where has my confidence gone?

hamish1

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The past two times Ive riden whenever the horse has played up a little or gone a bit faster than Id planned, ive felt a bit nervous, usually it wouldnt bother me- id stay calm and deal with it but ive felt tence whenever anything dosn't go quite right. I dont understand why Im feeling like this, im usually quite confident with sharp horses and nothing bad has actually happend-havnt had a fall or anything just feeling tence :confused: Has anyone else felt like this before? thanks for any advice in advance x
 
Hi Hamish1, I still get like that with my horse every now and then, I put it down to being older and a bit more self aware! What I have done is get some good instruction with him, I go out with a good friend and remember how far we have come. Not sure if that helps or not but maybe get someone with you/instructing while riding? Oh and dont beat yourself up about it :)
 
Sometimes things that are nothing to do with riding can affect your confidence in the saddle, a bad day at work or a near miss in the car.
 
thanks janei, Yeah hopefully its just a couple of off days and hopefully when I ride tomorow I'll be able to relax-ive gota lesson tomrow so il see how it goes :)
 
hamish i feel like this alot.

Whenever someone mentions getting on a horse im overcome with nerves, which is annoying because i used to be very good, and although i would adore to start riding again it always makes me turn down the offer.

last time i did bite the bullet and ride, i improved really fast and if it wasnt for me leaving the job i would have been back to normal, but the thought of looking like an idiot makes me nervous, and being nervous makes me look like an idiot!
 
hamish are you overthinking it?

like predicting whats going to happen, and running it in your mind until you tense up?

sometimes you do it without thinking, subconsiously kind of, and it affects all the little niggles you have and makes them bigger and bigger until you feel they are something to worry about?
 
i think thats what it is newtothis! But ive not done that before...brains are strange things haha. think i just need to chill out thanks for advice :)
 
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