Why are people jealous?

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I am getting a new pony soon, hopefully something with some scope that i can have fun on.

All my friends at the yard have been so nasty to me, saying why do I bother and its a waste of time - saying I'll have no-one to hack out with anyway etc etc

Do you think its a waste of time or are they just being jealous?!
 
People are jealous because its human nature. I am hugely jealous when i read some of the posts on here, of people with super horses, nice lorries, serious riding talent, etc etc. However, I don't waste my time bitching at people who've got these things, just direct my energies into getting to a place where I can have these things for myself (except the talent, obviously, which is just NEVER going to happen!).

These people who are being nasty to you are jealous and they are NOT your friends. Real friends would be happy for you. Why are they jealous of you? Presumably if they are at the yard, they also have ponies themselves, so why should they be jealous of someone getting a pony?
 
Dont worry, people are always like that, it is true horsey people can be bitchy but just rise above it! I had it all through PC but who cares i still have my gorgeous boy that everyone was jealous of and said he was too big, too strong bla bla bla and they are all wrong! I ahve had and still do have, the best time with him x x x
 
They want me to keep the one I've got, she's lovely but I don't see anything wrong in getting a new pony really!

They are trying to say because I want a really good pony that I wont have anyone to ride with because they have normal ponies, BUT Im not a snob Im not going to wrap my pony up in cotton wool it'll be a normal pony just one that has competition scope!
 
Go for it! It sounds like you have got your head screwed on and if you are lucky enough to be in a position to change for pony then why not! I am sure if your so called friends were really honest they would love to be in your shoes! Maybe try and find other people to hack out with so they can see what they're missing.
 
Jealousy stems from insecurity. They obviously want new horses themselves, and direct that at you. Ditch them, they aren't good friends. A good friend would be happy for you.
 
I don't see why having a really good pony would stop anyone normal wanting to ride with you! I don't mind who I hack out with or whether their horses are better than mine or not.

Whatever, it's their problem, not yours. Sounds like they need to grow up a bit. You just enjoy your fab new pony!
 
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It makes me really sad, I never thought my best friends would be like this!

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trust me Hon, they are not your best friends
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, and you go get a new pony and screw them, they will soon start hanging around, sucking up to you, trying to get a ride on your shiney new pony
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They aren't really true "friends" then are they?? Go right ahead & get your pony & enjoy. I have discovered over the years that unfortunately many people are bitter & twisted & jealous if anything nice happens to others. One of the nicest people I know is soooooo lucky, her parents are in the enviable position to have bought a house so she can have her own yard, 4 super dooper sj's & a to die for lorry followed, not to mention a Martin Collins arena, is she stuck up & horrid?? no, absolutely not. I am welcome anytime to use her school for free, her mum insists on making me lunch/drinks/cakes etc, do I have a sooper dooper sj?? nope, two much loved ponies, but she is always encouraging & pleased when we do well, 70/80cm must seem tiny to her out at 1.30m, but she NEVER EVER passes a horrible comment, people could learn alot from her!!
 
I had major problems in the past with jealousy... the thing is not to let it get to you, because you end up feeling insecure. I have no self confidence when comepting as a result and always worry what people are saying about me! All because I feel I have to play my abilities down to make people feel less jealous and because of the bitchy comments of others. It's always been a part of riding and livery yards because your horse is an extension of yourself. Don't let it get you down, ahve fun with your new ponio!
 
I'm going to play devil's advocate here and wonder if perhaps you have talked about getting a new scopey competition pony in a way that makes your friends feel a bit inferior?

I'm sure you would never do this intentionally (you seem very nice), but perhaps in your (perfectly understandable) enthusiasm over getting a 'better' pony, you might have alienated them a bit, made them feel that you will be in a different league from them with their 'ordinary' ponies?

I am really NOT saying you have been sounding snobby or superior or anything! But sometimes just bubbling with enthusiasm can SEEM like 'boasting', even when it isn't intended that way at all!

OK, they should still just be pleased for you, etc.,and they should certainly not be nasty to you, but they are only human. Maybe you could give them the benefit of the doubt here and try to smooth things over? Say lots of nice things about their ponies, so they don't feel you will be looking down on them when you get your new pony...?

Just a thought, and I could be totally wrong!
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Echo what Htobago says, and is it possible that they are a bit sad that your other pony will be sold..... or are you keeping it as well???

Other people get attached to ponies that are not their own too
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