Why do horsey women have children? Discuss!

I only had one child, i will not have another (IT HURT)
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Children and ponies... brilliant! I definately would like children in the future, it can't be either/or, thats just ridiculous!
The Pony Club would be non-existant... :P

I am also off to burn my bra!
 
Some great posts, love the v. useful cute kid with the shavings fork! Didn't want to upset anyone - the 'kids are for filling a gap' was just a hypothesis!!!As someone who doesn't 'get' the kid thing it just genuinely interests me as to why people have them, especially as I approach 40 and still dont want them- though it looks like they have their uses :-)
 
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Some great posts, love the v. useful cute kid with the shavings fork! Didn't want to upset anyone - the 'kids are for filling a gap' was just a hypothesis!!!

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Ahh,fair enough.Need carefull how you word things on a forum
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As someone who doesn't 'get' the kid thing it just genuinely interests me as to why people have them, especially as I approach 40 and still dont want them- though it looks like they have their uses :-)

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I diddnt get children,had no intrest in my little brother until he was at school and interisting(12 year gap),had a bf with children which was fine as long as I never had to see them....then I met my husband and my opinions of children with him changed.
Still dont get babies,they are boring. And I cant take any intrest in random children ,but my son,my family/friends children are important to me.

Eak nonsense ramble....too many lemsips again it seems
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Having a child(and there will NOT be any more
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I never wanted children until one day I woke and and did! Never analysed it or thought of how it would affect my horsey life.

Its no good trying to explain to anybody who has not got kids how they turn your life upside down, break your heart, give you the best feeling ever when they say I love you mum or the worse feeling ever when you turn your back and they have wandered off!

Its like being on an emotional rollercoaster, kids are definitely not for the faint hearted and most horsey women are generally built of sterner stuff thats how they cope
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Why wouldn't we have children. lots of people who don't have gaps in their lives have kids. There are plenty of reasons to want a family. Horses are either pets/hobbies or work related not the be all and end all to everyone's lives. Most parents juggle work, hobbies and children.
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Agree with this and would add - life isn't a tick list and my children were born from love.
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agree with ^^^^^^^^

I am 31 in december and have an 11 year old and 3(4 in november) year old. I was in horses when i met my partner when i was 17 and sitll in horses with a 16.2 polish warm blood(who i will be competing next spring) a cob that is a happy hacker and 2 yearling shetland fillys.

Yes the kids are very hard work and do my head in but i would not be with out them nor my horses.
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I am planning on doing my bhs exams next year and i am looking forward to it.
 
I got to about 38 when I thought that had better chose whether I wanted horses or kids. I could only choose one or the other because there is no way I could afford both!
As an infant teacher, I have had enough of kids by 3.30pm so I love coming home to my horse. There is no way I could give him up!
If money was no object and I didn't have to go to work I would have liked kids but there is no way I would have the time or money to enjoy both!
 
cant understand why you cant have both as i do .love them all 3 horses 2 children and even though they are all time consuming it to me is totally different and fulfills me in different ways.cant imagine life without children or my horses.
 
Another one here for the "never has wanted children and doesn't like babies" list. I don't think that has anything to do with being horsey, though! Oddly enough, I seem to be pretty good with other people's kids---possibly because I'm a) a big clown myself, and b) tend to treat them like adults, because I well remember hating being patronised myself as a kid. But kids of my own? Apart from not being fond of them, I'm single and have a very demanding career that has me working all sorts of odd hours. The Spooky Pony can cope with my wacky schedule, but I don't think children could.
 
I have a son who is 4. I wanted a child young, i know lots of older people that regretted having children so late and i only want one! I am one of 4! I don't understand why someone would think that someone is horsey would not want children. Horses are a hobby as is tennis, running, etc. I have 2 yearlings and of course a little pony for him. There is nothing better out there than a 4 year old boy and perhaps a few friends to get the baby horses used to things! Everyone comments on how quiet they are for yearlings and they just love my son or any other little people. Think all small things 'talk' the same language. My son makes me smile and laugh out loud every single day. He surprises me with things, does special things for me, etc. I don't particularly like 'other' children that much but i bet you would feel the same about your own child!
 
Oh and i forgot to say i am a big kid myself so now i've got someone to mess around with! My son thinks Mummy and Daddy are the greatest!
 
My other concern is that I get SOOO upset when my horses are ill (crying/not sleeping) that I can't begin to imagine how awful it would be to have an ill child. I really couldn't be doing with the worry! Anyway I have a 100 year old Granny to look after and that's quite enough stress
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My other concern is that I get SOOO upset when my horses are ill (crying/not sleeping) that I can't begin to imagine how awful it would be to have an ill child. I really couldn't be doing with the worry! Anyway I have a 100 year old Granny to look after and that's quite enough stress
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I second that! My 6 year old niece was curled up on the sofa really ill with the flu, I hated seeing her like that, wished it was me not her! xx
 
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I can't ask my friends as they might take it the wrong way!

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Surely not, how could anyone take being told that they don't have busy fulfilled lives because they don't have horses the wrong way
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Perhaps horsey women have children for the same reason 'normal' women do - because they want to have children.
 
I've never understood why anyone wanted children - they are expensive, time consuming and stop you doing what you want when you want in my view. Logically, I just don't understand it. My friends who have children say the fact that I think there is some logic to it is the reason why I'm never going to get it.
I guess its just something most people feel is right for them - I've just never been interested.

Anyway, I couldn't afford a horse and a child and I'd much rather have a horse
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I've never understood why anyone wanted children - they are expensive, time consuming and stop you doing what you want when you want in my view.

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LOL, sometimes you don't have a choice.
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Mine was an "accident" I wasn't into kids either but my son just kind of came along and here we are! Horses, a kid and a dog!
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Hear, hear! Funnily enough, I have never ruled out fostering an older child if ever I had that notorious 'gap in my life!!!' but I just wouldn't want to 'breed my own'- the whole baby/pregnancy thing disgusts me (sorry!
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Hope to have a family very soon but will be not be giving up the horses! I accept that for some time things will be all over the place and the horses will be roughed off for a little while but I am gonna have to make it work as I can not imagine life without either of them.
 
I admire those who do manage to juggle work, kids horses etc but it is also refreshing to see that i'm not alone in not wanting any children! I have been of this opinion prior to getting my horses and despite other people who think they know better, i will not change my mind. Now that I have 2 horses i couldnt imagine having to share my time with them in any way shape or form.
Interestingly when my friend was buying a new horse we came across several people who were selling their horses due to getting married or having children. Guess some people can manage both, others make the choice. My choice will always be my neds.
 
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I've never understood why anyone wanted children - they are expensive, time consuming and stop you doing what you want when you want in my view.

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LOL, sometimes you don't have a choice.
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Mine was an "accident" I wasn't into kids either but my son just kind of came along and here we are! Horses, a kid and a dog!
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I'm now rapidly approaching the age where it would take a miracle rather than an accident
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1) by accident...unplanned (tick)
2) pressure from hubby/partner
3) because they think they should
4) its a really good excuse to play with ponies again (tick)
5) why shouldn't they!!
6) peeps dont generally have kids as they have gap in their lives!!! - bit shortsighted that one lol
 
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Lauracross83 im sorry i read that as you had a 16 year old child!!!! i thought that was impressive if you had 1 when you were 10!!!! then i realised it was your horses !!!!! im sorry!!!!!

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I read that the same as you did
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why do you assume people need a "gap" in their life to want children??

I am the most unmaternal mother you will ever meet!! I adore my daughter however, wouldnt be without her, dont particularly like kids, but still have one of my own.

I had no gap, in fact to the contrary, I am busy as hell we have 5 horses in 3 different locations, I work full time, 2 dogs, 6 guinea pigs, a partner to consider, a mother who needs me more as she is getting older.....where was my gap then?? lol

Kids are hard work and not for the faint hearted but on the plus side, "its all your own work"!!

And yes the whole pregnancy thing disgusted me too......but then you grow up......and its very different once you are pregnant...trust me!
 
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