Why do people have to be so insensitive, no actually nasty??

[lensmith7]

Really upset, just when I was starting to feel a bit better about things.

Josie has done her suspensory lig, and has had surgery for it.

I have had a sharer for Josie for about 7 months now. She's a 16 year old girl, very reliable, mother needs to cut the apron strings a bit but hey. Think she's only left her down the yard twice in the 7 months!

Obvioulsy she cant share Josie anymore, as I dont know what the prognosis is, and it's not fair keeping her waiting.

When we got the diagnosis, she and mother were there. I was obvioulsy very upset, mother took me to one side and told me how upset daughter was, that I'd probably ruined her summer, this happened last summer she lost a share horse just before the holidays etc.

My friend has recently moved back to the yard, and he's asked if I could do his mare a couple of days a week, and it keeps me riding too. Well I felt so bad about sharer I suggested she do her instead. She tried her today.

She got off and came to find me. She then preceeds to tell me how great the horse is, so much better than Josie, she does exactly what you want how you want etc. What a novelty to actually ride a decent horse!

Mother then pipes up, I never liked Josie anyway, IT was only a stop gap til something better came along.

Feel so hurt and used. To make matters worse, vet has suggested that the injury could have been exaserpated by sharers weight and unbalance!! It happened in one of her lessons.

Sorry it turned out so long. Ben and Jerrys of you get this far! It's what I drowning my sorrows in anyway x x x

ETA I cant spell either!

 

[AmyMay]

I try not to swear on here.

But what an cecking bitch.!

 

[lensmith7]

I didn't know if I was being to sensitive! It's a trait I have. Someone only has to look at Josie the wrong way at the moment and i bristle.

But thats not nice is it?

 

[teddyt]

Sounds like youre better off without them by their attitude, how rude. Fingers crossed your horse recovers well

 

[miss_c]

*BIG HUGS* Totally agree with what AmyMay said... especially as you had the chance to ride this horse but offered it to them first! I hope Josie gets better as soon as possible.

 

[MrsMozart]

Oh hun. Hugs to you! Hopefully your friend will choose you over the child, and that the child and her mother will go bob off somewhere

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So sorry to hear about your girl.

 

[lensmith7]

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Sounds like youre better off without them by their attitude, how rude. Fingers crossed your horse recovers well

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I think so, wouldn't trust anyone to do her now anyway. balming myself for possibly putting Josie at risk in the first place.

Thanks loads x x

 

[lensmith7]

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Oh hun. Hugs to you! Hopefully your friend will choose you over the child, and that the child and her mother will go bob off somewhere

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So sorry to hear about your girl.

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To be fair, I'm waiting quietly for her to lose her bottle, and my friend has a lot less patience than me (men eh?). I have ridden his mare a couple of times, and she's a lot sharper than Josie and does a mean line in reverse!!!

I personally think she was lucky to have Josie. She's a great confidence giver, and she's helped sharer out on more than one occasion!

 

[amycov]

That really is disgusting. I hope Josie is better soon.

 

[HayleyandBob]

:O what horrible people :O
*Hugs*
X

 

[lensmith7]

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*BIG HUGS* Totally agree with what AmyMay said... especially as you had the chance to ride this horse but offered it to them first! I hope Josie gets better as soon as possible.

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Thankyou x x

 

[sarah23]

Tell you ex-sharer that you friend wants just you to ride their horse and not her. Leave the ungrateful madam with nothing to ride.

 

[m3gan]

Oh! Poor you !
I never cease to be amazed at the attitude of some people.

My very best wishes to you and horsey for a good recoveryxx

 

[lensmith7]

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Tell you ex-sharer that you friend wants just you to ride their horse and not her. Leave the ungrateful madam with nothing to ride.

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I did think about it. I dont actually know if she'll be able to handle her. So I'm hoping (oh god thats not nice) erm, wondering if it'll be a case of give her enough rope?

 

[Queenjude]

That's horrible! I can't belive people can be so rude

. Big hugs

 

[AmyMay]

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But thats not nice is it?

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No. What very, very unpleasant people.

You are much better without them in your life.

You sound like a lovely, thoughtfull person. I can't imagine anyone wanting to be so cruel to you.

 

[dozzie]

What a cow! The mother, not you!

 

[tasel]

Where such people come from, I really don't know. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree, I have to say.

I probably would have just slapped mum & daughter right across the face, and told them both that if lovely little daughter wasn't so unbalanced and overweight, Josie would still be fine. I know... bad of me to want to be that mean to a 16yo girl, but hey, that's all they deserved.

BTW, not to be controversial... but I have seen a LOT MORE bratty kids in the UK than I have seen where I lived on the continent. There, you got such rude kids out of broken homes (where parents were literally non-existent) or so... but I have been quite surprised as to how many kids out of pretty normal middle class families here get pampered like God knows what by LOVELY mums and dads... NOT!!! Why???

Hope Josie is better soon. If they give you any more trouble any time soon, let me know... I have too much time recently... might visit you and do the above!

 

[Moggy in Manolos]

I am not surprised you are upset, i would be, what rotten behaviour, particularly from her mother who should know better.
Sorry for the troubles you have had with your horse, i hope things get better for you soon.
Try not to let nasty people like that get you down, the ignoramuses!

 

[Harriett310]

Thats so insensitive, she is very lucky that you offered her the ride on the other horse and all she can do is say bad things about yours.
You will probably be better off without her.

 

[Three]

Horrid mother and rude, ungrateful girl.

(((hugs))) for you and here's hoping Josie is better soon.

 

[xspiralx]

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Tell you ex-sharer that you friend wants just you to ride their horse and not her. Leave the ungrateful madam with nothing to ride.

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I did think about it. I dont actually know if she'll be able to handle her. So I'm hoping (oh god thats not nice) erm, wondering if it'll be a case of give her enough rope?

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To be honest though, if this girl was probably the cause of Josie's problem through her bad riding - do you want her to possibly ruin this horse? I would be telling your friend what the vet said!

Either way girl and mother sound thoroughly horrible people!

 

[ljpinkhorse]

People like this give sharers a bad name :S

How selfish of them - obviously it must have been a bit of a blow to them , aswell when Josie was unable to be ridden because of the injury but to behave as though you had purposfully made her lame to sabotage her sumer holiday's is just awful

And what she said about your horse was very rude , but remember she is probs just jealous that YOU are the one owning a lovely horse .

(((( hugs ))))) & i hope josie gets better soon

Yay! Ben and jerrys - munches happily on phish food -

 

[lensmith7]

Thanks everyone, for your lovely replies. It's so nice to come on here and just be able to vent, but to get such supportive replies, is really lovely.

On a happier note, Josie's staples are being taken out tomorrow x x

 

[Storminateacup]

They are obviously those sort of insensitive people that think a horse is mearly a mode of transport or something to entertain them for a few hours. They have probably never owned their own horse before and just haven't a clue about the emotional involvement side of being a horse owner sas well as the expense of not caring for them properly. If I were you I'd be tempted to warn your friend of the pair of them, tell him that your horse got injured in their care and they are not sensitve enough to look after an animal. You need that ride not them!
You are being too nice to horrible people.
Put a spanner in the works!

 

[lensmith7]

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Tell you ex-sharer that you friend wants just you to ride their horse and not her. Leave the ungrateful madam with nothing to ride.

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I did think about it. I dont actually know if she'll be able to handle her. So I'm hoping (oh god thats not nice) erm, wondering if it'll be a case of give her enough rope?

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To be honest though, if this girl was probably the cause of Josie's problem through her bad riding - do you want her to possibly ruin this horse? I would be telling your friend what the vet said!

Either way girl and mother sound thoroughly horrible people!

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I have told him, dont worry. Was worried about coming across as a bitch though, so think I may have pussy footed around it a bit.

 

[mazziek]

sorry t hear bout ur horse, total brat and moo mother and child. you horse is well rid! im being mean but maybe new horse will brat a lesson!!!

 

[hellybelly6]

You are better off without them. How dare they think that the girl's summer is ruined when your horse has a serious injury and you are obviously very distressed.

They are not worth worrying about and you have a clear conscience, esp as you gave up your chance to ride for a brat.

I am fizzing on your behalf, but they are not worth it. Concentrate on getting your horse better.

I hope Josie gets better soon.

 

[kimky]

People like that are A*se holes, josie deserves better. An i can see how you have tried to help them by recommended your friends horse and they have totaly behaved in the incorrect manner, they should be thanking you and all your help that you and josie have given them. Money on it says if the sharer had'nt shared josie her riding standard would be low and possible unable to ride your friends horse. Good luck with josie, keep us posted

 

[jumpthemoon]

What b1tches! You and Josie are definitely better off without them - what an awful way to treat someone who's been so good to you

I hope Josie recovers soon x