Would it be wrong to take action against old YO?

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Would love to know what gives people the right to go around and tell lies about people! Ex yard owner has been spreading lies about me to a lot of people in the area im from. Now im used to bitchy yards etc in past so glad i have my own place now!

Basically one of my horses has been abused in the past etc calm now after a hell of a lot of work put into her she does bite if you hand feed her so made sure no one ever does this. Now someone lets their child walk under horse as its eatings her dinner so horse bites child. After i have said 100 times never to go near horse when eating plus it was in its stable so what the hell was child doing in stable! So had out a horse behaviourist to hold the peace and to try and find a way out of her biting habit. Yo kicks the behaviourist out of yard tries to putch them and very agressive. (this behaviourist is one of the top guys in the country as well). So i decide their and then im gonna leave as dont want to keep youngster and others on a yard with violence screaming behaviour.

So have moved to my own place. Now YO owes me money as they used my hay as they ran out they refuse to give it back or the money for it. Now his wife is going around lying that she kicked me out telling people load of **** and trying her hardest to give me as much trouble as poss. Even slagging me off to my farrier etc. If she had kicked me out there wouldnt be a issues but as i left handed in my notice and took my girl off the property same day to a friends yard as she had a stress related fit due to the YO kicking off, well thats what vets think as she has never had a fit again or before this date. Im so annoyed that she thinks she has the rights to say what she wants. Now im out of pocket for my hay which as one of my 3 live in i do still use hay year around. And have to put up with people saying things that are not true. Have been told i should take action against them for slander (sp?) as the YO wife is now doing same thing to someone else as well. Or write a letter send recorded delievery asking for hay back and threat to take legal action if they continue to say untrue things?

Chocolate cake for getting this far.
 
TBH, I couldn't be pooped with getting her back etc.
Life's too short, chalk it up to experience and thank yourself daily that you don't have to deal with her again.

How much money is involved with the hay? You talking tens or hundreds as obviously, that could have a different bearing on it.
 
no they only used £50 worth as i had rest in my trailer but he charged people double price of it so got £100 for it. Thats what i was thinking leave it but people keep saying i should do something about it.
 
I would just put it down to experience. If she is being so awful about you it is highly likely she has done the same to other people. I am sure people who know her will know exactly what she is like.
 
I would leave it, tbh. Slander is very hard to prove and extremly expensive to prosecute. Even if you had pockets deep enough to win such a case I doubt these nutters would be too bothered by it. Let it go - if they are as awful as they say, few people will pay any attention.
 
Dont think I could be bothered for £50.00, anyone with half a brain will know by talking to this person that they are an areshole, up to you, but even for PedanticVindictive me, I dont think I could be bothered, let them dig themselves a great big hole to fall in, which is what these types do, and fill themselves in afterwards.

We had an individual on the last yard I was at, in a short space of time they mananged to aleinate themself to everyone on the yard by the time they left, just stand back and watch, less hassle more fun.
 
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I would just leave it drop.Shes out of your hair now and you do not have to bother with her anymore. People like that are just spiteful. Best ignored!!
 
As others have said, I would not pursue this. You won't be able to move on with the stress hanging over you.
 
When I left my last yard, the old YM came to the new yard before I had moved and said my horse was dangerous etc.
I found out after I had been there a while when I hacked out with the new owner, she told me about what had been said. She told me she would make her own mind up, luckily for me! She was glad that my horse isn't dangerous and that all that had been told her was lies. She put it down to sour grapes.
I was cross as I had left due to the apalling care my horse had recieved, no hay or water, never given hard feed. Stable rivolting. Etc Etc!!
Wouldn't give that place a second thought if I were you, be thankful you have left and move on. Life is too short to dwell on things and get youself cross about them.
 
Enjoy being at your own place and let this drift right over the top of you. Every time you waste emotional energy thinking about this person it is giving them a place in your life they don't deserve. Kick the cow into touch mentally and move on.
 
I Would keep a dignified silence, and walk away from the slander and the hay. What goes around comes around.
 
i know a sad, pathetic pair of YO's just like that, what they dont get is they have a pretty bad rep in the area themselves.
 
I've just had a very bad experience with my old YO, a farmer. We were looking to buy a derelict farmhouse last week, but I let slip where I used to keep my pony to the farmer who lives next door. He rang the YO, and actually had the bare faced nerve to get my phone number off him, and hit me with all the lies this YO had told him. Including that I was "a bad payer" when I was the only one that did pay on time. I was devastated and felt violated.

I rang the estate agent the next day, and it's gone to the solicitor, but I have refused to have any more involvement, or put it in writing, and have walked away from the house. Bitterness is alive and well with farmers in this area.

So you have my sympathies, but I would just walk away. A friend told me that peeps will know who the lier is, and I'm just going with that, tho I am still upset. sm x

ps this farmer wanted to buy the farmhouse for himself at a knockdown price. *sigh*
 
Actually I wouldn't put up with it. It's a form of bullying. What I would do is pay a solicitor to send a very snotty letter threatening legal action if YO persists. I wouldn't go further than that but would feel a little happier knowing that said bully had had a very nasty shock!
 
Gosh, you're not in the South East, are you? This sounds like someone who owned a yard I used to be on, and who clearly had very deep-seated mental problems (spat her dummy out when I said I was leaving, lied about me, subsequently tried to punch some other liveries when they said they were leaving, told loads of lies about everyone who left the yard, total basket case!).

I would just let it go. Life is too short to be wound up by retards like that, and they usually get their comeuppance (my old YO certainly has, and in a big way!).
 
Personally would leave it. It would only provide her with more ammo to throw.

Don't dwell on it, she'll soon get bored and move on and find something else to moan about.
 
Agree with most here - let it go. If you pursue it, you will expend much more anxiety and emotion than the YO and wife who probably thrive on conflict. As for people you know telling you to do something about it, I frequently notice that people are often very keen for others to 'do something' and say things like 'I wouldn't put up with that if I were you.' In reality, though, they wouldn't want the hassle either if they were in your position. Don't give the YO the pleasure of knowing you're bothered. You're well out of it. Enjoy having your own place and move on mentally too.
 
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