Will he get jealous???

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As some of you are aware im am having my appy filly come home in september and i already have my near 3 gelding buddy. My only worry is...how will he react to another horse being in my life. He is always going to be my favourite as he is my 1st and my best mate and i love him to bits and i really dont want him to get upset by me having her. But i also cant wait to have her as been after one for ages and have high hopes for her and theres no way i am not having her.

Does anyone think i will have any problems with buddy i would feel so guilty is he got upset by it all!!!
 
lol, no, I don't think he'll get jelous!
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He might, but always do things with him first such as feed him first, talk to him first and bring him in from the field first. At first until pecking order is established.

There will be squealing and galloping around when first introduced, but they will need to sort out the pecking order themselves. It is scarey introducing a new horse for the first time. Presumably they will be able to see each other and sniff before going into the same field first?
Is the appy filly the on in your siggy? she is beautiful
 
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always do things with him first such as feed him first, talk to him first and bring him in from the field first.

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Thats what I would recommend

Have you got any other pics of Daisy Mae? Would love to see them!
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lol, no, I don't think he'll get jelous!
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I know im a big softy deep down!!! Thanks hb6 yeah i was thinking of carrying on with my normal routine with buddy and then doing daisy mae, still worrid about him though. They are going to be stabled right next to each other, i dont know is this is good or bad but it was the last decent stable left i didnt want her to be next to tack room as she would have had the door covering her stable door so she wouldnt have been able to look out of it.

Yeah thats her in my siggy, i will post some pics up on this post in a min!

So am i really being daft or will it turn out to be war between them. I dont know whether to stick them in same field or not as buddy is a right bully towards the others so if he does get jealous he may hurt her.
 
Heres some more pics soz there so big at work so cant shorten them....

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This one is with her sis, we think she will turn out rather like her, you can see her big spotty daddy in the back to...

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Got more pics at home, if anyone wants to see them let me know.
 
Sidney was very jealous of Hovis when I bought him. He was til the day we retired him - no matter what we did sidney was only happy when Hovis was not around and I was lavishing attention solely on him.
We never solved the issue but we learnt to live with it.
 
Amy you are not being daft or soft! I would have this worry too if I had another horse.

Being next to each other in a stable first is very good especially if they can see and sniff each other first. For a period of time.

Good idea to keep to 1st horse's routine and always attend to him first. but if they go into the same field they will sort out the pecking order and once this is established, you will know who is boss and who gets attended to first. If they do not go into the same field, always attend to the 1st horse first. If that makes sense.

Where I am, the horses are turned out and brought in according to the pecking order. It reduces the chance of fights as every horse knows his/her place.

Cant wait to see more pictures of that little cutey of yours.
 
I really dont want to upset him though, we have a great bond and he doesnt put a foot wrong. I dont want him to suddenly change out of jealously...i know it is going to be hard for him to except me giving another horse kisses and cuddles but it would break my heart is his behaviour changed because of it all.
 
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I supose they will soon get use to each other being stabled together. I really have a choice of what field she could go in, i would rather she was in the field buddy is in as the other fields arent as relaxed as she would either have to be turned out over the road on in the field with the giants and im sure she would have a few nasty injuries in there. They are quite good with turning out and in but i could ask them to make sure buddy is in before her anyway.

It just i have been so excited about having her but now im thinking buddy isnt going to be happy with it...so its worrying me now.
 
I've just gone through this or am currently. I got my yearling home and have found it quite difficult to adjust. Darcy, my cob, is a bit more insecure and calls to me now and wants me attention when he never really used to. I think that will settle down and sort itself out soon tho
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They were in the same field for a few days (Until the grass got too good for darcy and I put him in the other paddock) and he got used to me going to the yearling first and dealing with him. I found once they were in different fields it was easier as Darcy could be done first and then I could do Taz or the other way round and then neither would know who was first.
I've only once had a moment where they both came to me and raced each other and then I had to get Darcy in as he was the one I wanted and had to leave taz and go back to him after.
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Wow, she is such a little cutie! She is a stunner and she knows it. She looks very inquisitive/intelligent.

I understand completely what you mean. I wouldnt fuss her too much at first whilst he is there, just do the necessary, but gradually build it up. Whilst giving him extra love and cuddles and reassurance.

Animals do get jealous, I have had jealous dogs, cats and horses. Maybe its because I get such a strong bond with them, but with time and patience, they can adapt.

What lucky horses you have that you are so concerned about them. Hope all goes well.
 
I've just gone through this or am currently. I got my yearling home and have found it quite difficult to adjust. Darcy, my cob, is a bit more insecure and calls to me now and wants me attention when he never really used to. I think that will settle down and sort itself out soon tho
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They were in the same field for a few days (Until the grass got too good for darcy and I put him in the other paddock) and he got used to me going to the yearling first and dealing with him. I found once they were in different fields it was easier as Darcy could be done first and then I could do Taz or the other way round and then neither would know who was first.
I've only once had a moment where they both came to me and raced each other and then I had to get Darcy in as he was the one I wanted and had to leave taz and go back to him after.
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I'm still waiting for it all to get into a normal routine but so far injury and other things have scuppered all chances of that
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Its awkward really, as really would be easier to get daisy mae done first so that then have rest the night with buddy. But can just imagine the shock on his face is i went to her stable door before his.

Decisions....

1. Muck buddys stable out and the daisy maes. Then brush down buddy, tack him up and school him. Then come back and feed buddy and then daisy mae.

2. Muck daisy mae out, brush her, feed her. Then get buddy out brush time, tack up and school, then muck him out and feed him.

3. Brush buddy and tack up and school him. Then come back and muck both out and feed.

What you all think??? I would say let my mom attend to daisy mae but i want to build a bond with her 2.
 
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Wow, she is such a little cutie! She is a stunner and she knows it. She looks very inquisitive/intelligent.

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Hehe, was quite amusing how she suddenly left her mom and started making her way closer to the camera...the lil poser!!! Have the pics at home as proof of how much a poser she was lol. If she does turn out to be rather intelligent then maybe if i spend enough time with her it will rub of on me then maybe i will do a better job at work lol.

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I understand completely what you mean. I wouldnt fuss her too much at first whilst he is there, just do the necessary, but gradually build it up. Whilst giving him extra love and cuddles and reassurance.

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My problem is i will want to her fuss her so much to get a great bond with her supose i will have to hang back a bit. Though im sure extra kisses and cuddles will make buddy very happy indeed.


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Animals do get jealous, I have had jealous dogs, cats and horses. Maybe its because I get such a strong bond with them, but with time and patience, they can adapt. What lucky horses you have that you are so concerned about them. Hope all goes well.

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My dogs get very jealous to but it normally just results in them both just trying to kill each other. Very kind they both are!!! I think buddy learnt long ago what a soft buggar of a mommy he has lol.
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When I got the pony my mare got jealous. I got them into a routine - if I'm feeding them horse always gets fed first even if it's just a handful of hay. She's settled down now and they get along fine - I can't feed them together because they're both piglets
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and as long as I keep to the routine as much as possible there are no problems
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You're filly looks gorgeous btw
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I completely understand about wanting to get a bond with her as soon as. Its going to be a matter of trial and error and buttering up Buddy. I am sure he will fall for her charms soon enough - who couldnt?

I go on line at lot at work too, its more interesting!
 
I dont think ive come of here yet today so much for working lol.

I think im just worrid really about the first few weeks, like i dont want him to attack her or anything in the field. Im sure soon enough he will fall for her...supose am lucky its a filly probably not as threatening as a male would be to him.
 
I only work to keep my horse in the manner to which he has become accustomed.

I understand your concern, but it is good that she is a filly, he will probably take her under his wing and show her the ropes so to speak.

My horse is stabled next to a 3 year old. The pony was 2 when they become neighbours, but they were in sep fields. They were eventually put into the same field and my big dominant gelding took the younger horse under his wing. Its funny because everytime the younger one gets into trouble, he runs behind by big boy for protection.
 
Yeah me to but am going to look for something new as am a bit fed up here now.

Would be great if buddy does take her under his wing, though if he did that i could imagine him trying to kill every other horse that went near her.

Im hoping it all goes smoothly for everyones sake really as i no he can be a pain in the bum sometimes but hes grown up a little bit so maybe he will be kind towards her. I have never seen him be nasty to a mare he got on well with the mare on my old yard he was just the boss and she accepted it and they were fine. I hope it is the same with daisy mae.
 
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