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So i went to work this morning as usual, after letting my beautiful 2 year old cat, Roxy out as normal. When i got to work, with my mum my dad phoned to give us the bad news. Roxy had been run over, it looked like she died instantly. I was and am in shock, burst into tears and we drove home from Cambridge to Bury St Edmunds. That was the longest drive ever! We have taken her to be cremated. It hurts so much, i cannot believe i will never see her again, she was my baby. I rescued her as a feral kitten, and she was a little character. SHe has left a huge hole in our family and my heart. It physically feels like i have had my heartbroken. I don't think i will ever get used to not seeing her, or her running up to me when i come home from work. Sleeping on my bed.

I would like to get another kitten, i can never replace Roxy and i will never ever forget her, i love her so much. Will the pain ever go? Will i be happy again?

I went to spend time with my horse earlier, thinking that might help...but it didn't really. I suppose it is just too soon! I just want the pain to go away!
 
Really sorry to here this, lots of hugs!

You're going to feel this way for a little while, but it will get better, honest, you're feeling grief, its normal.
 
I don't believe it ever truly goes away, you just take it on as part of every day life and it becomes a little less acute.

I lost my youngster nearly 3 years ago now and all i can say is that this forum really helped me out. Thinking about him even now hurts on a different level to anything i can explain, but somehow it comforts me, its something real that i have of him still. Sorry if that sounds really morbid.

One thing i would say is let yourself mourn and cry. i fought it and wouldn't let anyone close to me see my hurt and i think it made it so much harder for me.

Im sorry for your loss xx
 
Oh Trixie - I know how you feel - last April I went out at 6am to do the ponies and as usual let my two (floss and moss - mum and son) out. I returned at 7am and Floss had been hit right outside the house.

I was devastated - we had to bury her immediately as I did not want the children to see her as it was not pretty :-(

The pain does ease - I still think of her but because we have her son I still have a part of my beautiful girl still with us.

Chin up x
 
I'm so very sorry for your loss. :(

RIP Roxy.

The pain will lesson with time, but how much time is needed is an individual thing. When Fara was run over, I thought that I would never be able to look at his photos without crying. Now (a few years later) I look at his photos and have wonderful happy memories. :) Yes, I still miss him, but I remember the good times.

You will get there too. Don't put pressure on yourself, things will get better, but only at your pace.

I now have a wonderful cat (see avatar), he is not a Fara replacement, I love them both. :)
 
Oh no, that's really sad, so sorry. When my first cat died it was absolutely awful. We are Irish so we had a sort of wake for her and we watched Chicken Run - we thought she would have liked that then buried her the next day.
Happy memories will come and you have to do whatever feels right for YOU, don't worry about what is right for other people, if you need to get a kitten then it is not replacing your other cat, you can love two, that is fine.
RIP pussycat, you were much loved.
 
I'm so sorry to hear this. My cat has been missing since Friday & i'm devastated. He's never gone missing before and all i can do is think the worst. I dread the thought of finding he's met the same fate as your poor cat. It's the not knowing that's getting to me :( I know it's no consolation, but at least you know that it was quick and she didn't suffer. She's at peace now - it's just you who's left to try to come to terms with it all. You will do, but it takes time. Some take longer than others. I think that in situations like this, when it's such an unexpected and sudden loss, it can be worse than knowing they were ill and expecting the end to come.
Many people think "oh it's just a cat", but they're far from 'just' anything.

Thinking about you. Take care xxx
 
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I'm so sorry to hear bad news about your cat. I hope you find him. I always used to worry about Roxy, so know how you feel. I suppose it is good we found her and know she wasn't in any pain, and she had a good life even though it was short so there is that. Its just the initial shock, and it will take time.

Thanks for all your kind words.
 
Oh I am so sorry to hear this very sad :(
RIP Roxy

My neighbours young cat was killed a couple of weeks ago, I had to give them the bad news and then listen to their little girl (5 yrs old) scream when they told her.... he was an awsome cat.

You never will forget the pain, but as time passes the pain does ease honestly I too would be devistated if I lost one of my cats they are my babies.
When you eventually feel ready to get another little kitten to come into your life it will be hard to think of it as a new member of the family and will be nothing like your old cat but another one that needs a good loving home.

Big hugs to you my sweet... cry let it out... (((((( hugs )))))
 
So sorry to read this post.

It does get easier i promise. Everyone said this to me when my princess died and i didnt believe them. But it honestly does.
I still cry to this day and its was over 18months ago my princess went to rainbow brigde. I think about her everyday and can even laugh now about the sillys things she did. SHe will always be in your heart

Big hugs xx
 
Thank you. I have done nothing but cry! We do have our older cat, but im sure she will miss her too so might need a new friend. It is hard, but with everyones support i will get through it. Im just so glad i have my horse to help take my mind of it a little bit...otherwise i do not know what i would do! Great start to the bank holiday weekend...one i will NEVER forget!
 
I got another horse around a month later and people questioned whether it was too soon but for me it was the best thing i ever did.
I adore him like i did her he does silly things she used to do but has his own little personality that i love to bits! He, like she was, will be with me too the end. You will know whats right for yourself hun x
 
Huge hugs, Trixie88 xx
I do know what you are going through, because I have lost cats to cars outside my house (2) and one I'd had for eight years just never came home one day and I don't know what happened to him. :(
And last Monday I had my beautiful cat that I'd had for 15 years pts because of cancer. I am missing him terribly even though I had expected it. You are going through shock, and grief, at the moment, and it's only just happened. I promise you that you will gradually feel better, even though you will miss her for a very long time. They are so much a part of our lives and families. xx
 
I'm really sorry to hear of the loss of your cat :(

The pain will lessen, and you will find hapiness elsewhere again, but of course it will take time.
I feel so hypocritical telling you this, it's 9 months to the day that I lost my horse and I'm far from being 'over it'.. but, I have learnt to deal with my emtion and focus on the great memories that we shared. You will do this too - and soon, although you will still feel sadness when you think of her, the pain will disappear and you'll smile when you see her picture.
Hugs OP xx
 
So sorry about your little Roxy. At the beginning of May, I lost one of my little rescue cats, Susie, and I miss her so much, and then to rub salt in the wound, at the end of May, on the Bank Holiday, I lost my dear old ex-racer, Bob, to colic. It still hurts now, and I cry for them both. It will take a long time for your heartbreak to heal. I'm glad I have another little cat to comfort me about Susie, and I have another horse , who has been a rock since I lost my Bob. I don't think anything has hurt me so much. Their lives become part of you and when they are gone..............well. So, I am thinking of you and your little cat, and I am so sorry for you. I hope your pain will fade in time, and you can remember the happy times. Memories can never be taken from you. Lots of hugs to you. RIP little Roxy, sleep well little cat x
 
So sorry to hear about Roxy.

I had to have my beloved border collie pts last year and it broke my heart. It does get better with time and I can now remember my collie with a smile instead of tears.

I am now facing the very real prospect of having to have my gorgeous cat Felix pts soon. He is 16 years old and living on borrowed time. I have had him since he was 5 weeks old and the thought of him not being in my life is heartbreaking.

Big Hugs to you. x
 
Trixie88 said:
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So i went to work this morning as usual, after letting my beautiful 2 year old cat, Roxy out as normal. When i got to work, with my mum my dad phoned to give us the bad news. Roxy had been run over, it looked like she died instantly. I was and am in shock, burst into tears and we drove home from Cambridge to Bury St Edmunds. That was the longest drive ever! We have taken her to be cremated. It hurts so much, i cannot believe i will never see her again, she was my baby. I rescued her as a feral kitten, and she was a little character. SHe has left a huge hole in our family and my heart. It physically feels like i have had my heartbroken. I don't think i will ever get used to not seeing her, or her running up to me when i come home from work. Sleeping on my bed.

I would like to get another kitten, i can never replace Roxy and i will never ever forget her, i love her so much. Will the pain ever go? Will i be happy again?

I went to spend time with my horse earlier, thinking that might help...but it didn't really. I suppose it is just too soon! I just want the pain to go away!
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Hi Trixie, i am so sorry for your loss, i do know to a certain extent of what your going through. Only 2/3 months ago i lost my little jack russel, my grandad was driving up the field just like everyday, he was looking at sam in his mirror, looked in the other mirror to check my other terrier and sammy just ran straight under the wheel! He was heart broken, we all were, and yes 2/3 months on, we all still miss him dearly but it has gotten easier. I found placing myself around my animals and caring for them as usual really did help!

My thoughts are with you, it is and will be a very sad place for you all to be in for quite some time, i hope it gets easier like it did for us!

xxx
 
I lost my rescue dog a year ago last xmas. Several years ago before that he was under my bed licking my hands and comforting me while I was attacked in my own home even though he had just been battered so he was pretty special to me.

He got run over too. I was a mess initially but fairly quickly I thought more about the happy times than the sadness and now I smile when I think of him and know he was sent to be my guardian angel before, during and after my attack, he was a special boy with horrible manners and a big grin and I am truly blessed to have been owned by him. It was sad how he died but it was instant and the life he had before me, . . he'd rather have died if given a choice I think so atleast I gave him something.

I still cry if I dwell on it but when I think of him generally it makes me happy so hang on in, smile through the tears at the funny and lovely things and the tears will eventually stop.

RIP Roxy kitten
 
Trixie, your pain will ease with the passing of time, and you will then remember the happy times. It is all too raw at the moment.

I have lost many of my cats (they are my friends) over the years, and I well know your current predicament. I have kept my cats' ashes, which I have found to be a great comfort, because they will never leave me.

May your little one rest in peace, and you find peace in the knowledge she is in a better place. God bless you.
 
It gets easier...

5 years ago this weekend I lost my 8 year old beloved tabby cat, Charlie. I got him at 6 weeks old.

We had friends over for the bank holiday and I was due to start a new job on the Tuesday. Charlie had been the life and soul of the party. 5.30am on the day of my new job I opened the curtains to find him dead on the lawn, I was destroyed.

New employers don't appreciate things like this so I popped him into the car, dropped him at the vets in hysterics (PM said heart attack or brain haemorrhage) and drove to the yard to do my horse, she was down with colic so got another (horse) vet to sort her out (she was fine), then drove to new job and somehow put on semi brave face. I got in the front door and crumpled staying there until 11pm. I don't know how I got through the first couple of weeks in that job and I will never forget that day!!

I still have a professional photo next to his ashes with his collar on top and it still gets me, it will this weekend...

Take care of yourself and if anyone says it's just a cat, breath deeply and try not to thump them for they do not understand...
 
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