Whos in the wrong/right? What to do?

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Hi, i asked to borrow some hay about 2 months ago, off a girl and her dad that is on the same yard as us, (she is 12). She gave me some and so i said id give her the money for letting us borrow it, and she said no, that she didnt want the money as im helping her with her 3yr old. I have used quite a bit of petrol on her by taking her places when her parents couldnt etc.
Last 2 weeks, she hasnt been talking to us, then last night she said ' Oh that hay that you borrowed ages ago, i want the money back for it'

Now is she just being a kiddy 12yr old, or what? Surely she could have told me when i borrowed it?

What do you think?
 
Why don't you just remind her of the conversation, or better still, speak with her dad. If they are funny with you about it, then just pay for what you have used and don't offer any more help with horse. Also, don't be ferrying her around the countryside.
I think you will find she is just at that hormonal age. I bet her dad will tell her to get a grip. He must appreciate how helpful you have been to her.
 
we see her dad everyday, and he hasnt even mentioned anything about any money. I must have spent about £40 of petrol on her in the past 2 months, taking her here, there and everywhere.
 
I wonder does she want the money for something and therefore asking you?
I would say to the dad x said to me about the hay money, here it is. Then you are letting him know she asked you and giving him the money, paying is the right thing to do anyway
 
But can you see the conundrum here, you are not expecting to pay them for something yet totting up what they owe you. I would pay them for the hay, and ask for petrol money for any future trips .
 
I would also do what flowerlady said
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i would give the money to the father and say that daughter was asking for it.

wouldnt replace it with hay. would it put you in a worse situation as well if you asked for money for petrol if it wasnt discussed before hand?
 
I would pay her the money, but remind her that she said not to bother...... I would also stop ferrying her around. That should give her something to think about.

I dont think money for taking her places would be a good idea as it invalidates your insurance and could make you open to her telling someone you do it.
, and they could report you for making a profit out of transporting. Stupid I know!!!
 
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Pay te Father the hay money - pref when they are ther together, and just be unavailable for transport-
If you are taking her and her pony, tell them that it could invalidate your insuranceand the new transport laws mean there will be a lot fo checks ups.
 
Im not helping her now, as she wont talk to us! Anyway, ill probably see her dad tomoro, and i will have a word with him, see what he says. I cant really give them the money Yet, as in 1 of my other posts ive lost my job
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But iwillsay to him,i can give it you when i have got it,i cant do anything else
 
have you said anything to upset her because it sounds more then a piece of hay shes upset about may you should talk it through with her to find out
 
Ive said nothing to upset her. Just that her and another girl tell me things about each other that i havent said anything about but both of them have told each other that ive said stuff about them!!! Which i havent said anything, from what i have over heard, theyve both twisted things around and made me out to be the bad buggar!! I tried talking to them both, but she just walked away calling me all names under sun, shes 12, and im 18!
 
in that case charge her for the petrol and other stuff that u have done and let them get on with it its being childish and you havnt done anything wrong you do get people like that on yards that why i dont bother with them im only on seperate grazing trust me when she wants something she come running and you now what to say
 
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