Would you be offended...?

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I have been riding a working livery for a couple of months.

Hes absolutely adorable, I think Im in love.

His owner is moving abroad. She has had him at the school because she is struggling financially. I also know, but only from others on the yard, that she is struggling to raise the transportation costs for the move. As a result, the horse is staying for the full winter (whilst on hard feed).

I am the only person riding this beast since his other jockey moved also. Hes young, and together, we're moving along really well.

Im trying to not get 'like this' about him, but I am quite keen....

Would you, in these circumstances, be offended if I offered to buy this horse?? I asked the YO what my chances were, got a non-commital "you can always ask..."

I really dont want a kicking for asking....but any advice?

Thanks...
 
TBH, as long as someone wasn't trying to say, I can ride the horse better than you etc, I'd take it as a compliment that someone would seek me out to buy my horse (although none are for sale). :D

Good luck
 
The worst they could say is sorry he isn't for sale? But maybe she would consider a loan so she isn't paying full livery for him??
 
you can only ask.
politely mention it.
maybe write a letter explaining how well you get on with the horse and how you could give him a great life.
the owner can just say no or may ponder over it thinking over the details.

good luck!
 
I would. I asked once about a dog I was looking after (who were also moving abroad, also with limited transport monies) and they said yes :D

Always worth a shot, or youll never know!
 
I would go for it, don't think she will be offended at all. Definitely a risk worth taking if you are getting on so well with him, good luck!
 
Def worth asking the worst she can say is no & if she does maybe ask about loaning may take some financial pressure of her. Make sure you let us know what happens :)
 
I'm with the others, I wouldn't find it offensive at all - definitely ask and see what she says. She might be relieved to find someone like you! Let us know how it goes x
 
YO saw a post on facebook last year about how I'd love to buy Neddy. She said she wasn't selling him, but I'm welcome to come and see him whenever. A bit later, I asked if she would consider a loan, she said yes, but only when I could drive (my terms, not hers).

A few months ago she said that she would like to sell him to me, if I still wanted him! (Yes, DUH!) Hopefully he'll be mine soon (feb at the latest!)
Maybe even ask for full loan? I don't know, but good luck! I know how it is to love a horse who's not yours.
 
There is nothing offensive about wanting to buy the horse.

However, just make sure you ask for the right reasons like "i really do like this horse, if hes staying for the winter could we work out a loan agreement if you didnt want to sell him. that way youd always know who was looking after him, we can keep in touch, what work hes doing etc."

rather than " if you dont have the money to move him, or the time for him, ill have him"

Just being aware of her feelings and how she could react to something you say might make the world of difference between getting the horse and not getting the horse :)

good luck! :D
 
Nearly all of my horses have been sold by word of mouth. I tend to expect people to approach me if they are interested in a horse.

In other words, absolutely ask, do not hang back.
 
A genuine offer from a good home who knows the horse well has to be a compliment to any horse owner.

Of course you could cause offence by implying the current situation is somehow inadequate.
 
Definitely ask, if you don't ask the answer's always going to be no! Don't be put off if she says no right away though, it may be that she'll go away and think about it and get back to you with a different answer. Don't be pushy, just say if you ever consider selling him please would you let me know, and of course suggest the loan thing over the winter.

You're obviously more polite than me because I've been itching to buy my daughter's favourite riding school horse for months and every time I see the yard owner I try to persuade her to sell him to me! Luckily we're friends so it's not a problem ;) good luck and I hope it works out well for you! :)
 
Hi,

I certainly wouldn't be offended in the slightest - actually I'd be flattered - but as OP'd have already mentioned I'd ask for first refusal should he be offered for sale ;) - if it's a no goer then move on - but of you get offered the horse then PICS please :D:D:D:D:D

Good luck :D:D:D:D
 
No, it isn't offensive to ask. :)
I've had 2 people recently asking about my 3 year old pony. One asked about buying her and the other was for a loan. It's very flattering to know that other people like and want my girl, even though she will never be for sale. :D
 
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