Why do people feel they have the right to judge

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What is an opinion if not a point of view? If people just want people to offer sympaty, perhaps that is what they should ask for.

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I agree, i am sorry Hullabaloo and the responses on here are probably not helping your rant on here at all. But if asking for an opinion or ideas...people are going to give you them but there ideas may be different to what yours may be. If you only want sympathy then maybe would be worth wording a post differently so that people give you lots of vibes and help you emotionally cope with it all...rather than opening up a post that may turn into a big debate about what is best for the horse.
 
Exactly, people ask for an opinion and this is what they get. If they said, thinking about pts can I have sympathy, then different.

With my first tb, retirement was not an option - she lived to work and when injured was very depressed on field rest and had to have 5 mins walk ride which made 100% difference.

Cairo is very happy to plod about though he still likes his tiny walk hacks. He will never be sound again and his vision is going downhill but he is happy enough at the moment.

What does make me annoyed is the post above about a heavy horse where the owners are not taking responsibility for its future - we should all do this whether it is retirement, rehoming or pts options.
 
yeah that heavy horse one annoyed me, yes they are more expensive to keep but the owners should have researched that b4 bought it. there are benefits in terms of nature and ability. Not posters fault but shouldn't be her problem either, owners should be trying to rehome, not dumping problem on some one else.
 
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What does make me annoyed is the post above about a heavy horse where the owners are not taking responsibility for its future - we should all do this whether it is retirement, rehoming or pts options.

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Your so right!!! I dont understand why anyone would want to just give up on a horse just because it has got old. I have brought buddy from a young age and i will never let anyone buy him of me and i will stay his owner all the way through his life. How could anyone want to leave a old horse especially if have had all their life, would stress the horse so much to suddenly have to switch owner.
 
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What is an opinion if not a point of view? If people just want people to offer sympaty, perhaps that is what they should ask for.

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I can only explain this as it feels to me.
An opinion is a point of view. I would have no arguement with that and everyone is entited to their own. A judgement is something different to me. It is a comment on my beliefs and values and therefore altogether more personal.

What is interesting is how we've read posts differently. I've read recent posts as a cry for help or options, while others have seen it as looking for justification or sympathy. Still, I guess that's what makes forum life interesting!
 
When I read these posts I sometimes feel that the poster is not looking for judgement but confirmation that they are doing the right thing or they just want to talk to someone that has been through the same thing. but as been pointed out perhaps they should say that is what they are looking for rather than getting opinions. as on a forum that is so big that you will never get a consensus of opinion.

What I find had to swallow( like some other posters) are those that do not take responsibility for their animals when they either get incurable or infirm.... how would they like it if their family did what they do to their animals.... a horrible thought
 
From what I saw on the 8 yo thread the majority of people were saying "I would do this/that, I could never do the other"... I actually thought that for the most part it was quite a balanced debate, with people contributing their own experiences and putting themselves in the OP's shoes as much as they were able to. I don't agree with every response and no doubt the people the OP were refering to would not have agreed with most of the responses, but its kinda like if you can't stand the heat get out of the kitchen. This forum is known not to cover everything in pink fluffy cotton wool (unless you're MizElz but thats different
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LOL @ this thread.
I asked for opinions - I got them - some agreed some didn't. Thats what I expected. I don't have a problem with that at all, if I did I would'nt have posted.
Thanfully its not about me otherwise I could have been quite upset at some of the unnecessary comments, as it is I just think "ah its another one of those holier than though types" and forget about it.
 
Having lots of retired liveries I'm in the sometimes unenviable postion of having to decide when some horses should be pts.
Many of them have lived here for years, and arrived lame. What usually happens is over the first year or so they improve hugely, and often return to soundness, others have a slight degree of lameness which worsens with age.
For me the expense issue doesn't coe into it becaus the owners pay not me.
It's a fine line sometimes. there is the horse who lives a happy life but lately has appeared lamer on his bad leg. he has a fantastic relationship with another horse, and eats well, just limps a biy when asked to move faster than a walk. the only time that happens is when they all play mad gallops, soit's his choice to go faster himself.
Do I ring his owner and say he's worse? Or do I watch him living reasonably well 95% of the time and just leave him?
Of course I leave him. All of us have suffered some pain at some stage in our lives and it's part of living.
If and when he loses weight, refuses to move much, looks miserable etc then i will make the call.
What about the gelding who went lame aged 6 and has been here ever since now 16? he is no lamer, but his owner has spent 10 years of livery bills on a horse she sees once a year. Is it fair that at some point she decides she can't keep laying money out and has him pts? Well yes, I think it is. Although he could live another few years, he has had the comparitive luxury of a work free really contented life; but no-one should be expected to keep their horse for life unless they have unlimited land and money.
I am probably harder minded than any of you with just one much adored horse; but surely quality of life is as important as length of life?
I think perhaps a horse would rather have a shorter really happy life than a longer more miserable one..
So you won't see me slating anyone on here who decides to have their horse pts.
It's nobody else's business but theirs..
 
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