Would you be annoyed?

Hi i am sorry you are taking her side i am not a nasty person as the person who put this coment on originally will tell you i am just really annoyd that she would do this and it wasnt just a friday night it was a lot more than 2 nights a week i help her out when she was doing her exams as well i would not put a horse at risk if i new is was going to do it any harm i did appreciate her letting me ride her horse but it worked both ways and i also helped her out too it just sounds all one sided and i have friends with other horses that i can ride i just thought i was helper her out but obvously not i wont be doing that again
please dont judge me for what she has written as i thought we were still friends but i dont need people like that in my life
 
pusseydelux, you still haven't said if you rode the mare on the track you were asked not to. I for one am not interested in how much care taking you did of the horse, you were allowed to 'use' someone elses 'property' and did not follow the rules, so you ruled yourself out of the picture IMO. If anyone else allows you to ride their horse without their immediate supervision, then I hope you have learned to do as you are asked. Oh and to not be rude about them when they ask advice about the most tactful way to ask you not to ride any longer.
 
To be fair pussydeluxe, I don't think the OP was slagging you off. She specifically told you not to ride on a stony path because of soundness issues however you went against what she said and did it anyway - in your last two posts you haven't actually disagreed with that...

OP was meerily getting an opinion on how best to approach the situation without causing any upset.

And to be honest, you say you have been helping her out and it's one sided - but you get to ride the horse for free!! So surely, helping out every now and then is acceptable in my book.

I think your just embarressed this has been discussed on HHO and makes you out as an irresponsible rider...
 
Blimey!
Pussydeluxe - a horse not having a bath isn't going to hurt it, and I'm sure that if you 'have a lot better knowledge' then you wouldn't have ridden a horse with previously rotated pedal bones down a stony track when you were asked not to!
I doubt the owner is frightened of her horse, but aware and concerned about its issues.
I'm afraid if you'd done that with mine when specifically asked not to I wouldn't allow you to ride again either as I would need somebody I could trust for the sake of my horse. Whether you thought it was okay to do as you were 'doing no harm' is besides the point - you were asked not to and should have respected that.
 
Good grief!!! Pussydeluxe,if you rode the horse where you were specifically told not to then it is End of Story. You shouldn't have done that and you are responsible for the agreement coming to an end. I'd never let someone ride my horse if I couldn't trust them.
 
Hi i dont want to fall out with any one as i am not sort of person i am not saying i didnt go up the bridle path cos i did and kept to the grass not the pebbles as one min she would say not to go up there and the next she would go up there i made one mistake and i did do as she asked me to normally like i said i would not have put her horse at risk if i thought it would harm her as i am a older person and not a child and defo not embarrissed about her putting it on HHo
and if you think i dont appreciate riding her horse for free i do like i said i did it as a favour as she didnt have time cos she was doing her exams and as the horse is old and has health problems with her feet in the end i found it more of a chore as i could do a lot with her even though she is a lovely horse and i thought me and her owner were friends i just wish she could have felt she could have told me rather than going behind my back i wouldnt have bit her i dont like the fact she was making out all i did was wrong when we helped each other like i said i didnt have to ride her as i have loads of friends with horse that i could ride and wouldnt be treated like this
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Moggy in Manolos said:
Hello all

The situation is this.
I let a lady ride my horse once or twice a week for free, this came about because her friend asked me out right, who I share the yard with. Now I have let this lady ride and trusted her with my mare. As some of you know Seren has had soundness issues in the past but *touch wood* we have been doing very well staying sound.
Anyway, I fairly recently explicitly stated that she was not to ride on this one bridle track as its terribly stony as Seren finds it very hard to walk down most of the time, she gets on with it but I am not happy so I do not even ride her myself down this track.

Well on a ride out with the mutual friend this morning it transpired she had ridden her the other night on this track I asked her not to. The mutual friend (they are more friends then me btw).
The more I have thought about this today the more annoyed i have felt.

Anyway, felt like I needed to vent.
Would you be annoyed if you were me?

Thanks for listening everyone :)
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Yes, I would be. You have your horses welfare in mind and she has ignored this. I wouldn't allow her to ride again.
 
pussydeluxe said:
i am not saying i didnt go up the bridle path cos i did and kept to the grass not the pebbles
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So the owner asks you not to do something yet you did it anyway. I would be pissed off with you as well.

pussydeluxe said:
i am a older person and not a child
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Then, please for God sake sort your punctuation and grammar out! Your posts are very difficult to read.

pussydeluxe said:
i have loads of friends with horse that i could ride and wouldnt be treated like this
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Well then, it won't be that much of a problem then that you can't ride the OP's horse anymore. Also the OP never said that you didn't help out etc. She asked for advice because the woman who was riding her horse (you) went against her instructions and rode her where you shouldn't have, and you can't deny this as by your own admission you did do this. Next time someone asks you not to do something with their horse I suggest you remember this and follow any instructions to the letter.
 
pussydeluxe, you rode her horse on the bridleway knowing full well she had asked you not to...just apologize. You have dug yourself in a hole and now you are pilling dirt on top.
 
Yes, I would be annoyed and you have every right to be,

It's your horse, your rules. And you have explicitly told her not to do something, and she has gone behind your back and dont it anyway! You shouldn't have to find out about it from someone else too.

It's not even as if you haven't given her a good enough reason not to, and she goes and jeopardises YOUR horse? That's not fair.
 
Hi all i feel as though most of you wish to not listen to my side of this story and made your own minds up about this
like i will say again i am not a nasty person and you have asked me a question so i told you and i do not need to get over myself like some one said and if you dont like my spelling dont read it
none of you know this person and if you read her post you will find out every one else was at fault and not her all the time
i dont get mad very often but i would just like to know why she couldnt have been honest to me about it all instead of posting on here and asking advise when we got on so well before if i new just making one mistake would make this much intrust in a post and she felt she couldnt have told me i did the horse no harm and new i wouldnt if any of you saw this bridle path you would hopefully understand i know she aske me not to go up there that day when she asked me if i would like to ride her i didnt ever take her out with out the owner permission
i am going to call this a day know as i feel you are all judging a book by its cover and not knowing the hole story its very sad that it has got like this and some of you are being very rude and judgmentle
 
Yes I would be very annoyed. If I specifically asked someone not to do something with my horse, and they went and did it anyway, I would be really upset. Why do people always think they know what is best for your horse....?
 
Sanolly said:
i am a older person and not a child
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Then, please for God sake sort your punctuation and grammar out! Your posts are very difficult to read.
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I've been itching to say something along those lines, but as I had nothing else to contribute (beyond what has already been said by others - i.e. it's a matter of trust, and it's been broken) I was going to keep out of it, but. My grandson has better control of his written English, and he's 11!
 
She is your horse. You have specifically added this person not to do something.
Have a polite word, if she still doesn't listen then tell her its not working out.
 
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Yes I would be annoyed. I would also confront her about it. This is why I never let anyone ride my horses, selfish I know but you can never trust anyone too much!
 
pussydeluxe said:
Hi all i feel as though most of you wish to not listen to my side of this story and made your own minds up about this
like i will say again i am not a nasty person and you have asked me a question so i told you and i do not need to get over myself like some one said and if you dont like my spelling dont read it
none of you know this person and if you read her post you will find out every one else was at fault and not her all the time
i dont get mad very often but i would just like to know why she couldnt have been honest to me about it all instead of posting on here and asking advise when we got on so well before if i new just making one mistake would make this much intrust in a post and she felt she couldnt have told me i did the horse no harm and new i wouldnt if any of you saw this bridle path you would hopefully understand i know she aske me not to go up there that day when she asked me if i would like to ride her i didnt ever take her out with out the owner permission
i am going to call this a day know as i feel you are all judging a book by its cover and not knowing the hole story its very sad that it has got like this and some of you are being very rude and judgmentle
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So what IS your side of the story? You were asked not to ride on a stony bridleway for the horse's health, yet you did anyway because you thought it would do no harm?

Nobody is saying that you are a nasty person, however had you followed the owners wishes then this situation would never have happened. The op was wanting no confrontation or bad feeling as far as I can tell, and she is the one who should feel justified in feeling upset after you did something that could have potentially hurt her horse - it doesn't matter that you thought otherwise.

You are right in that you made one mistake, however I don't think you realise the emotional involvement when you have a horse with laminitic issues and the stress it causes, and if I were you I would apologise to the owner and admit that you were wrong to do what you did and hopefully remain on good terms with her. She has done nothing wrong as far as I can see.
 
pussydeluxe said:
Hi all i feel as though most of you wish to not listen to my side of this story and made your own minds up about this
like i will say again i am not a nasty person and you have asked me a question so i told you and i do not need to get over myself like some one said and if you dont like my spelling dont read it
none of you know this person and if you read her post you will find out every one else was at fault and not her all the time
i dont get mad very often but i would just like to know why she couldnt have been honest to me about it all instead of posting on here and asking advise when we got on so well before if i new just making one mistake would make this much intrust in a post and she felt she couldnt have told me i did the horse no harm and new i wouldnt if any of you saw this bridle path you would hopefully understand i know she aske me not to go up there that day when she asked me if i would like to ride her i didnt ever take her out with out the owner permission
i am going to call this a day know as i feel you are all judging a book by its cover and not knowing the hole story its very sad that it has got like this and some of you are being very rude and judgmentle
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well seeing as your so smart.

can i just point out you havnt answered the question that was asked..

DID YOU or did you not ride the horse down a track you was told NOT to.

yes or no answer please, lets keep it simple
 
JimMoriarty said:
I've been itching to say something along those lines, but as I had nothing else to contribute (beyond what has already been said by others - i.e. it's a matter of trust, and it's been broken) I was going to keep out of it, but. My grandson has better control of his written English, and he's 11!
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I aim to please ;)

PussyDeluxe yes it may seem that we are taking the OP's side. However you need to see it from our point of view.
*OP says you rode her horse where she asked you not to.
*OP says that the reason you were asked not to ride down the track is because her feet.
*You, by your own admission went behind the OP's back and rode the horse where you were not supposed to.
*OP was asking our advice about the situation as she wasn't sure if she was overreacting and didn't want to have words with you if she was. She has been polite and civil at all times.
*You have come in all guns blazing, spouting off about how unfair this all is.
*You claim to have "better knowledge" about horses, yet you don't realise that the OP's horse is lucky to be sound. You should also realise that the OP knows her horse a damn sight better than you do.
*And for an "older person not a kid" your attitude is of that of a brattish teenager.

We don't know either of you outside of cyberspace so the only things we have to go on are posters attitudes and what they say. Even if you were in the right, your attitude on this forum means that you would not be allowed within 100m of my yard/horses.
 
jhoward said:
well seeing as your so smart.

can i just point out you havnt answered the question that was asked..

DID YOU or did you not ride the horse down a track you was told NOT to.

yes or no answer please, lets keep it simple
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(In a previous post she admits that she took the horse down the track, but stuck to the grassy bits.)
 
it doesnt matter if she rode it on the grass or with its feet covered in 10" thick padding, she was asked not to ride it down that road, when the horse is lame again it is the owner for forks out the vet bills and the lamer disappears. Its people like this that make horsey people very protective of their animals and also gives good guys a bad name. What i find so interesting is how do the rider find out that the OP was on HH forum, someone told her......
 
pussydeluxe said:
Hi all i feel as though most of you wish to not listen to my side of this story and made your own minds up about this
like i will say again i am not a nasty person and you have asked me a question so i told you and i do not need to get over myself like some one said and if you dont like my spelling dont read it
none of you know this person and if you read her post you will find out every one else was at fault and not her all the time
i dont get mad very often but i would just like to know why she couldnt have been honest to me about it all instead of posting on here and asking advise when we got on so well before if i new just making one mistake would make this much intrust in a post and she felt she couldnt have told me i did the horse no harm and new i wouldnt if any of you saw this bridle path you would hopefully understand i know she aske me not to go up there that day when she asked me if i would like to ride her i didnt ever take her out with out the owner permission
i am going to call this a day know as i feel you are all judging a book by its cover and not knowing the hole story its very sad that it has got like this and some of you are being very rude and judgmentle
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Sorry, if you had ridden my horse up a track I had specifically asked you not to, your ar*e would have been kicked from here to eternity. It matters not that the owner may have ridden down the track, what matters is that she asked YOU not to and you still did it anyway. You would never be allowed to ride my horse again.

Your side of the story would be easier to understand with some punctuation and paragraphs included, it is very hard to read your posts tbh.
 
pussydeluxe said:
Hi all i feel as though most of you wish to not listen to my side of this story and made your own minds up about this
like i will say again i am not a nasty person and you have asked me a question so i told you and i do not need to get over myself like some one said and if you dont like my spelling dont read it
none of you know this person and if you read her post you will find out every one else was at fault and not her all the time
i dont get mad very often but i would just like to know why she couldnt have been honest to me about it all instead of posting on here and asking advise when we got on so well before if i new just making one mistake would make this much intrust in a post and she felt she couldnt have told me i did the horse no harm and new i wouldnt if any of you saw this bridle path you would hopefully understand i know she aske me not to go up there that day when she asked me if i would like to ride her i didnt ever take her out with out the owner permission
i am going to call this a day know as i feel you are all judging a book by its cover and not knowing the hole story its very sad that it has got like this and some of you are being very rude and judgmentle
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I never tried to paint a bad picture of you as far as I am concerned. You really hurt me when you did this, and then you have the audacity to start saying some nasty things directed at me. I trusted you and you broke that trust, I did always feel like an outsider with you and her. And please do not try and say you did lots for me when it was in fact your own best mate that you continually ran around after. You did only tend to do her on the two days you rode her. Also I go out once a month!! So sometimes, once a month, I would ask if you or her could do the friday and I would do them all another night! I am very surprised at you C, I really am.

Yes, I lost my nerve for a while, thanks for pointing that out, thankfully I have it back. I have never felt so stressed and upset than I did at that place, I know that was not you, but I feel like a have my life back, it was a nightmare for me there.

Yes, you were lovely and sweet, I considered you a friend and have missed not seeing you since I left, but you really hurt me at this time. No, I never brought it up with you, you are right, I felt it would make it really bloody awkward, perhaps I should have done. I only rode my own horse up that track when she had the heart bar shoes, you know she went back to normal ones and I did not want her ridden down the track.

Its a shame to see you get nasty as I know your not a nasty person, far from it. But you really hurt me at the time, I think I had every right to be upset at you.

Anyway, think what you will, I really do not want to have a slanging match with you, but carry on if you must
 
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