Mike007
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Join the ponyclub and have a go at Tetrathlon.Its running shooting riding and swimming .Not exactly a sissy sport (Not that being gay makes someone a sissy either)
Why do people at school think that I'm "gay" because I ride?
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turnbuckle
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Just chill! As a bloke who does horses, you are on a serious winner when it comes to picking up chicks. Give it a year or two and they will be green with envy.......
In the meantime point out that riding is possibly THE most dangerous sport. Google away and find some stats...
In the meantime point out that riding is possibly THE most dangerous sport. Google away and find some stats...
outinthefens88
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Probably not much help, but as a 26 year old male rider, I am now quite used to friends having a coughing attack and or choking on their beer when they find out I am involved with horses.
Bit different as I no longer mind/care what anyone else thinks. I have in a way 'carved my own path in life', the horse world is a relatively new (2 year old) addition to what I do - I have done many and various jobs through my working career - having left school at 16, I have already been involved in the motor trade as a mechanic, delivered and installed office furniture, delivered parcels multidropping, worked in pubs, and done several other often unpleasant and downright naff jobs as well - out of all of the above I have now built my own business up through the worst recession in years...
If I had a pound for everytime someone, somewhere had 'taken the p###' out of something that I had done/was doing I would be a lot richer than I am now.
If you enjoy it, do it and damn the doubters (cos half of them wouldn't have the guts to do it anyway!) - don't 'be a sheep' and conform to what others 'think you should do'.....
Sure there's some sense in some of the above somewhere!
Bit different as I no longer mind/care what anyone else thinks. I have in a way 'carved my own path in life', the horse world is a relatively new (2 year old) addition to what I do - I have done many and various jobs through my working career - having left school at 16, I have already been involved in the motor trade as a mechanic, delivered and installed office furniture, delivered parcels multidropping, worked in pubs, and done several other often unpleasant and downright naff jobs as well - out of all of the above I have now built my own business up through the worst recession in years...
If I had a pound for everytime someone, somewhere had 'taken the p###' out of something that I had done/was doing I would be a lot richer than I am now.
If you enjoy it, do it and damn the doubters (cos half of them wouldn't have the guts to do it anyway!) - don't 'be a sheep' and conform to what others 'think you should do'.....
Sure there's some sense in some of the above somewhere!
soapy
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Just a little aside.. I had the same thing with men's breeches. They either weren't stretchy enough or too baggy. Then I found these men's breeches and they're brilliant:
http://www.wholehorse.co.uk/acatalog/Shires-Mens-Rochester-Performance-Breeches-8791.html
They have back pockets that make them look more manly apparently (!!) but either way. They are really comfortable, affordable and supportive if you know what I mean!
Here my aside endeth!
soapy
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This is so sad. I can imagine being influenced like that as a kid, but following the crowd and bowing to pressure is always a mistake. I reckon he'll find horses again in a few years (at least lets hope).
It's funny how different cultures work. I remember riding in rural Ireland years ago whilst on holiday. At the yard there were lots of really cheeky lads, all were rascals clad in jods and breeches, striding about without a care in the world with girls fawning after them. Everyone, of course, was united by the horses and the boys and girls respected each other for their various achievements. There was a really happy atmosphere that I remember to this day. That's how it should be, and CAN BE, if you ignore the silly non-rider outsiders!
Kat
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Thanks for the link soapy, I will pass that on to my OH who also hates those pleat fronted men's breeches. As a cyclist he thinks jodhs are fairly modest compared to cycling tights so he can't see why you would go for a less stretchy baggy pair of breeches!
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Shantara
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If he is not a manly man, I don't know who is!!
People look instantly better on a horse, I think they're just jealous that they'll never look that awesome!
People look instantly better on a horse, I think they're just jealous that they'll never look that awesome!
HighFive
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Have these boys worked out the boy/girl ratio whent it comes to riding? I think it's an incredibly favorable past time for boys, hanging out with many girls prancing around in tight pants 
I know it's hard as a young person to be laughed at, but they really sound very ignorant!
I know it's hard as a young person to be laughed at, but they really sound very ignorant!roz84
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What a shame!
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Wow seriously guys all these kind words, stories and comments all mean ALOT when I go back on Tuesday I don't think it'll even bother me haha thanks!
thanks!
Peregrine Falcon
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If he is not a manly man, I don't know who is!!
People look instantly better on a horse, I think they're just jealous that they'll never look that awesome!
Drools.
My son is 7 and he rides, I wonder what will face him in years to come but we are lucky where we live. Most people ride here and he can get involved with pony drifting etc...
Rise above the idiots, not worth bothering about.
Illusion100
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I've just realised that if riding horses make a person gay, I must be a lesbian...... *goes to break devastating news to husband*
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Shantara
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Wow seriously guys all these kind words, stories and comments all mean ALOT when I go back on Tuesday I don't think it'll even bother me haha
Yay! Well done you
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Yay! Well done you
I will do the horsey community is so kind and welcoming, thank you!!
wiltshireguy
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Ask them why they're always hanging around with other boys!
aintgotnohay
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my ex a 58 year old slim built person came into a lot of money a fair few years ago.i was into just driving shetlands at the time.he suddenly became very horsey!!! one day he appeared on my livery yard doning a pair of tight breeches and a riding hat.bearing in mind this place was quite posh well the full livery part was.i was down the bottom end on diy!.i was totally shocked by the arrival of a horse lorry with a horse on it that he had bought.he couldnt even ride or even put a headcollar on a horse.well this sudden sight of this bow legged man who had legs like steptoe in tight breeches and a pigeon chest caused a great deal of humilation to me!!! off the ramp came this great big 15.2 cob he had bought to learn to ride on.well it was supposed to be a surprise and a surprise it was.well the horse was on full livery.he then proceeded to be horsey for about 6 months till he dumped this horse on me and then he went back to playing guitars.but in all that time it was great entertainment watching him learn to ride and look the part on this big napping cob.all the ladies would gather round the school to watch this novice in his gear.i on the other hand couldnt face it lol.
beth21
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Whist there may be a few muppets at your school making immature remarks, there are most definitely A LOT more girls out there who will dig the fact that you ride... Who will be laughing then?!
Always a bright side! x
Always a bright side! x
L&M
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How horrid for you - I think it is best just to ignore them. My son had this - however as soon as he told them he went 'hunting', they soon changed their tune.
My son is now 12yrs and 'seeing the advantages' of being the only horsey boy locally, if you know what I mean - and being around girls in jodphurs has also kept him keen!
My son is now 12yrs and 'seeing the advantages' of being the only horsey boy locally, if you know what I mean - and being around girls in jodphurs has also kept him keen!
serenityjane
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My son had similar problems- when he was younger he went to pony club, but left because he was the only boy, got told horses were 'gay'-(nothing to do with sexuality-just a no-go area) at school so the fact he rode was the worlds best kept secret from anyone at school- to the point that when we sold some jumps and a girl from school arrived to buy them-he hid! He would always ride in jeans, never breeches in case someone saw him.Then he got older, as you do, and now out hunting and at shows, he wears all the gear and has many many female friends and admirers. He has 'come out' at last and it is nowhere near the problem that he thought it would be-in fact just the opposite!
Trolt
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They think you're gay because horse riding comes with a stereotype, and they are narrow minded.
If they are "close friends" of yours, invite them to come meet your horse. Let them have a go at riding ... they'll soon change their tune! Or show them video of the Russian Cossacks or something.
However, just ignore them. You've seen the support you've got from the equine world, you know the allegiance of female fans you would get the moment you set foot on a livery yard, and you know how us females view a man in jods. If you're straight then we all want you, and if you're gay then we want a bff!
Do make sure there is a teacher or someone in the school you can talk to though, if this situation gets worse. Just, don't allow ANYONE to get your down about your hobby.
Like plenty of people have said: you spend your time doing something dangerous, adrenaline filled, and surrounded by women.... These boys spend their day wresting other men, in teeny shorts, then showering together!
As a final thing. The following men are all famous. They don't make their living riding horses professionally. Many of them learnt to ride for films, but others have just ridden for fun and to help them with a professional acting career... and they all have hundreds of female fans, have all been listed in various magazines in the top 100 sexiest men, and are definitely not gay
Would any of your friends want to call David Beckham gay?
Zac Efron:
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Benedict Cumberbatch:
Hugh Jackman:
Prince Harry:
If they are "close friends" of yours, invite them to come meet your horse. Let them have a go at riding ... they'll soon change their tune! Or show them video of the Russian Cossacks or something.
However, just ignore them. You've seen the support you've got from the equine world, you know the allegiance of female fans you would get the moment you set foot on a livery yard, and you know how us females view a man in jods. If you're straight then we all want you, and if you're gay then we want a bff!
Do make sure there is a teacher or someone in the school you can talk to though, if this situation gets worse. Just, don't allow ANYONE to get your down about your hobby.
Like plenty of people have said: you spend your time doing something dangerous, adrenaline filled, and surrounded by women.... These boys spend their day wresting other men, in teeny shorts, then showering together!
As a final thing. The following men are all famous. They don't make their living riding horses professionally. Many of them learnt to ride for films, but others have just ridden for fun and to help them with a professional acting career... and they all have hundreds of female fans, have all been listed in various magazines in the top 100 sexiest men, and are definitely not gay
Would any of your friends want to call David Beckham gay?
Zac Efron:
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Benedict Cumberbatch:
Hugh Jackman:
Prince Harry:
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pip6
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I know exactly what you mean from another perspective. At uni and after I did judo pretty seriously. Many times I was the only lady on a mat of men. Friends didn't get why I did such a 'masculine' sport. A mat full of lovely, usually very gallant guys who knew how to handle themselves (which made them very gentle and gentlemanly ironically) and me, I had a great time!
Tell them to get over themselves, whilst you spend your free-time surrounded by girls in tight jods! Who are the idiots?
Tell them to get over themselves, whilst you spend your free-time surrounded by girls in tight jods! Who are the idiots?
Challaborough Christmas Tree
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They think you're gay because horse riding comes with a stereotype, and they are narrow minded.
If they are "close friends" of yours, invite them to come meet your horse. Let them have a go at riding ... they'll soon change their tune! Or show them video of the Russian Cossacks or something.
However, just ignore them. You've seen the support you've got from the equine world, you know the allegiance of female fans you would get the moment you set foot on a livery yard, and you know how us females view a man in jods. If you're straight then we all want you, and if you're gay then we want a bff!
Do make sure there is a teacher or someone in the school you can talk to though, if this situation gets worse. Just, don't allow ANYONE to get your down about your hobby.
Like plenty of people have said: you spend your time doing something dangerous, adrenaline filled, and surrounded by women.... These boys spend their day wresting other men, in teeny shorts, then showering together!
As a final thing. The following men are all famous. They don't make their living riding horses professionally. Many of them learnt to ride for films, but others have just ridden for fun and to help them with a professional acting career... and they all have hundreds of female fans, have all been listed in various magazines in the top 100 sexiest men, and are definitely not gay
Would any of your friends want to call David Beckham gay?
Zac Efron:
Jeremy Irvine:
David Beckham:
Benedict Cumberbatch:
Hugh Jackman:
Prince Harry:
I don't know how I've never seen some of these before but you have just made my day! If someone wants to send me Jeremy (the horse can come too) for my eighteenth I would be very greatful!
NariNags
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Both my sons ride and both used to have the same problem eldest still will now only ride in jeans or jogging bottoms and youngest only when no one else is around which is a pity. But this summer my eldest started working with me and had to take out on foot some of the same guys that had been calling him names, they realised its not as easy as it looked and when the saw him riding some of the more awkward ponies (mainly his own) its stopped
shadeofshyness
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Pretty depressing that 'gay' is still being used as an insult in 2015.
Schools take homophobic bullying very seriously, and if these mindless teenagers carry on like that into their adult lives they'll find places of work won't tolerate it either. Good luck to them, they'll need it, trying to get through life with that attitude.
Schools take homophobic bullying very seriously, and if these mindless teenagers carry on like that into their adult lives they'll find places of work won't tolerate it either. Good luck to them, they'll need it, trying to get through life with that attitude.
lurcherlu
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My bf used to ride as a kid , he doesn't anymore and I wish he would he's a 6'3 ex rugby player who's as broad as he is tall very masculine , in the two and half years I've been with him I've not had my head turned at all I'm smitten with him , but recently met a slightly smaller bloke horse rider complete with breeches and boots ..... O wow I can't put my finger on it . There's something a bit sexy about a man that listens to a half tonne beast , gets it working for him and looks effortless . Not saying I'd stray but my god it's hot hahaha so keep up the riding and even if you are gay there are plenty of hot men to look at in breeches too 😉
lurcherlu
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Ps back off prince Harry he's waiting for me lol
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Just send them here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tony_McCoy
Broken every record and pretty much every bone in his body and yet still bounces back. Worth millions.
Come over to the dark side and ride racehorses! It's great fun and is probably a 50/50 split of male and females!
Broken every record and pretty much every bone in his body and yet still bounces back. Worth millions.
Come over to the dark side and ride racehorses! It's great fun and is probably a 50/50 split of male and females!