Why is it? (sorry a bit of a moan)

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Why is it that some horsey people only want to know when you're not doing well with your horse or are having problems?

It really pi**es me off that some people love it when you are having problems and always ask about your horse in a real negative way
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Is it just me that finds this?
 
are we talking face to face, or about the forum? if its about being on here, i dont think its so much that people like hearing about others having problems (although perhaps some get off on it...
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) i think its more a case that you're guaranteed to start a good convo if you bring up something that people may be having problems with. and then, of course, if people can share their problems, some may even be solved through this joint experience. i for one know that i would be more likely to reply if someone asked something like "does your horse muck around on the road" than "is your horse going really well at the moment?"

if this isnt wat you meant, im sorry!
 
there was one absolute b***h at the livery yard i was at as a teenager, who only spoke to me when my mare had a real off day. she was never happier than when someone else did badly, the cow.
i avoid people like that. positive, encouraging people give off positive vibes.
 
because it is jealousy most of the time,the same as a certain person i know when i got my boy,they where waiting for me to cock up !
but like you ive prooved them wrong and am getting on well,there is always teething probs at the start but you soon over come them if you can,like yourself with m and now hes going well and your doing really well,you should be proud as if that was me id have prob given up or been to scared to get back on,although you dont know what you will do until it happens,dont beat yourself up or listen to what they say as its noone elses business what you do,just stick your fingers up at them !!!!!!!!
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People are jealous and insecure and are waiting for something bad to happen to you so they can feel better about themselves.
That said, there's a spoilt brat on our yard who can't ride for toffee and keeps getting bought stunning horses, ruining them and selling them on saying it was the horse's fault. They are also extremely rude and obnoxious to people who genuinely (and sensitively) try to help, because they know better of course.
They hit the deck the other day because the horse was jumping a course in a nice, forward canter, but this person was shouting that it was 'out of control' and baled out over its shoulder. I have to say that there were some quiet smirks around the show field that day...
 
Face to face, not really experienced it on here.

It really gets on my nerves that some people just cannot be happy for you and are waiting for you to fall on your ar*e.
I suppose it is quite competitive in the horsey world so I'm going to come across it.
It never used to bother me when I had my first pony as a teenager, people used to laugh as he was only 13hh, naughty and I was far too big for him but at least I did'nt have far to fall unlike them on their big TB's.
I suppose buying a big spindley thing like Monty and then him rearing and falling over backwards on me I am asking for it, people are just waiting for it to happen again
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I know the feeling - i had this alot recently - such a shame as i have waited 10 years to own a horse again - baby career etc - and now i do i think its the most wonderful thing - just wish others could realise how lucky they are to just be able to have a horse as it is a luxury relatively speaking.When someone is b*tchy i just smile and be extra extra nice and agree with them and then they find it hard to retaliate!!!
 
Thats good I'm not the only one! I bought Boomer from a girl everyone up my yard knew. Originally another girl was going to have him, but she couldn't because she already had 5 ponies (4 were problem ponies aswell!) Boomer's always been known to be an excellent show jumper so I decided to take a chance and buy him (he turned out to be extemely talented, but also extremely difficuly). About a month later the girl sold 3 of her problem ponies and was looking to buy another
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She wouldn't talk to me for about 3 months. I think it's unfair because she had her chance and said no. She also tore through my name on my sign on my door (contact nos etc.)Now she constantly comments on the bad things that happen (which are rapidly decreasing lately (Y)) It's a shame really, we used to be good friends
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