Why do some people exagerate their horses naugtiness!!

Equilibrium Ireland said:
But yes, this seems a new phenom pretending you have a crazy horse only you can handle. Part of life now in which everyone seems to get attention for being a drama queen. I think I'm a little sad that all during my teens and 20's if I tried the drama route I got firmly put in my place and rightly so! LOL!

Terri
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Very well said...ditto for me, many issues caused these days by dramatic parents focusing on dramatic kids!! Same with horses.
 
I agree and have a friend just like this! I'm the other way my horse is a shite but I try and stick up for him! If I agree he's naughty I'd be too scared to ride the loon!
 
IMO its not a new thing. Back when I bought my lad 19 years ago, the girls at the yard used to boast endlessly with puffed out chests about how naughty their horse/pony was and how only they could ride them

I was made to feel inferior as my lad was fairly well behaved and chilled
 
Equilibrium Ireland said:
No, you're not someone I want to ignore. Love your common sense posts!

Terri
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Equilibrium Ireland said:
It doesn't help I type mostly from my phone and can't use smilies and fancy paragraph chopping. In all fairness I'm a bit of an idiot when it comes to techno stuff.

Terri
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Aw thanks! Common sense? ME?! You must be mad! :D It's easy to get the wrong end of the stick on here, very easy indeed (I just did!). Particularly using phones - I hate posting from mine :o
 
Some people are intimidated by bucks and maybe they feel bigger when sat to that they are when your just looking at it.

Maybe your being judgemental, the woman may generally be worried and your belittling her on here.

Why not just have a word with her and try to help her than come on here a b1tch about it??

Not having a go but sometimes its not people trying to meake themselves look better they just don't have the right words to express how the misbehaviour feels to them as they are that nervous.
 
It makes me very cross because it puts other people off riding him and really he is a angel.
I really think its nerves in this case and she builds up the slightest thing in to a major drama.
It is annoying!

I do help her a lot and im not bitching!!!!!!

I just find it vey silly when she says hes bolted but has in reality done two strides of canter or says hes had a bronco fit when hes hardley moved a muscle!!
It could be the horse that pays in the end as altough hes a nice genuine horse hes getting a bad name through no fault of his own.
 
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Yes several times, but she really seems to think the horse is at fault when hes one of the calmest horses I know.

I dont know what the answer is really but its a shame as hes not a bad horse at all.
I have in my time been bolted with and I do know the differance!
Trouble is she is starting to make herself look silly but how to tell her without upseting her I dont know
 
My Thoroughbred in the wrong hands could be a lethal weapon due to his past, but handled by a capable, calm, gentle, experienced adult (any such person and not just me), he's pretty good. So it can be hard to explain to a lot of people that they are not capable of handling him when he is good for me. I used to get "How bad can he be when he's so good for you?". They just don't get it.

I think that's because so many people exaggerate their horse's bad behaviour, that people think that I do the same thing. So I think this habit makes it harder for people who are telling the truth.
 
itsmylife said:
I have a friend who has a lovely laid back horse. She is a nervous rider but he is quite good and does not really do anything wrong.
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You say the horse doesn't do anything wrong but how do you know this for sure?

My horse has a reputation on the yard as a sweet 'butter wouldn't melt in my mouth' type of horse that anyone can get on and ride. But when he is hacked out on his own he turns into an unreasonably silly and paranoid spinning top. He snorts at everything, even shies at pigeon poo on the floor, tyre tracks in mud and a clump of weeds lying flattened in the verge. He is particularly bad with high banked sides of roads, if he can hear running water (although he's happy to jump in out and through water on XC) and children shouting, powertools in the distance, sheep bleating, birds crowing, etc, etc. Sometimes he is so bad that he jumps when I cough or sneeze. He will spin so fast that you almost fall off! Yet he comes back to the yard with a tired but happy look in his eyes on a nice long rein without a bit of sweat on him and people are shocked when I say what he is like.

It might be this woman is not exaggerating her horses actions, just what you have seen of it the horse has always been good.
 
I know this because A ive ridden him and B because I hack out with her and hes not hacked on his own as she will not go out on her own.
 
I know that if you are a nervous rider, it is very easy to blow things out of proportion in your mind. If a person has never been a nervous rider, then they can not understand how every muscle twitch can seem like a big thing.

I'm a much more confident rider now than I used to be, but hacking used to be my bête noir and I needed a nanny to even get off the yard. Every time my saint of a horse looked at something, or shifted his weight was a life-or-death situation.

One afternoon, we were out, and a huge bot fly landed on his bum, and he crow hopped. In my mind he had turned into a rodeo bucking horse, and I was enormously pleased with myself that I sat it out, even though his feet had hardly left the ground.

After 6 years or so, I am much better, and can mainly laugh off the things he does if he gets in a tizzy, which usually consists of jogging/passaging/piaffing when I ask him to walk after a long trot, but I know that if i was still the same person as 6 years ago, that would absolutely terrify me.

So, while I can understand your frustration, OP, I think a little empathy for the nervous rider may also be in order.
 
I'm of the opinion that the situation described by the OP is due to the riders nerves. Most people don't really want problems with their horses imo, my daughter certainly didn't with her mare who had many spectacular tantrums. she lost her confidence with her and in the end they wound each other up. But my daughter was neither proud or exaggerating, she tried her level best and it was a source of real anguish to her, so not everyone is the same.
 
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I think too a lot of it can be experience also. When my 7yr old daughter talks to school friends who've had a year or 2 at a riding school, what her friends perceive as a nutter etc is her idea of normal & fun. Likewise an adult who has never seen a real rear, will describe horses who lift their front legs slightly as rearing. But I agree, there are many who believe it makes them look good, whether that's because of nerves or bragging.
 
I have a mare. Im the only one that can ride her because shes crazy. Sometimes when she doesnt want to do something she will have a temper tantrum and do mini rears. Shes so skeery ! ;)
 
I think it's an image thing. People do it to make themselves look better riders/handlers than they really are!!

I have to say - although I am no rider by any stretch (too stiff and unbalanced) I am not bad at the groundwork and between me and a friend we have produced two very nice, well mannered RC types that any rider can enjoy - I get FAR more satisfaction out of that than I would having a "naughty" horse!
 
Well vieshot it's great you have confidence and experience to deal with that kind of thing not everyone does. Shame you don't live near us, you'd be most welcome to come ride the mare, you're just the sort of rider she needs.
 
I will hold up my hand here - I am a very nervous rider, and although I had been doing well, my recent fall did knock my confidence a lot. So I am very aware of the little things when riding: I am trying to spot things that could lead to my horse spooking or misbehaving so that I can prevent said problems.

But I do not blame the Hippo; she's a nice natured mare overall, and has been well schooled at some point in her past. Emphasis being, she is still a horse, and therefore a big unpredictable animal. She will inevitably spook on occasion, but if I do my job as her rider then I can fairly expect her to settle quickly and not take off with me. And if she takes off, then I should do my best to sit it out and bring her back under control.

Have to say though, anytime I meet what seems to be a nice, well schooled horse, I tend to compliment the rider/owner on how well behaved it appears. EG - "Wow, you have done a great job with him/her! What a lovely horse - I hope I can get mine to this standard someday; she's still a work in progress."

Hopefully I'm not seen as exaggerating things - I'm always very open about being nervous! Actually, one or two people have said that I'm too quick to blame myself over the horse, so maybe I'm going too far the other way:o
 
Because it makes them look well cool :cool:


I cannot even pretent my horse is hard to manage. Yes, he's not a novice ride totally (although 90% of the time he would be the ideal donkey plod!) but he's pretty easy to get along with. I can see people might think I have an easy horse, and aren't I lucky. Well, yes I am - but then that has to be at least partially attributed to me as I've had him 8 years since he was a 4yo and he was far from a finished product when I got him. He wasn't a bad 4yo, just a naive, not done anything one. :)
 
I too am very proud that my boy is so easy and anyone could ride him. I bought him as a five year old and brought him on my self. Don't understand why anyone would want a nutter!
 
GeeGeeboy said:
I too am very proud that my boy is so easy and anyone could ride him. I bought him as a five year old and brought him on my self. Don't understand why anyone would want a nutter!
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*Like*

As an amateur with one horse, and having had a less than ideal mount in the past I now want an easy, enjoyable life :)
 
vieshot said:
I have a mare. Im the only one that can ride her because shes crazy. Sometimes when she doesnt want to do something she will have a temper tantrum and do mini rears. Shes so skeery ! ;)
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So out of the 7 billion people on the Earth, you are the only one?

Gosh! What are you doing wasting your time on here??
 
Because they can't school for **** so come to the deranged thinking that having a dramatic horse to ride and 'sit out' is far more skilled.
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Havent read them but as it makes them look masterful in controlling the alledgedly naughty behaviour and that only they can deal with as they are such a great rider....where is the sick bucket!!!!!!!!!Jackanory...
 
skint1 said:
Well vieshot it's great you have confidence and experience to deal with that kind of thing not everyone does. Shame you don't live near us, you'd be most welcome to come ride the mare, you're just the sort of rider she needs.
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Im only playing, im sure most people would be okay with her, shes just a typical chesnut mare :)
 
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