Why have horses if you dont want them! moan....

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There is a lady on the a field next to me who has two horses my friend who isnt horsey knows her well, she rarely bothers doing anything with them, they have seen farrier twice in 6 months, they are both severly overweight,they are on good grass but she will go down chuck them a bale of hay then not return for 2 days as says they now fine with plenty to eat! (she is lucky they havent got lami)the water they have is filthy! when she does go down she always seeks me out ( i try to hide:o) and moans that she has to be there and cant afford them and what a nuiscance they are and is handy with a slap if they get in her way! she puts rugs on when if it spits with rain then they stay on till she can be bothered to remove them, even if its hot, then when its wet and cold leaves them naked!!! she lives and works two mins away and only works mornings 3 days a week so that she can claim benefits, has 4 dogs one lives inside others never leave the back garden!

My question is why have these animals if they are just a chore, they are lovely horses and its such a shame! yard owner the other side sick of her moaning suggested she sell them, her answer, oh i couldnt i love them!!! errrrr dont think she does!!!
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i am not usually a judgemental person and keep myself to myself but it Just saddens me to see it!

Should i try do something about it or just keep out of it?
 
I think as you are trying to hide from her when she comes down you should be staying out of it. If she seeks you out and starts moaning then just tell her straight that she should sell them .... She will soon stop seeking you out trust me, lol

I'm with you though ... Owning animals should be a pleasure and a joy. I kept reptiles for years but moving to our new house and them having the box room, then getting back into horses I just felt they were just 'another' job to do round the house when i got home so i made the decision to sell them because I just wasnt getting enjoyment out of them. I would do the same with the horse as well rather than half heartedly care for him. It's just not fair. Her reaction to being told to sell them isnt 'love' .. she is just bone idle and likes to boast she owns four dogs and two horses!
 
Like above poster, tell her straight as she doesn't do anything with them, does nothing but moan about them, she should sell them. I'd offer her silly money or them too. (could be a nice little pre Xmas bonus) and you'd know they would be with people who would want, look after and love them.
 
Antw23uk said:
I think as you are trying to hide from her when she comes down you should be staying out of it. If she seeks you out and starts moaning then just tell her straight that she should sell them .... She will soon stop seeking you out trust me, lol

I'm with you though ... Owning animals should be a pleasure and a joy. I kept reptiles for years but moving to our new house and them having the box room, then getting back into horses I just felt they were just 'another' job to do round the house when i got home so i made the decision to sell them because I just wasnt getting enjoyment out of them. I would do the same with the horse as well rather than half heartedly care for him. It's just not fair. Her reaction to being told to sell them isnt 'love' .. she is just bone idle and likes to boast she owns four dogs and two horses!
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Yep you are so right, she is always boasting how she has all these animals!!! doesnt look after them well though :(

I am not a very good straight talker, partner tells me i am to nice lol! Maybe i should suggest he talks to her she would probably never speak to me again once he had done with her haha;)

nix123- dont think she will sell them but i could give it a go :)
 
Do you want them, if so ask her if she wont sell them could you start to take care of them for her, she might appreciate the help. At least you know they wont be going anywhere. She possibly does love them but finds them a chore and is probably lonely
 
putasocinit said:
Do you want them, if so ask her if she wont sell them could you start to take care of them for her, she might appreciate the help. At least you know they wont be going anywhere. She possibly does love them but finds them a chore and is probably lonely
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I wouldnt buy them myself but would persuade her to maybe sell them cheaper to someone who would love them, i know someone who would probably have one of them.

I would love to offer to help her but have 2 of my own, work full time and care for my disabled partner so i would be silly to take on more responsibility and simply dont have the time :(

I am pretty sure she is the sort of person that if someone offered to help she would take advantage and prob not bother at all and expect this person to do it all for nothing, someone offered to ride the mare for her in return for poo picking but she said no!
 
I am puzzled about what this woman's employment status has to do with this and not sure how working 'only 3 mornings a week' enables her to collect benefits.
I suggest you continue to hide from the woman and keep well out of it. She does sound a bit like an animal hoarder thoug, so if you have genuine concerns about the animals, particularly the dogs, perhaps you should discuss them with a welfare charity.
 
Pearlsasinger said:
I am puzzled about what this woman's employment status has to do with this and not sure how working 'only 3 mornings a week' enables her to collect benefits.
I suggest you continue to hide from the woman and keep well out of it. She does sound a bit like an animal hoarder thoug, so if you have genuine concerns about the animals, particularly the dogs, perhaps you should discuss them with a welfare charity.
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Sorry wasnt clear, she claims she doesnt have time for the horses but only works 3 mornings as is on benefits ( think you can work only 15 hours or less and still claim lol ) wasnt meaning it in a bad way sorry if thats how it came across :)
 
would love to know how she manages to work 15 hours we were told we were only allowed to earn 10 pounds before it afffected the benefits not that they ever gave us any as OH has a small pension which negated any chance of help
On the part of the horses there are lots of people who like to say they have or do something I am a first responder volunteer and go on call for about 24 hours per week but we have a lot of members that claim to be responders and in fact have never or would never go on call. They are trained and qualified but just like to tell everyone they are responders for kudos not to actually do the job. Some folk have a funnyway of filling the need for attention
 
Yep she is the talk the talk but not walk the walk kind of person, likes a lot of attention, always has a drama of some sort going on :(

Benefits wise i dont really know much about it to be honest just going on what she says, my partner became ill last year and had to leave work, we to can get nothing as i work full time, dont really understand it all! but thats not really anything to do with me just mentioned her working less cos her excuse is she doesnt have the time to do the horses properly but obviously she has plenty of time :)
 
I have no problem with people owning horses and not doing anything with them, as long as their basic needs are met- e.g food, clean water, shelter etc.

I think you just have to be honest with her, next time she moans about them suggest she sells/loans/gets a sharer. Tell her it will help free up her time and save her money (esp heading into winter)- you could then say you know of someone looking for a horse if she ever did want to sell.

Is there anyone else you can discuss this with- Yard Owner? Fellow Liveries? They may know something more about the situation. Good Luck!
 
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