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Christmas Crumpet

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Bit of background - a new yard has been built at my house (which we rent) and the first 2 horses arrived on Saturday. I have had a round pen put in my horse's field but was told by the trainer that it just needed to be put somewhere and not to worry because he wasn't going to use my field.

I got home yesterday morning from getting the papers to see 2 men in my field with a horse in the pen and my horse getting quite revved up outside the pen. I wouldn't have minded had someone just knocked on the door and said "we are going to turn this horse out. Do you mind? is your horse going to be ok if we are in his field etc" so I could have got him in or seperated the field. As it was I lost my temper and got very cross with said person and was made even more angry by the fact he didn't say sorry but just got huffy about it.

I was furious so went off on a ride which cheered me up no end because my ex racehorse was being fab and then bloke apologised this morning and said he was sorry and he didn't think. I just don't like the thought of other people in my horse's field esp as he got kicked the second day I had him and it took a while to get him back on track after that.

I have now seperated the field so that the pen is far away from my horse but he is an escapalogist so won't stay where he is supposed to for long!!

Did I overreact or would anyone else get cross about it? I think its just common sense really. Imagine if this bloke's racehorse had got kicked and broken its leg? Am calm now because bloke has apologised but was very steamy last night!!!!!!!
 
Trouble with owning a yard, is that a great deal of tongue bitting and diplomacy is required.

Unfortunately, common sense is not all that common.

He should have asked first though and apologised.

Do your liveries have a contract to sign with yard rules?
 
Just so that I can make sure I understand - You rent the property and paddock. The owners have built a yard seperate to this?
If so, then I would be utterly furious at this. If you are paying rent for the field then no-one else (even the owners) should be depositing horses, walkers, or anything else in your field. Basically, that is tresspassing?
I would be hitting the roof personally.......
 
A raceyard has been built at home - they have one side of the yard and we have the other side. We pay rent for our yard, house and paddock.

I am not cross about him using the field but what I am cross about is not asking/telling me he was going to do it. He doesn't know how my horse will react to having other horses taken in and out of the field and it also made me cross because I am trying to get my horse out of the racing mindset and turn him into an uber chilled hunter!! I just think it would have been common courtesy to let me know instead of just going ahead and doing it. I wouldn't dream of taking a strange horse into a field with someone else's horse and putting it in a pen without asking if it was ok or if the horse needed bringing in etc.

Perhaps I am being oversensitive but I've always been taught that manners cost nothing and it only takes a minute to ask and never just to assume that something will be ok because chances are something will go wrong and you'll end up in trouble!!
 
I would have punched him in the eye.... only joking
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Well it's men,do now.........then say sorry later!
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Get a notice made up,requesting that if they wish to enter your field,come up and ask,quite simple,really!
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i think you're right to be so annoyed - it's common sense not to lead a strange horse into a field with another horse. however, perhaps they couldn't find you to ask you.
now that he's apologised, i'd try to forgive it. at least now he knows what he's dealing with!
can't you get them to make a different access to the round pen, so they can lead directly into it without having to go into your field? if the field is "yours" (rented by you solely) then the round pen shouldn't be in it at all, really, i'd have thought.
 
Personally I would be furious - I wouldn't want him using the field, and to just do it without asking - well, well, well.
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It's not really the same as popping through someone's back gate (even thought that's not great too). This scenario involves legality (what would happen if his or your horse got hurt) and welfare ,as well as trespass.
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Like I say, I would be furious. I think you aren't being oversensitive at all and are being far calmer than I would.
 
I wasn't calm yesterday and lost my temper rather like an old fishwife. He didn't come and try and find me but just went ahead and did it. I am calm today because he has apologised and I think realised that you can't just assume these things. I also apologised profusely for getting so cross and went and seperated the field so hopefully all calm on the western front!!

As long as my horse is ok and has grass and is chilled out every night when I get home then it'll be fine and I won't worry too much.
 
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