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That when i tell someone im sending horse back as he does basically try to kill me, I would not say this if it wasnt true, but anyway, they feel sorry for horse, even though he is trying to kill me in anything i do with him ends up with me on floor, from either being kicked, thrown off etc.

And im one of these people that know my limits, capabilities but i do not feel at all like i could trust him. he is not the right sort of build of horse i feel comfy on, dont ask why i bought him. I am doing the right thing though sending him back as they said they would have him back if it didnt work out, so why do i feel like everyone is critising me.

I dont give up easy, but i know what he will be like in future and will be so complicated for me, i dont want something that has hang ups about every situation and the chance i will get dumped and trampled, oh yeah hes done that,

I cant even explain what i mean nobody seems to get what im trying to say,
im not a novice rider and confident. sorry for the ramble i needed to get this off my chest.
 
If it isn't right then it isn't right, and it isn't fair on either of you, there is something wrong, and whether you know what it is or not, it is still a problem.
You have obviously given it your best shot, and thought long and hard about this.
You are not giving up, you are just seeing what is not right and finishing things before they get out of hand. Some may say keep trying and give the horse a chance, but it sounds like you have. If the owners are prepared to take it back they obviously care about him.
There is a horse out there with your name on it, without the heartache.
Do what you feel is right and don't worry about being judged, it is you in this situation, no one else
Good luck
 
See this is how i see it, its not right and i know its not, im one of these that can see past things like naughtiness etc, but i cant see him being any different, hes too fine for me i prefer my big id types or idx. Im glad someone agrees with me, i do give it my best shot, but i can just feel i will never trust him to take him anywhere, and i see this as pointless having him as i wanted a horse to go places on. It was the way ppl are being making me feel like i cant do anything.
 
Not every horse is right for every person its like us we get on with certain people and not others!! Ive had 2 horses like this one bronked with me on the road everytime I came out of my drive for a hack and nearly broke my back falling onto the tarmac gave it a chance, he was well looked after back teeth checked vet out cost enough he's now jumping foxhunters with a sixteen year old we just didn't gell then I had a cob that nearly kicked me to bits if I even wen't near his feathers so gave up sold to a lovely lady who didn't mind feathers and they are happy but these 2 horses pushed my confidence right down then you get the goody goodys who think they can ride and say these things like they are saying to you let them get on the horse i bet they wouldn't I bet they can't even ride one side of it I think you are doing the right thing taking back get a cob like me ive got him for life hes a lovely bay county cob hunts a dream keeps me safe and can do every diciplin in the book and he's fast but safe so before you go for another horse just think what your needs are some horses need more than others my T/B's needed excersice every day for there minds but now i'm a bit older I find not to wan't to ride everyday but just enjoy whats wrong with that. I think this is why cobs are getting more popular he jumps like a stag and he fits into my busy lifestyle and If i don't ride him but just groom him he's not bothered he's as fit as a fiddle and can outrun any of the T/B's on the hunting feild and when we stop we arn't huffing and puffing like some .
Get rid and enjoy your horse they are supposed to be an enjoyable hobby leave the hot heads to the professionals!!
And as for your so called friends giving you lip ignore get a new set of nice friends who don't know it all but CAN RIDE !!
Good luck let us know how you get on.
 
Thanks for that, well i was looking at a cob but i need something 16.2 and proper cobs are 15.2 arent they, I havent gelled with him at all, it frustrates me as i didnt want something that was so much hard work, and with getting a full time job soon its going to be hard. If i had something like i used to where i could get on have a wail of a time and was so much fun then that would be fab but not that much about. I get annoyed as people think they know your horse better than you and think give him another chance, cant leave it any longer as i will end up dead.
 
At the end of the day this is your hobby and you should be enjoying it.

OK some riders can do with learning a bit and need to work through their problems, but it sounds like you have tried everything and have now lost confidence so there is nothing further you can do with this horse.
 
Im glad people understand where i am coming from. I am not one of these people that think they can ride better than everyone, im used to riding all sorts of horses,and while it was nice getting on something that is fresh etc, i feel like it has took the fun out of it, as he is ott. And people say whats up with you, as i like that kind of horse, and i said but at the end of the day i cant do anything as hes so ott, plus i find their is not enough horse underneath me, hes a very skinny tb, and im tall so i feel odd. I felt great at first but then i realised this is not what i wanted.
 
Its nice to hear of people like you, I have seen it many times people take on horses that are to much for them but keep them thinking there the bees knees cause they have naughty horses and eventually the horse is left standing in a stable becoming worse, as others have said you need a horse that you are happy with so ignore other people and do whats best for you. I to like lets say high spirited horses and got one that I thought never would change, I was lucky as everyone on my yard agreed I would be a fool and asking for trouble if i kept it, good luck
 
Horses are supposed to be fun, if your not having fun and are not feeling safe then get rid!!

Who cares what people think, you have to put up with it every day not them!!!
 
I think you are really sensible and brave admitting that the horse is not for you. I meet so many people who have horses that they cannot manage and are so restricted as to where they can go and what they can do and it is nonsense, at the end of the day it is such an expensive hobby its not worth hanging on to a horse that you cant have fun on. I have to say you are lucky to have bought a horse like that from people who are willing to take it back, was it a dealer and if so let me know who it is . How long have you had the horse.
 
I am lucky that they will take him back. i pay so much money to keep him though, id rather have something i enjoy and take wherever, whenever, and not have to bother, i get frustrated as im really limited to what i can do with him, As he just goes of the rails, he would be fantastic to someone who soley wants to jump him, will pm you. x
 
hi Vicky Ive been in your exact situation.

Had a mare that was a complete nightmare, to the point of nearly killing me and being dangerous.
Had everything checked, had other people ride her, she was just a witch!

I tried everything but she eroded my confidence so much, i couldnt take her anywhere, not even for a hack, without risking life and limb.
She was a very sweet horse on the ground which made it hard for me to sell her , but like you I realised Im aying a lot of money for a horse that I cant do anything with.

So I sold her, i was upset but I know 100000% it was the right thing to do, I used to dread going up the yard. i had much more unhappy times than happy times with her and only kept trying because I felt it was expected.
Then I realised I wasnt getting ANY enjoyment out of her, couldnt even go for a hack around the block, couldnt join friends on sponsored rides or nice summer hacks, so i decided to put myself first, sold her to a new home and although I miss her I woudlnt change it for the world.

You need to do what is right for you.
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Im exactly the same as you was, i cant ride with anyone, i cant even ride now without me getting in some sort of bother. I lunge him and loose school him now, and i did get a friend on him but she lasted 5 mins she pooped her pants. She said hes a nutter send him back, i know i cant go on like this its unfair to me and the horse, i do ride him but i can only take him out in the day when i know we wont come across anyhorses, and i hope i dont make it sound like i bring this on myself, but i have tried and tried, and im not a nervous rider, i dont think ooh hes goin to do this etc.
 
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