showjumpinglover
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why is it that when i put a post on people critisize me for what i am doing? i only normally want advise
why?
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horsegirl
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Probably because you are not one of the "chosen few". Just keep posting and hope for the best!
imyourstalker
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I get that all the time on the horsey forums, I ignore it!
Don't worry what other people think!!
Don't worry what other people think!!
Hullabaloo
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I don't consider myself one of the "chosen few" whatever that means, but I seem to get reasonable responses to my posts and have had some very good advice from this forum.
I've just looked back over your posts as I haven't read any of them.
Your post on the dog eating the kittens was distressing for those of us who love our animals and take great care to keep them safe and look after them responsibly. How could you not expect critisism, especially when you didn't seem to take on board any of the advice that was offered either.
If the post was a wind up, as some people suggested it was in very poor taste.
I've just looked back over your posts as I haven't read any of them.
Your post on the dog eating the kittens was distressing for those of us who love our animals and take great care to keep them safe and look after them responsibly. How could you not expect critisism, especially when you didn't seem to take on board any of the advice that was offered either.
If the post was a wind up, as some people suggested it was in very poor taste.
JM07
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why is it that when i put a post on people critisize me for what i am doing? i only normally want advise
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where??
why is it that when i put a post on people critisize me for what i am doing? i only normally want advise
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where??
AmyMay
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Are you talking about your cat and dog problem??
FestiveFuzz
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I don't even know who the "chosen few" are but I certainly haven't had a problem with responses to any posts i've made. Perhaps it is unclear what you are asking for help on? Remember that when posting on a public forum you are asking other peoples advice. This means people will read what you have posted and reply accordingly with their own advice and thoughts on the situation. I usually only post if I am unsure what to do, or want differing opinions on a topic. I think it is vital to remain open minded when asking advice and to be willing to take on all advice without taking it as a direct criticism.
I am sorry you feel people haven't been constructive in response to your postings, but I am sure it is not a personal thing
I am sorry you feel people haven't been constructive in response to your postings, but I am sure it is not a personal thing
WelshRareBit
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Normally when your animals are repeatedly killing eachother, you can expect a certain amount of critisism.....
dieseldog
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Probably because you are not one of the "chosen few". Just keep posting and hope for the best!
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Might be an idea to read their posts before deciding if they are the chosen few or not.
Probably because you are not one of the "chosen few". Just keep posting and hope for the best!
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Might be an idea to read their posts before deciding if they are the chosen few or not.
Stinkbomb
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I dont think its a case of being one of the chosen few. TBH i dont really belives this exists. Yes there are many people on here who have been posting for a long time and many experienced people but i have always had good answers to my posts. Some i havent agreed on but hey if i didnt want a difference of opinion i wouldnt post!
You cant post some of the things you have and not expect to get some critisism im sorry. You say you only want advice but if you read their posts properly instead of immediatley jumping to your defense you will see they actually make sense!
You cant post some of the things you have and not expect to get some critisism im sorry. You say you only want advice but if you read their posts properly instead of immediatley jumping to your defense you will see they actually make sense!
spider
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Constructive criticism is advice! It can be tough but its usually good advice. (I haven't read any of your posts so this is a general comment)
appylass
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I've been a member on here for years but rarely posted until quite recently. I have started new threads and replied to others in the past few months and have had excellent advice and really helpful opinions.
I haven't had any really negative replies but if you are asking for opinions in the first place so you have to expect that not everyone feels the same as you.
I've not read your other psots either so I'm just generalising
I haven't had any really negative replies but if you are asking for opinions in the first place so you have to expect that not everyone feels the same as you.
I've not read your other psots either so I'm just generalising
Nats_uk
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I'm wouldn't have said I was one of the chosen few but I have generally always received helpful advice on here and have made some good friends.
If you post about animals being allowed to kill each other then you have to expect some criticism - sorry
P.S. Still don't understand your reasoning for not neutering the cats.
If you post about animals being allowed to kill each other then you have to expect some criticism - sorry
P.S. Still don't understand your reasoning for not neutering the cats.
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village idiot :D
It may well be because of what you are posting! Some of your replies have been kind and helpful to other people's problems so THINK first before you post things like "what can I do because my cats keep having kittens and when we shut the dogs in wth them they eat the kittens" and "How can a keep in a GSD when we only have a 3' fence because we want to enjoy the view".
Think about what you'd reply to someone else with those questions. There are VERY obvious solutions to both those problems:
Firstly separate cats and dogs and get cats neutered asap.
Second, running line for the GSD or forget the view and put up a 6' plus fence.
Think about what you'd reply to someone else with those questions. There are VERY obvious solutions to both those problems:
Firstly separate cats and dogs and get cats neutered asap.
Second, running line for the GSD or forget the view and put up a 6' plus fence.
jumpthemoon
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Completely agree with jemima_too!!! You are obviously capable of thinking about posts from some of your replies to others - so re-read your own as if it was someone elses and think what advice you might offer or how you'd feel about the poster.
Looking at the posts I think you are referring to, I don't think people were being purposefully nasty, they were just amazed that you couldn't see such obvious solutions and most likely upset by the one about the kittens.
Looking at the posts I think you are referring to, I don't think people were being purposefully nasty, they were just amazed that you couldn't see such obvious solutions and most likely upset by the one about the kittens.
CheziBrown
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Just read your previous post about the kittens and the dogs eating them. OMG - and you wonder why people critcise you ?