Would you get him back from his loaner?

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My horse has been out on loan for a month now and in that time they have never had any contact with me apart from after the first week when i had to ask them how he was doing and they told me etc
I have only text them twice in 4 weeks so i don't feel i am being an over protective owner and one of them times was to arrange to come and see him.
Anyways text them and they said can't do this weekend because they are busy fair enough but don't see how you can be busy all 3 days and surely you have to go and see horse anyway, then they text me back saying they are taking him SJ on sunday and do i want to come and watch so they aren't busy anymore and i sent them a message straight back saying yeah what time 4 days later still no reply.
I have the feeling that they aren't happy about me going and checking on him monthly even though they said it would be ok and now i don't know whether to just bring him back home as i am not liking their lack of communication.
What are your opinions am i in the wrong?
 
why don't you ring them instead of texting?

tell them your concerns; some people are just a little bit more lax than others regarding communication, particularly if they aren't having any issues with the horse
 
It must be hard putting your horse out on loan. When we have had horses on loan I have probably been the other way & bombarded the owners with info & photos to try & reassure them! Why not try to speak rather than text & explain that you need to know that the horse has settled in ok & that everyone (included the loaner) is happy. Text is a horrible impersonal way of having important conversations & can give the wrong message so easily.
Maybe they are worried that you have changed your mind about loaning & are looking for an excuse to take the horse away. Maybe they have been mucked about before.
Are they far away? If not you only need to pop round fora few minutes & surely you can do that when they go to do the horses. If you are coming a long way maybe they are worried that you will stay a long time & they wll need to "entertain" you.
Maybe they are just so excited at going out to do fun things like SJ that they forget to get cback to you. Although that is very naughty it doesn't mean your horse is coming to harm.
 
If they are not far away I would just turn up. Sorry your horse and the way some horses have gone missing with loaners lately who could blame you.
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Then explain you had no reply from them so just wondered what the problem was with a monthly check. I get paranoid though
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Explain that it was part of the agreement and if they don't want you coming to check everythings ok then say you talk your horse back now.
 
they are 2 hours away which is longer then i wanted so put that with the fact they don't tell me anything is why i am worrying a bit
 
I would go for a little road trip if you have time. They might be extra surprised to see how determined you are to check on the horse; and given that you want to go and visit anyway, I think this could be your best way of doing it.
 
If you are concerned then I think you have a right to just turn up if they are not returning your texts or phone calls.
 
Its still YOUR horse, go visit.
If they were that bothered about keeping the horse on loan then they'd do their upmost to keep you (the owner) happy.

Personally, if someone was ignoring my texts (i.e only replying when they felt like it/it suited them) I'd be taking the horse straight back. Its your horse. There are plenty of people out there looking for loan horses (as I found out recently looking for my boy) and I think they're being blatently rude.
 
QR- I would go and check on him, just for your own peace of mind. Yes, a 4 hour round trip is a daunting prospect, but its a small price to pay for your peace of mind, surely?

I loan my horse, her owner is a really lovely girl, and if she wanted to come and see Ella I'd always be available for her. I think its just plain rude for a loaner to ignore the owner's attempts at contact, and if i was the owner in such a position, i'd be getting anxious and suspicious.
 
I am loaning a horse and I have been in contact with my horses owner loads and feel I know her really well and made a friend! We do normally text due to my work and she has a baby so it's easier for us. There has only been 1 time I have not text her back and that was because I was buisy at the time when I got her text and then forgot! oops! But she was fine when I explained.

We also only live 5 mins away from each other but i still constantly keep her updated about what is going on and invite her down because at the end of the day he is her horse and I know how difficult she found it to put him on loan.

I think if we had not had this contact she would have "just turned up" or maybe even taken him back but i think she is absaloutly entilted to as it is her horse.

Sorry this is long but if they are not keeping in contact and you are worried go and visit unannounced. If they don't like it they should have kept in contact! Good luck hope all goes ok xx
 
I had a thread on the same subject if you dig back, but basically agree - in my case, I went and everything was totally fine - they really had been up to their eyes in work etc! If you're worried, go to see your horse, it's your horse at the end of the day, and there are worse things than follwoing your gut instinct!
 
I find the best way to deal with situations like this is to call them and say you are in the area on X day and can they let you know when is a good time for you to drop in. That way they have to fit you in and you don't upset them by just turning up. I'm sure you will find everything is fine but it is best to check and put you mind at rest.
 
It must be quite upseting for you, i would go and see him,just to reasure yourself. I have 2 horses on loan,and would welcome their owners visits, one seems to have dissapeared of the face of the earth and the others left the country !!!!
 
Welll actually they could be busy all three days of the bank holiday.

Ring them up and tell them you'd love to meet up at the SJ competition.

If you are two hours away they may feel that they have to entertain you for the day, when they do have other things to do.
 
I would ring and ask what time the SJ is on Sun. They might not have got reply text you sent or lost their phone. If you donr get an answer and cant get hold of them, I would just turn up on Sun am early. If they have gone to the event surely someone will know where they have gone? Then turn up at the event.
If i was at all concerned then, i would be taking him home. It is bad manners not to keep in touch. I have made many friends through the years from buying horses.
This is still your horse, you have a right to check on him
 
No keep on at them. Dont make the same mistake as me and be made to feel as though you are being a pain.

I only found my boy because he broke the loan homes arm. Or else goodness knows where he would have ended up.

They may be busy, arnt we all, but as you say they still haver to go and see your horse daily so why can you not be there
 
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