday since I got him this year (thats nearly seven years!!)
 
My life pretty much revolves around my animals; dogs and horses.

I think of them when considering doing anything or going anywhere, I havent beenon holiday since getting them all because quite honestly I cant bear to leave them behind. I went away for 2 days and was ringing home to check they were all ok, I worry about them all and like to see them every day.

I sacrifice quite a bit to get them everything I want for them.
 
I don't have a horse yet - it is my ultimate dream though and one day I will. But just wanted to wish you luck for tomorrow. Will keep fingers crossed for you x
 
Much as I love my horse I also have a partner and a job which means I have to be away from home now and again.
Holidays are precious to me - they are quality time for my OH and I to spend together relaxing. My friend looks after my horse when I'm away and I trust her completely. I take my mobile and check for messages every evening in case of problems, but other than that I don't worry about him at all. To be honest I really enjoy the break from horses and doing something different.

I hope you get good news about your back tomorrow.
 
The title of this really grabbed me.
It reminds me of just how much my girl means to me- and how much I miss her.
I admit I am over sentimental with this horse but she was a rescue I didn't think I'd even see walk down the ramp to be honest-she's my everything.
But it's horrible how circumstances can change-
(RANT ALERT)
This time last year my life revolved around my horse- my family had just moved to Wales, I took her with me and ran a livery for a local businessman and I made my life fit around her and the livery,seeing my long term boyfriend at the weekends, it really was lovely- I was busy all day there and got only a tiny wage but had spare moments to just sit and watch her graze..
A year after my mum and her fella broke up and after a really rough time living with a cruel little man with him I felt forced to move out one night.
With no family anywhere near and no friends I'd want to impose on I moved to Birmingham to be with my long term boyfriend- ever since then I've been searching for yards/farms anything. anywhere to keep my little mare but nothing at all-there are loads of them but there's no vacancies within 1hours commute to Birmingham-it really is ridiculous-
I've been to see so many yards all totally unsuitable or outside 5 mile walk from any bus/train or £80pw for DIY livery! I've been promised places by farmers/riding schools, been put on every waiting list and have been dropped in it at the last minute -every bit of bad luck!
My mum's doing a good job of making sure she has what she needs but she's off work doesn't seem the same when I go to see her-
She recognises me and whinnies and gallops over when she spots me and it just breaks my heart to know I can't keep her with me.
It's awful when I do have to go home to Birmingham, I put it off most nights and stay as long as I can.
I cannot drive and am losing my eyesight due to stress,diabetes and epilepsy and glaucoma- all of which have really kicked off in this past year and this limits my options even further.
Selling this horse really isn't an option-I'd do anything to keep her.
It's tearing my relationship apart too as it seems to be horse vs. partner and he's fed up with all the endless searching and ever extending weekends I spend up in Wales with her.

(RANT OVER)

So next time you see your horse, be truly greatful that you're there for each other any take that extra 5 mins watching them settle down for the night,give them a nice scratch and a kiss.

Sorry for the rant but it's really hit a nerve.
 
My horse is extremely important to me for all reasons. I waited 12 years before I could have a horse again and work hard to financially afford him. I don't have children so our animals are very important to me and OH.
I am very emotionally attached to my horse and love him dearly. We have started to go on week long holidays recently and will continue this but I do miss my horse whilst away.
If I lost my job my horse would not suffer as I would ensure we could afford to feed him. I would do whatever work necessary to ensure his quality of life as he has a home with me for life no matter what the circumstances.
 
You are all making me cry!

My boy means the world to me to and is at the top of my list, my family and boyfriend know this and seem happy enough. Like most of you I wanted my own my whole life and work hard and pay hard to keep him and I really have met my horsey soul mate, we argue like a little married couple but within seconds all is forgiven, he just gives me a look and rests his head on my shoulder and gives me great snogs! I love him more then anything, I go on holiday but don't think I could manage more then a week. I was in China last year and only away for 3 days but it was knowing how far away I was that was painful. I have friends and a great yo who look after and love him like he is theirs so I have nothing to worry about at all I just miss him. My boyfriend is even looking at moving nearer between his work and my stables as I wont be able to move in with him as the distance is to much and I wont move my boy from his yard. Glad there are more people as soppy as me out there!
 
I have a horse on loan and i hate to say it but at the moment (i'm in year 13 at school) my schoolwork somes first-if i mess up my A Levels and my chance of going to the uni i want i'd never forgive myself. Elle then comes second but i try to keep an even balance between her and my friends, and i always go on holiday with my family every year so we can spend some decent time together.
 
I love Daisy but its all a bit circular. Money doesn't grow on trees and so if I want to be able to buy somewhere where she can live at home then I need a good job with all the time constraints that brings. At the moment she has to fit in around my life but I'm doing it for her in the long run. 24/7 turnout and all the attention she needs will be worth it
 
Like many others...my horse is top of the list!!! My long-suffering partner understands this luckily...he understood with my other mare and knew it would be the same when I got the mare I have now. He did buy her for me 11 years ago after all!!!
She has never been an easy horse, she has issues (mostly human made) but despite what negative things people have said over the years she is precious to me. I see her nearly every day and the most I can go is 2 days without her.
Now she is totally retired and a lady of leisure all the little, 'normal' things seem even more important - bringing her in from the field, giving her her feed. I've always spied on her(!) and am just happy to watch her or sit with her in her box.
I used to worry about her constantly...when I went on holiday/away with work I would ring every day and often just spend hours thinking what was happening with her. I havent been away for a few years now and am in a different job which was a choice and one reason was so I could be with her more but I would be happy to go away (apart from actually missing her) as she is stabled at the most fabulous yard I have ever been at. It is inbetween where I work and live. I just wished I had found this yard years ago. It would have saved me many, many stressful, worrying hours!
I cant have children and have a condition which is going to end up with loss of sight in at least one eye but I wouldnt be any different about her anyway.
We've had problems, we've had injuries, we've had set-backs but we've always had each other...she is my most gorgeous girl.
 
Second to top, beaten only by dogs. I don't have holidays, or a partner (not any more), and while I could go a day or so without seeing horses (thanks to my best friend who is my YO), I couldn't leave my dogs at all.
 
My boy is on full livery. I ride as much as possible, however as much as i love him for me it a hobby and other aspects of life come first.
 
I make sure that all his needs are met and that he gets plenty of attention. he gets ridden 5 - 6 times a week. However i do balance being a horse owner with the rest of my life eg work, family, socialising etc esp as the rest of the family are not horsey.
 
good luck for your back.

my horse is my absolute WORLD, she's the reason i work my arse off for 10 hours a day 5 days a week!! I got a puppy 2 months ago and now the pair of them share my heart equally its like having kids!!!

i miss her when im holiday (only one week a year really) but only as a fleeting thought i don't get too emotional or anything!!!
 
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