Would you be upset at this?

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A few years ago i sold one of my horses- the only horse ive ever sold in my life as i believe she needed a better home than i could provide for her.

I put up a few ads a year ago trying to trace her as i always wondered what happened to her etc and someone responded telling me they had just sold her, they promised to send photos etc but it never transpired.

Around a month ago i had a letter from someone who bought her asking me to authroise the change of passport, excited, i looked her up and sent her a message (as well as sending back the letter of authorisation) just explaining who i was, that i have the horses daughter still and that i would love to keep in touch etc.

As far as i can tell i think the owner doesnt want me to be in contact as my messages etc have not been replied to but as far as i can tell, have been read.

Im a little upset as ive always happily kept in touch with old owners and i just thought others would be the same?
Has this happened to other people? Is it more common than i realise perhaps?

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Yes I'd be upset also.
I've sent letters to all owners that have owned my horse for a reasonable length of time.
I couldn't imagine shutting someone out. Whats wrong with the odd email? :(
 
Star_Chaser said:
why didn't the owner you sold her to authorise the passport change? Some people are funny they don't like old owners keeping in touch its a shame really
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From what i gather, when i sold her initally the owner never bothered doing a transfer over of the passport details. Then, theyve sold her on again and because my name is the last name on the passport theyve had to ask me to do it- which of course i have no problems with and did straight away.

Everyones different i suppose, ive always kept in contact with anyone whos wanted to with the ones i have bought (and kept). We even debated buying her back when i very first got in contact with the people who bought her off me at the beginning but they sold her on anyway regardless of my offer to buy her back which i was abit miffed at initially but from what i can gather they had already sort of arranged who was buying her (friend maybe?) so understandable.
 
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That's a great shame. I was ignored when I emailed the breeders of my pony.
I guess they maybe worried that you may try to buy back the horse
 
Maybe as you've already offered to buy her back from the seller, the new buyer wants a bit of distance in case you become a bit of a pest, contacting all of the time and offering to buy the horse back?

Not saying that's what you would be like but maybe that's how the new owner is feeling?
 
I would be tempted to just send one more message saying you hope things are going ok and wish them all the best for the future and to please let you know if they ever consider selling in the future. They may not choose to keep in touch but the prospect of a quick and easy sale will no doubt stick in their minds!
 
I can understand why you're upset but I also understand why they wouldn't want to keep in contact (I would, but I am a friendly sort) however it would be nice for them to send one message back and just say yes she is fine, we're going to do this and this, here is a picture. The end. It doesn't take much eh!

Maybe they just haven't got round to it yet and will do eventually :-)

How did you message them? Facebook? It might have gone into the dreaded 'others' folder where messages go to die?
 
True, maybe the other owners mentioned i had asked? It was only because they mentioned they were looking to sell her that i took it as a hint and offered to buy her back- i heard nothing from that point forward until the letter from the new owners.
I never actively approached them to buy her back, it was one of those conversations. I was trying to trace her because i was wondering how she was doing as i sold her young.

Its a shame though, i have no ulterior motive other than just to see how shes doing :)
 
Call me a cynic, but I would be wondering what they have to hide? Could be dealers, looking to get the passport up to date to sell her on? Yes, maybe not upset but a little concerned.
 
mandwhy said:
How did you message them? Facebook? It might have gone into the dreaded 'others' folder where messages go to die?
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Yes.. i didnt even know there was a different folder for messages.. hmmm!! I also added her my theory being that she should recognise my name as she just sent me a letter but it looked like the request was cancelled or so FB tells me.
 
Aha well when I was looking for a companion I was told of this 'others' folder which is where messages from people you don't know normally go, I was wondering why when there are so many people desperate to rehome I was not getting a single message! You should find yours too just in case! On PC it is in the list below inbox I think, and on phone it can be hard to get to.

Also if they haven't added you back they might not be regular facebook people and/or technologically incompetent ;-)

Maybe you could write them a letter!
 
I would be a bit sad but it doesn't surprise me.

I tracked down the breeder of my broodmare and he wasn't in the least bit interested. Sad.
 
mandwhy said:
Aha well when I was looking for a companion I was told of this 'others' folder which is where messages from people you don't know normally go, I was wondering why when there are so many people desperate to rehome I was not getting a single message! You should find yours too just in case! On PC it is in the list below inbox I think, and on phone it can be hard to get to.

Also if they haven't added you back they might not be regular facebook people and/or technologically incompetent ;-)

Maybe you could write them a letter!
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I shall have a look for this mysterious folder :)
It looks like the friend request was cancelled (so i assume that means it was cancelled her end?) I re did it though just incase.

In the letter of authorisation i put a letter saying the same thing as my message :(
 
RebelRebel said:
I would be a bit sad but it doesn't surprise me.

I tracked down the breeder of my broodmare and he wasn't in the least bit interested. Sad.
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Maybe we are in the minority? :D
Oh well, i am sure she is being loved as much as i loved her and there is one photo i can access where she looks very happy so i will leave it there and maybe in a few years i may come across her again.
 
you sell the horse you lose the right to contact. i'm afraid owning the same horse doesnt mean you'll all get along\!
 
Its sad that people have to be like that, anyone decent would be happy to drop you a few lines letting you know how she was getting on. I contacted a previous owner on the purchase of my mare as she was the last listed owner on the passport (I bought her from a dealer) and she sounded quite annoyed that I wanted to ask a few questions about her past. I was only interested to know more about her background but same as you the response was frosty to say the least.

SusieT I don't think anyones asking to get along and be best friends, we are just hoping to share information about the life of animal which is important to us, imo not really too much to ask.
 
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I'd be gutted too, thats why I dont think I could ever bring myself to sell my horses! I get so attached Id hate to think of them being passed on and on!

I'd love it if my mares owners contacted me, I'd love to know what she was like in the past! I'm still in contact with the people I bought her from but they bought her at about 10 so I'd love to know what she was like up until that point! She never came with any papers and where she is dun I couldnt work out her freeze mark so never had anyway of tracing her owners!

I'm still in contact with my babys breeder and his full brothers owner now too!
 
I'd be upset. But maybe that makes us sentimental? ( I wouldn't have it any other way!)

One of the nicest things about one of our ponies is that we know all her old owners, from her breeder onwards - I love it :)
 
I too would be really upset, maybe because I'm not like that either. Never sold any of mine but at Christmas I sent a card and some photos of my youngster to the stud and had a beautiful card back saying how pleased they were to hear how he's doing. I will continue to do this each year.
 
Now sorry if this is harsh but I would ignore a previous owner, if they have sold the horse, then they have given up any right to know what has happend is happening to him or her.

If they wanted to keep tabs, then they should have loaned not sold.
 
Gingerwitch said:
Now sorry if this is harsh but I would ignore a previous owner, if they have sold the horse, then they have given up any right to know what has happend is happening to him or her.

If they wanted to keep tabs, then they should have loaned not sold.
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I agree they have given up their 'right' to know about the horse, but why does that mean you can't share the news with them out of kindness? Sorry but I genuinely don't understand, not everyone who sells their horse deserves to be punished.

A young girl sold a horse due to having a baby which I subsequently bought. She found out from her neighbour, my farrier, that I had bought the horse and I was perfectly happy to give her news of him. She actually came round a few times and visited him at my yard, and her little boy had a sit on him. It put her mind at rest that he was being well cared for and I found out lots about his previous experience, so it was beneficial to both of us.
 
all very well just droppig a few lines until the previous owner wants to visit, or disagrees with what you're doing or tells you something you don't want to know (e.g bobbin once bucked..which then puts nervous nellie off bobbin)-all valid reasons for not wanting contact!
 
Gingerwitch said:
Now sorry if this is harsh but I would ignore a previous owner, if they have sold the horse, then they have given up any right to know what has happend is happening to him or her.

If they wanted to keep tabs, then they should have loaned not sold.
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Sometimes you have to sell, much as you'd love to keep them all forever... *lottery win needed!*
 
SusieT said:
you sell the horse you lose the right to contact. i'm afraid owning the same horse doesnt mean you'll all get along\!
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True, but sad.

We sold two ponies in the last few years, both were very loved but outgrown. One sent texts every now and then - when they went to a show etc to say how she was doing, and we went to see her a year later, she looked fab. The second one, the owner said they would stay in touch (I did say we wouldn't be stalker ex-owners, or criticise what they did with him) but they answer my "how is he doing?" texts with "fine, we love him". We would never ask to go and see him, but would love a decent update on how he is - particularly as he was a child's pony who loved him to bits. I had just come to terms with not knowing much about him, and that being life, when he popped up on here on a thread last week with a photo. Someone had ridden him in a uni competition and was saying how lovely he was. It absolutely made our night seeing a pic of him looking so well and knowing he is still doing well. Thats all we wanted - to know he was happy and ok in his new home (although what we could have done if not... Thats the risk - sometimes better to just let go!)

I do know some people who have been a total pain with their horse's new owners, being OTT and too critical, so perhaps these people have been once bitten?
 
Difficult one isnt it. I have only ever sold one pony and know where he is etc. We bought a lovely pony from some people that seemed really interested in how he was as they said they had never intended parting with him. We sent them an update after a few months and then tried to send them an update recently which they have ignored. My daughter who got on really well with the girl who sold him just wanted her to know that we would never sell him and how well they were doing . she was a bit upset as she was so proud of how well they are doing.
The previous owners of my sons pony love to see him out and about and revel in his success, we keep in regular touch but very light weight if you know what I mean.
 
I am not a horrid person, but have been involved twice with ex owners.... all i can say is NIGHTMARE, the one that rocked up and shriked that the horse was un rugged and being fed hay..... and was told that said horse had had numerous colic attacks, and was unsafe in traffic and when they used to own him they did x y and z differently. And nearly died when they found out the horse was actually turned out with other horses.

And the second whom is still driving me mad for a buy to part loan, or just come for the odd hack, lesson, etc - the answer is no, and the answer will always be no.
 
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