Why do horsey women have children? Discuss!

Dogstar

Dogstar

Well-Known Member
Joined
7 August 2005
Messages
1,337
Location
Devon
Visit site
My friend and I have pondered this one! We think maybe that 'normal' people have children because they have a gap in their lives and it is something to tick off their 'life tick list', but why do horsey women - who presumably have busy, fulfilled lives - have them?? Ideas invited! I can't ask my friends as they might take it the wrong way!
 
All of my horsey friends have no children. Im 38 now and have never had the desire to have any but have often wondered if I hadnt had horses and been so busy, would I have had children.
 
To prove our ability to manage extreme multitasking. Muck out / feed baby/ coax baby to sleep / ride/ ad infenitum.
 
Based along those lines.... I'm 26, I have been with the OH for 8 yeras. I have two horses, a 16 year old and 18 month old! I just can't seem to see an appropriate time to have children! They take up so much time and care, my horses would have to take a back seat! I am most definitely NOT ready for that just yet lol! I am farrrrrr toooooo selfish on that score.... much to the dismay of relatives lol xxx
grin.gif
 
Yes, hmk101, I'm still not sure how I manage it!! Work full time (shifts), 3 horses (2 of which are foals so only 1 in work!) 2 x 3 year old twin boys (who seem to have some of the horsey gene! They love riding my 15.2 riding mare!!) oh and a husband!!!

For me I never wanted children until I was about 21 (around when I met my husband) after that it was just one of those things we both knew we wanted together. Twins weren't exactly considered!!! But l wouldn't change them for the world!!!
 
I'm 38 and the chronological order is:

Tom (child)
Bob (horse)
Anya (child)

In the case of both children it was definitely a biological thing. I never wanted children then I suddenly wanted a baby,
shocked.gif
along came Tom. Bought Bob as I was never, ever having any more children then suddenly I wanted a baby!!!
shocked.gif


Both of them love being at the farm and fussing all the ponios.
grin.gif
 
[ QUOTE ]
Based along those lines.... I'm 26, I have been with the OH for 8 yeras. I have two horses, a 16 year old and 18 month old! I just can't seem to see an appropriate time to have children! They take up so much time and care, my horses would have to take a back seat! I am most definitely NOT ready for that just yet lol! I am farrrrrr toooooo selfish on that score.... much to the dismay of relatives lol xxx
grin.gif


[/ QUOTE ]

Ditto
smile.gif
 
Not an answer to the question but most of my general friends or yard friends (who are all in their 30s or 40s, either married or in permanent relationships) do not have children. So is it the horses fill the gap or do we not feel the need to have children as we have horses. Discuss further! I must admit in my 20s I lost touch with my school friends who were having children as I found we had very little in common (they talk child/I talk horse though that said I worked in a non horse professional office environment so had plenty of non horse talk aswell).
 
LOL Kareef
and:
someone able to run round and fetch things.
someone who is small enough and bouncy enough to ride ponies.
someone who smell worse than you so when in tesco you just smile and point to the small sh1t covered child.
someone to take your side in the 'horses cost too much' argument.

The list is endless so many plus points!
Oh, and lets not forget my fave-how cute are they to dress up in show gear/ pink pony stuff/ tiny jods! I have a pink groomimg kit....cus Bubs likes it!
 
Why would'nt we have children. lots of people who don't have gaps in their lives have kids. There are plenty of reasons to want a family. Horses are either pets/hobbies or work related not the be all and end all to everyones lives. Most parrents juggle work, hobbies and children.
confused.gif
 
Well I did not buy a horse until I had been married for 25 years
smile.gif


By then my lovely boys were fairly grown up and the end of the school fees was in sight.

I know lots of women who rode as kids and returned once the children were grown up - you can recognise some of us we grip with our knees and have old fashioned hunting seats.
cool.gif
..we don't buy horses that dump us as we have learned 'fear of falling' and don't bounce any more
wink.gif


Our husbands suddenly find we no longer cook four course meals for dinner parties and going on holiday is a NO NO who could be trusted to look after the new love of our life
confused.gif
 
I dont have my own horses any more. My daughter has a pony and there is nothing better that seeing her doing well and teaching her things that i used to do. That for me is so much better than doing it myself. I am just so proud of her and pony every time they do something well, although as i taught both pony and kid from scratch maybe thats why.
 
I've done the rocking cradle thingy, mucking out and tack cleaning all at once - and it wasn't even my child!
Didn't put me off - 2 years later it was my own child. Remember vividly schooling Meg (horse!!) , stopping to deal with wailing child, then continuing schooling. A pram makes a good 'center of your circle'! Just thought i'd repeat the process once more 2 year later again. Crazy?? No - us women can multi task with our eyes closed standing on our heads!!!!

Adding another point - NO MOE KIDS now. lol
 
Lauracross83 im sorry i read that as you had a 16 year old child!!!! i thought that was impressive if you had 1 when you were 10!!!! then i realised it was your horses !!!!! im sorry!!!!!
 
I have a 6 year old girl, a horse and a pony for said child! She is actually very helpful around the yard, a cracking little rider and manages to do lots of jobs to help out.....today she brought 12 horses in from the fields(one by one of course) from my 16.1h warmblood, to a 6 month old haflinger foal. My Milly puts her head almost on the ground so she can reach to put her head collar on bless her.
Its bloody hard work and a pain sometimes when you want to go for a good old long hack and can't get a babysitter but i think i have the best of both worlds
smile.gif
 
43 have had horses most my life on and off seems empty without them. They keep me sane and believe it or not I chat away to them!

As for kids its not easy as both of my kids are non-horsey kids but have a list of activities they like to do in between and after school. My horses were foals when the kids were young so they have grown up with them my first mare was born 4 days after my son! he is now 7 and two years later I bought my 2nd foal my lovely Lulu (who my son named!) who is now 4.

Needless to say there's not a lot bothers the horses they are fairly bombproof! My latest addition Ru my foal born this year loves playing with them. I would not be without either. Well today anyway it could change tomorrow what with half term and not getting to ride!

2 kids, 2 cats, 2 horses and a foal
1 husband (kid status)
Work
 
Errmmm......nobody told me it had to be 'either/or'
confused.gif


Sorry, how selfish of me to want a family AND horses.

Thats like saying why do people who have a dog/cat also have children?

(Plus...you can train them up to empty wheelbarrows and poo-pick.
grin.gif
)

PS I also have a career (not a job) and earn three times my OH's salary......is this allowed or have I breached some 1940's law that says women can't have whatever they want?

PPS...I would consider myself 'normal' also...whatever that may be....I have 2 eyebrows and don't play the banjo...

I'm off to burn my bra.....
 
Unless you put it rather more delicatly they will
crazy.gif

Do you really think the a child is just a toy to fill a gap?
blush.gif


Horses are a part of my life,but not all of it.
My child is a part of my life,but not all of it.
My other pets and hobbies are part of my life...you get the picture right?
wink.gif
 
[ QUOTE ]
Why would'nt we have children. lots of people who don't have gaps in their lives have kids. There are plenty of reasons to want a family. Horses are either pets/hobbies or work related not the be all and end all to everyones lives. Most parrents juggle work, hobbies and children.
confused.gif


[/ QUOTE ]

Agree with this and would add - life isn't a tick list and my children were born from love.
A
 
Exactly.

And how rude to say people only have children who have a gap in their lives.

Me and my OH are planning a family. We love each other very much, we are soon to be in a stable environment to raise a child, we are both very intelligent, with academic (him) and practical (me) genes. I can't wait to give someone else the chances I didn't have - and whoever has my OH as a father will be a very lucky person.

We are having children because we want to help influence someone into being a positive influence themselves on the world. But if they don't - that's ok, because they will be loved anyway.

I certainly don't feel like there is a gap in my life. I have horses, university, career. A child isn't a chore - it is something special
 
LMAOOOOOOOOOOO! Now that would be impressive!
smirk.gif


I think I will be an older mum when I have them! Hopefully by then my bay will be retired, and my youngster will not be so young or dangerous! Perhaps in 10 years I will be ready... but now.... stuff that!!! I'm still a big kid myself!! lol xxx
grin.gif
 
Actually...after a glass of wine this post has me fairly narked now.

I love my OH...we had children because we wanted to...there was no gap we felt we had to fill with children, we had them because we wanted to and we love them very much.

I had horses before I met OH.....we just happen to be a family with kids, horses, dogs, jobs.

Thats why horsey women have children.....for exactly the same reasons as non-horsey women.
 
women have children because they want them (usually), it has absolutely nothing to do with being horsey imho. most of my horsey friends have children, but some don't.
i don't, but it isn't because i'm horsey, it's because i've never felt ready for it, and it's prob too late now anyway, but the fact that i'm not bothered is prob proof that i shouldn't have had them anyway!
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Top