why does it have to be my way or nothing on this board?

I say each to their own. My horses and my livery horses all look well in my care and i haven't killed one off yet so i must be doing something right. Its good to get other peoples views and opinions and you can learn some good things on here......but opinions aren't facts and one persons way of doing things might not suit you, your horse or your routine.
 
Because the forum would be boring and pointless if the answer to every question or query was "whatever you're doing, I'm sure its fine. Have a lovely time"?
 
TinselCat said:
My horses were all very cheap and are all gorgeous and good jumpers (apart from the mini!). Get annoyed with the elitists on here.
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Actually, there are very few elitists on here. And the ones that well and truly could be elitist, tend not to be - I think it's called class........
 
amymay said:
I'm pretty gobby in real life too Quirky:p:D
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Me too. I think I'm actually LESS gobby on forums, because I have chance to delete, sit on hands, or just walk away from the keyboard.

I've actually been through all aspects of livery (started on full, then to renting a field, then to DIY/grass, then back to renting a field).

I've also gone through the whole shoe, then shoes off, then shoe...so I'm just over all the fighting about 'this way is best'. Circumstances change, horses' needs change, issues such as EMS mean different management is needed...can't say people posting otherwise bothers me. I've got bigger fish to fry. :)
 
I can't quote as I'm on my phone (hint hint admin) but you're right, there is very few elitists, but I can think of 1 or 2 that wind me up no end with there obvious lies and who definitely dream on there horses worth. So maybe not elitists as much as 'dreamer'!! ;)
A lot of people do have fantastic horses on here that I imagine must have cost a few bob and I have never seen them mention money.
 
Who cares? It really is only a forum, & not worth getting your knickers in a twist if people disagree with you. I quite like the range of opinions, the only thing I dislike is posters who pretend to be all nicely nicely whilst getting in snide digs at someone else. I have far more respect for openness. And as flame said, it would be boring otherwise.
 
Being controversial...

I haven't often found it to be too much "my way or nothing". There are strong opinions yes, but I've learned heaps through reading through the discussions/debates.

Maybe I've not been reading the right threads

(That's my opinion I'm right and you're all wrong) :D
 
I think the forum is very much a reflection of what I'm experiencing in real life. Some people know what they know and won't look beyond that. Others will cast about to see if there is something else they could or should be doing. I've found the forum very useful in terms of benefiting from the advice and experience of others' . I think there is maybe a small minority of why-can't-you- listen-and-do-what-I-say, type posts.
 
If you ask a question you are getting an answer. Not sure what people expect really if they post a question?

Forum would be pointless if we all had same opinions. But just happens I am always right.
ALWAYS!
 
Baubles said:
I think there is maybe a small minority of why-can't-you- listen-and-do-what-I-say, type posts.
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Again, this!
On my last disaster thread, I had so many of these posts! I had already said "I don't want to post anymore, but I am reading every reply and using advice accordingly" and people were still saying "Why waste your time, she's not listening and obviously doesn't care about her horses's welfare"
Honestly, it made me so cross! Even after I said I had him trotted up in front of several people, that still wasn't good enough, he was still "crippled lame"...apparently. I eventually had to roll my eyes and smile at people getting so wound up.
I did prove everyone wrong though ;) haha!
 
Nah said:
On my last disaster thread, I had so many of these posts! I had already said "I don't want to post anymore, but I am reading every reply and using advice accordingly" and people were still saying "Why waste your time, she's not listening and obviously doesn't care about her horses's welfare"
Honestly, it made me so cross! Even after I said I had him trotted up in front of several people, that still wasn't good enough, he was still "crippled lame"...apparently. I eventually had to roll my eyes and smile at people getting so wound up.
I did prove everyone wrong though ;) haha!
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I actually think you're being grossly unfair, Nah, to the majority of people who posted on that thread. People were rightly concerned about your safety and, yes, your very lame horse.

You don't have enough experience to roll your eyes and smile at those getting wound up over their concern for you and your horse:mad:
 
amymay said:
I actually think you're being grossly unfair, Nah, to the majority of people who posted on that thread. People were rightly concerned about your safety and, yes, your very lame horse.

You don't have enough experience to roll your eyes and smile at those getting wound up over their concern for you and your horse:mad:
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I don't think I am, sorry!
I'm not talking about the people who gave genuine advice. Don't get mad, he wasn't lame in the slightest, even little ol' inexperience me can tell that. I know Ned inside out and that...that wasn't lame.
No, I'm talking about the people who gave daft and dangerous advice, then got stroppy when I didn't do exactly as they said.
 
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There are some posters whose thoughts I don't even bother to read. Regardless of the subject matter they seem to delight in being mega mega argumentative and never seem to offer much good advice!. I do wonder sometimes, just how carefully people think of their responses. I welcome different opinions and experiences just not having someone try to impose their views and then say that anything else is wrong!
 
Everyone can spot obvious lameness, subtle unsoundness is a lot harder. No shame in missing it yourself. But if my horse was anything less than 100% sound, & someone pointed that out, even though after 21yrs I think I know her enough, I'd still listen.
 
Luci07 said:
I read some of the posts and are quite frankly amazed at some of the incredibly strong opinions voiced on here as fact. And often quite antagonistic. Owners choose to keep their horses in a way which suits them (the owners) but why the attitude if someone else does not agree? Why not allow that other people make different choices and if their horses are happy and doing well, why not?

Can we just lighten up a little here? we are on the forum as horse lovers yet seem incredibly critical if people deviate from a certain path. To read these posts, it would seem that I must have a barefoot, living out horse, unclipped, unrugged and preferably one that cost next to nothing. And that is the only option. Fair play to those who keep their horses like that. I made different choices dependant on my lifestyle and what I want to do with mine. Neither choice is better, just different.

Thoughts? shall I sit back and see what unfurls?!
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I agree with you totally I expressed that I put shoes on my boy after being barefoot all is life. And I got

tell us why
what reason is there to put shoes on
its down to diet
etc. Why should I explain . I know the horse his lifestyle diet ground he hacks out on There are some very opinionated people on here which I find also its there way or no way.

Some horses are better with shoes - being stabled - no rugs etc.

That said there are some lovely people kind hearted, supportive etc

A bunch recently have been so kind to me after I lost my mare of a lifetime Yesterday after a very very long battle which started with laminitis.
This small group of members (you know who you are) make this forum a really nice to place to be. Thank you again to all those who continue to send pm and nice messages on my sad day thread
But if you express different views or ideas a small percent of know it all's leave a bad taste in the mouth.
 
Discussion is a good thing and personally I think that there is a lot to learn from other peoples way of doing things The only thing that I cant stand is horses standing in a stable 24/7 for days on end with only a few minutes on a horse walker or in a school but that is my opinion I think it is cruel and denies a horse its freedoms that it is supposed to have by law.
Besides that i learn something new every day and I am an old lady now and have horse for 50 years. I like all the different views so I can cherry pick the best and try to make my horses have as near perfect life as I can afford and actually the bits I like are generally economic anyway so they can have more. The ponies themselves vary in value but that means nothing to me they are priceless
 
Flame_ said:
Because the forum would be boring and pointless if the answer to every question or query was "whatever you're doing, I'm sure its fine. Have a lovely time"?
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that's nice dear:)

i think the 'my way or highway' posters are actually very rare on this forum, yes there are a couple who are convinced their opinion is gospel but that's life, i know a few in real life like that too.;)
 
My horses are like yours Lucie. I can't stand them in mud. Most days are all day as I put out plenty of hay and have invested heavily in waterproof warm attire so they can stay out. 24/7 is great if you have plenty of land for rotation and places to keep metabolic type horses. But I prefer mine not to have to stand in mud 24/7. Personally I don't see the point, but that's a personal opinion. Plus I think it's always a good idea for horses to know what a stable is for whatever might arise. Mine don't seem to mind as they're waiting at the gate every single evening. They must agree.

I do have issues with calling a 3yo a competition horse. Bringing in from the field one day and going from zero to 60 and then blaming starting at a young age for the fact they're broke down and need retired. Slamming a young horse in a stable unless its working does way more damage but hey to each his own. No one seems to get starting horses sympathetically with breaks and plenty of turnout while their still developing. Somehow magically starting at 4 or 5 means you don't have to worry about all that.

I have a very well rounded career doing a variety of things with horses for many years. I don't have to hide and be afraid of voicing my opinion. I also know that I can still learn from a variety of people. So I don't know it all and never will.

And I don't understand this CR being where all the intelligent people are. That's just close minded to me. Personally I don't get how people see a just got on baby bucking, tense, frightened, not knowing any of the basics, being a good example of horsemanship. But because it was a well bred warmblood in Holland with a rider that can clearly sit one, its ok. It's ok because that's a competition horse. Ok I guess leaving the basics out is ok because they're so athletic. I don't get that. But that's just me apparently.

Terri
 
OldNag said:
Being controversial...

I haven't often found it to be too much "my way or nothing". There are strong opinions yes, but I've learned heaps through reading through the discussions/debates.

Maybe I've not been reading the right threads

(That's my opinion I'm right and you're all wrong) :D
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I agree.

Even if you look at the threads with the most opinionated and strongest-worded advice, I think you'll find the majority of posts are helpful and polite.

Sometimes advice is given when it's not asked for, ie someone posts just to share something and is promptly told they're doing something wrong :rolleyes: and how they should really do it. Then those giving advice sometimes get in a huff because the person doesn't seem to be taking the advice!

I do find that rather annoying, but even so it's still a small minority behaving in this way.
 
Totally agree op. You come here for advise and you certainly won't except it from someone who is being rude so I don't understand why the bother trying to comment In the first place. And one other thing is I personally don't agree when little gangs form of threads and all aim at the op because it does happen.
 
swintondesire said:
And one other thing is I personally don't agree when little gangs form of threads and all aim at the op because it does happen.
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Thankfully, it doesn't really happen (if at all actually) on this forum. People usually mistake bullying or ganging up, with like minded people having an opposite view from another poster.

Most of the posters who post on HHO are intelligent enough to think for themselves. It's just the odd one or two who shout bully - or accuse posters of going around in gangs - and there's usually a reason for that (because they're a shilling short of a pound....)
 
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