Would you get a sharer if you were me?

cappucino said:
I agree that local fb groups are a good idea.

You might like to mention your facilities, especially if you have a manege? floodlights for evening riding? good off road hacking ? whether he enjoys hacking out alone or whether there will be others to hack out with etc, that might encourage some sharers?
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Ooh very good idea! I'll ammend now..
 
NellRosk said:
Thank you, I'm very fond of the big lad :) it says on preloved it's had over 1000 views but no response! I could have a look at local FB groups, thanks! And could put ads up in local tack shops/ venues too
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You may have to wait a few weeks on preloved until non members can contact you, always seems to be the way :)

Good luck finding someone, he is gorgeous!
 
Sharing can work brilliantly but only if BOTH parties involved are suitable!

I'm in the unusual postion of being both a sharer and a sharee. My horse developed foot problems about 6 years ago so can no longer jump. At the same time my best friend was having babies so I got a sharer for my boy and started sharing hers so I could carry on competing. I've had 4 sharers over the years. The first was before he went lame as I was getting married and doing a masters and was struggling for time so was only ever temporary while her mare was off having a BOGOF foal. The second was with us 5 years until she moved away and had a baby last year. The third, as lovely as she was, I knew would never last long (she lasted about 9 months) and the fourth started 2 weeks ago - so far she is fab, a much better rider than me!

I was talking to a fellow livery the other day about how lucky I've been to find such great sharers and she said something I'd never really considered before - that (without blowing my own trumpet) a big part of the success has been down to me. I'm happy to let them get on with it without interfering, flexible enough to accommodate their needs and firm enough that they know what the rules are and that they have to stick to them. (Only rules are get insurance, don't put him in danger and you must wear hi-viz on the roads.)

I should say my share horse's owner has also been fab with me - but I've known her since we were 7 and we've unofficially shared our horses and the work with each other since we were 16 so we knew it would work!

If you're the sort of person who's very picky about they way things are done, it might be hard for you to let things go. If, like me, the process isn't an issue as long as the end result is ok then you'll be fine. I think with me it came from managing a big team, who all do things in their own way, at a young age (22) I soon learned that as long as the job gets done and nobody's hurt in the process it's far better to let them do it their way than demand they do it the same way as me!
 
annagain said:
Sharing can work brilliantly but only if BOTH parties involved are suitable!

I'm in the unusual postion of being both a sharer and a sharee. My horse developed foot problems about 6 years ago so can no longer jump. At the same time my best friend was having babies so I got a sharer for my boy and started sharing hers so I could carry on competing. I've had 4 sharers over the years. The first was before he went lame as I was getting married and doing a masters and was struggling for time so was only ever temporary while her mare was off having a BOGOF foal. The second was with us 5 years until she moved away and had a baby last year. The third, as lovely as she was, I knew would never last long (she lasted about 9 months) and the fourth started 2 weeks ago - so far she is fab, a much better rider than me!

I was talking to a fellow livery the other day about how lucky I've been to find such great sharers and she said something I'd never really considered before - that (without blowing my own trumpet) a big part of the success has been down to me. I'm happy to let them get on with it without interfering, flexible enough to accommodate their needs and firm enough that they know what the rules are and that they have to stick to them. (Only rules are get insurance, don't put him in danger and you must wear hi-viz on the roads.)

I should say my share horse's owner has also been fab with me - but I've known her since we were 7 and we've unofficially shared our horses and the work with each other since we were 16 so we knew it would work!

If you're the sort of person who's very picky about they way things are done, it might be hard for you to let things go. If, like me, the process isn't an issue as long as the end result is ok then you'll be fine. I think with me it came from managing a big team, who all do things in their own way, at a young age (22) I soon learned that as long as the job gets done and nobody's hurt in the process it's far better to let them do it their way than demand they do it the same way as me!
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Thanks annagain for your experience, I'm glad it's all worked out for you! You do sound like the perfect person to share a horse with, I must admit I'm quite picky and defensive when it comes to my 2 but I think I'll get better when I get my head around it :o
 
I’ve got two horses and three sharers. Both horses live out, none of the sharers contribute financially. All help with chores and exercising.

First sharer is 15, mainly rides my little horse, and has just started jumping lessons on him.

Second sharer is an adult, mainly schools and has flatwork lessons on my big horse (who is part dressage schoolmaster, part rehab horse)

Third sharer hacks out on big horse, with 15 year old on little horse on Friday afternoons, and catches the odd other ride.

I compete little horse at dressage, school both, hack both, and have flatwork lessons on both.

No one hacks out alone (apart from me). So having 4 of us gives flexibility to hack together. Sometimes either horse works twice in one day.

I’ve been lucky to find and develop good sharers – I think the arrangement has to be of benefit to all.

I want my horses cared for well, exercised. I love the fact they get attention and TLC from nice people, I love the fact the sharers have all built good relationships with the horses.

I hope I offer my sharers the chance to ride and enjoy nice horses.

It does take more organisation and co-ordination. And learning to trust people. But I think you soon know if people are the right ones to trust.
 
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