Will I get over this feeling????

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My mare has recently been diagnosed with hock and SI problems, and is on 8 weeks in hand walking Shockwave and medicating joints, she may come sound and be ok she may not we dont know, today for the first time I rode another horse and he was lovely but he just wasnt my horse, Im riding someone elses tomorrow, (but almost feel like if I cant have my amazing mare who I love riding always feel safe but we have the greatest time together), that I dont want to ride at all and if the worst happens I may try and give her some time off, and just not bother to have anything to ride and just give up horses. Is this normal will I get over this feeling???

Pic of my amazing mare

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Fingers crossed for your girly! You never get over a feeling, you cap it and shut it away and sometimes it comes out. But this takes a long time.
Prayers and hugs your way for the soundness of your madam! X
 
Lovely picture x

Yes it is completely normal, I have ridden once since I lost my boy and hated it, nearly three years on, I am really ready to go and find another ' friend' although not 100%

Everything X for your horse x

I really think that is why my daughter has her own pony now, ad I can look after it, but he is not really mine !!!

Some of my friends say I am using him as an excuse , and perhaps they are right
 
I know exactly what you mean. When my boy was diagnosed with navicular, collateral ligament damage and pedal osteitis the vet just wasn't sure if he'd ever come back into work and if he did it might only be as a light hack. Initially I didn't think it mattered as long as he'd still be around, but once it had sunk in, well I was gutted. I tried riding a couple of others and it just felt wrong but eventually I found a lovely horse to ride and my lad is at Rockley going through rehab at the mo, so I'd say yes the feeling gets better, and don't give up hope for your mare, miracles do happen. :) x
 
What a beautifull photo of you both and I can see where you are coming from.Give her time off and yourself and later see how you feel as one horse is never the same as another like people they are all differant.
 
So sorry to hear your news. I barely rode for the past 4 years or so as my old girl got older and riding other horses wasn't the same. I'm now just about to get another horse (tomorrow!!!) and am so looking forward to that. I have had horses available to me during that time (including my children's ponies) and although I enjoyed the social aspect of hacking them it still wasn't the same. Sending hugs, but not sure I can tell you what the solution is. xx
 
Huge sympathy! The feeling doesn't exactly go away, but it does get better. I retired my life partner mare last year (12 years old) after a long, long, long battle with recurring lameness/back issues. I missed her so much I felt sick for months and still do from time to time. Over the last 18 months, though, I started riding and eventually loaning another mare, and bought a youngster to bring on in LPM's place. To begin with, I was more or less forcing myself to work with the loan mare. She's a reschooling project, but gorgeous, amazing, a better stamp of horse than my LMP and a real sweetie too. Even so, I would have preferred my own mare and when we had a bad day (sometimes even a good one), I'd just want my own girl back. 18 months down the line, I adore my loan mare and I'm having a great time bringing on the baby. I still miss LPM a lot and still get days when I just want her back, but it's stopped being a question of wanting her instead and more a wistful wanting her as well. The new girls haven't take her place, but they have created their own and I don't find myself comparing any more, so I'm counting that as a huge improvement!

My advice would be not to ride until you know the verdict on your mare. Then you can either get on with bringing her back into work or take a few more weeks to mourn what you've lost with her. After that, get your butt back in the saddle and ride through it! It will get better! Best of luck :)
 
I lost my mare last July, shortly after she foaled. I have ridden loads of horses in the past 9 months but none of them will replace her
I always say as a joke "i dont like horses, I like my horse" as people without horses just think horse people are horse mad!
Its taken me 9 months to get on something that I like and its completely different to my old cobby mare, its a 17hh Zangerwattit stallion!!!
 
Oh hunny. As others have said, the feeling might not go per se, but it does change.

When I lost Tiggy I rode friends horses. Felt so wrong, although the horses were kind and put up with me. Half the time I couldn't see for the blinking tears. Even when I got Dizzy, I'd sometimes look at that long ginger and blonde neck and every part of me just wanted the short mahogany neck of my Tigs back where she should be.

Now I think of Tigs less often. Had her for a year and she was on/off lame for that time, so not a lifetime of memories, but the ones I do have now make me smile and feel happy, but without the longing. That time has gone. Now the Dizz fills my thoughts and we have some new memories.

In sort of answer to your question, whenever I have a bad time due to Dizz's wonkiness, I do think seriously of giving up. It would mean some big sea changes, but there are times when I'm for sure that's what's gong to happen. I don't really know what brings me out of it, but each time I'm back to wanting to ride.

Everything crossed things go very, very well for you hunny.
 
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