Why are the majority of top male dressage riders gay?

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Just a query really - I know sexuality should make no difference and is really none of our business but....

Is it because they have feminine sensitivity with the strength to hold the horse together??

Is it because you need a certain mentality to keep going round in circles without the 'adrenaline junkie trying to kill yourself jumping' element?

Or is it merely a front so they don't have to keep battling off the mad old lecherous dressage ladies??
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This is nothing to do with the CH post, I was merrily drooling over Edward Gal and turned from oggling to googling and found he was gay
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Or is it merely a front so they don't have to keep battling off the mad old lecherous dressage ladies??
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This is nothing to do with the CH post, I was merrily drooling over Edward Gal and turned from oggling to googling and found he was gay
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PMSL!!!!!!!!!!!! I remember when I found out Carl Hester was gay!!!!!!!!!!!! I was very
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I don't think it matters one way or the other but there are a LOT of gay men in all disciplines. My dressage trainer is gay, it's never bothered me, in fact it makes life a lot easier.
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I have often wondered what it is about horses and men being gay but there, I guess you'd have to ask them!
 

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How funny that this post is on here today....................
Only last night, my non-horsey other half stated that all male horseriders are gay.
I told him he was talking cr@p, then had a think, and had to backpeddle and agree with him that most top male dressage riders are gay. I don't understand why, but what I would like to know is why they are all so TOTALLY GORGEOUS ! ! ! !
 

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I completely agree with this post. My dressage trainer (who is female!) an I were discussing it the other day and couldn't think of any top male dressage riders who weren't gay. Even the ones that I thought were straight turned out not to be.
 

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I don't know but I do think Gay riders take the time to understand the 'pysche' of a horse and I often wish I'd sent my youngster to a gay rider to begin his education because he is a very sensitive soul and I'm sure would have fared better with someone more in tune to his needs.
 

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My husband has been learning to ride in my dressage saddle and he said that they must have smaller tickle tackle than a hetrosexual man because he has been in absolute agony!!!
 

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I think its because their bits get squished!

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PMSL Jetset...'tickle tackle' hilarious!!!!!

I've thought about this before....although my trainers dressage trainer is a top German guy (i can never remember his name so don't ask me), who has ridden at top level over there and here, is married and very much not gay. Perhaps he's the exception that proves the rule
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Obviously it doesn't matter at all either way but an interesting conversation
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Many aren't, and defending the male here i'd say its just chance. I suppose many riders who love horses have that 'softer' side to them, so maybe why dressage riders are gay?

All I know is that i'm totally straight and it has nothing to do with 'tickle tackle'!
 

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We have a male instructor that comes to our yard, and yes he's gay, but we're very cruel and haven't told the 2 teenage girls who hang around to watch him!
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We have a male instructor that comes to our yard, and yes he's gay, but we're very cruel and haven't told the 2 teenage girls who hang around to watch him!
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Well, according to my trainer (who is 'mature', wise, German, and straight as a die!) it is because gay men are less macho, less testosterone-driven, more sensitive and patient with the horse... more like a lot of women, I guess.
So, I guess it's more "gay guys can maybe get a better tune out of a difficult horse because they're less confrontational" - which makes me think that the straight ones must be REALLY exceptional riders!
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And alot of dressage is about presentation and gossiping with connections, which many heterosexual men (or the ones I know) cannot be bothered with - my OH often jokes about whether it would help him if he turned!
 

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just had a thought - most top male eventers are straight, as are showjumpers.

But in dressage the majority of top male riders are gay...

anyone spot something?
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and how strange that most showjumpers at top level (as far as i know) are not gay?!! my gay dressage trainer refused to come to a showjumping dinner for that very reason
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My OH is convinced that all men who ride are either gay or fat and old (it doesn't help when he sees people like Geoff Billington on the TV!
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just had a thought - most top male eventers are straight, as are showjumpers.

But in dressage the majority of top male riders are gay...

anyone spot something?
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agh! you beat me by a minute!
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I completely agree with this post. My dressage trainer (who is female!) an I were discussing it the other day and couldn't think of any top male dressage riders who weren't gay. Even the ones that I thought were straight turned out not to be.

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Er - Richard Davison - married - not gay!
 

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Really don't see how/why the sexuality of anyone makes any difference? Honestly?

At least in dressage people are open enough to feel comfortable being out of the closet. Perhaps that is what makes the difference?
 

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I'm certainly not going to complain - if any one of them wants to come n find me, they're more than welcome!!!
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At college I had three close male friends. One was gay and is aspiring to be a dressage rider, riding for some very influential riders, and the other two... one wants to showjump and one is an eventer! lol! So it isn't just the case at the top!

However, my lecturer was gay and he events at four star.
 

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Hahahahahahahhah. This brightened up my Sunday morning. Interesting subject, but who cares really. I like gay men, always have. Mini TX's sj instructor, who is actually a 4* event rider is as camp as hell. His boyfriend who is also an event rider is even camper, so it just goes to prove its not just dressage riders!

Mimd you when I found out CH was gay I wept - what a waste of a man.
 

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Bizarre thread resurrected from the vaults!! :D

I'm sorry, was there a point at which anyone DIDN'T know Carl was gay?

And as above meh. There's really only one situation in which it matters. :)
 

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Yes, quite surprised to see this old one resurrected.
I fail to see why it is anyone else's business, ever. (Unless of course it happens to be the person you fancy the pants off and then discover is gay... really must get my gaydar attuned.)
 
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