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Would you put up with your OH being too hard on your pets?

For example, my now ex bf smacked my dog (we had a massive row about this) when he ran away from him on a walk and was always pushing my two cats off the sofa arms as they were 'annoying him'.

My animals are a massive part of my life and my cats do sit on the sofa and my GSD is a big mummys boy and follows me everywhere.

He used to say you always put them first. I said yes because they rely on me to take care of them and you can take care of yourself!

Do you think its impossible to be with someone who doesn't like animals? Beacuse there is no way that I would put up with that again.

Others views please? Thanks
 
Smacked him when he came back? Cos that's not teaching the dog that coming back is good! My OH used to tell off the dogs as they came back if they hadn't responded immediately. I had to explain that they come back (good), so massive fuss/praise (makes them want to come back next time :rolleyes:)

My current trainer is very old fashioned and uses voice and quite major checking (yank on lead) to train. He advocates a choke chain. It worried me but Zak needs to know who is in charge.

I don't think I could be with someone who didn't like animals, although the OH is desperately un-horsey. That's my hobby and he will come to the yard if press ganged but I don't expect him to attend shows etc. He can't do anything with the horse, not even put on a Headcollar. He always said he wouldn't and I respect that, it's not his horse andi wasn't into horses when I met him. In the house, tho, I'd want to be with someone who cared as much about the pets as me.

I think you need to set out your stall early with boyfriends and ensure they know how important eg the dog is. It can be limiting re days out/holidays!
 
No I wouldn't! I think if someone hit my dog I'd see red! My ex had a dog that he was horrible to. Not exactly physical, but very cold and would push her awayif she wanted affection.
I think my OH needs to be a bit more assertive with my dog. Mine is an energetic lab x border collie who loves people and gets over excited, whereas OH has an older King Charles who is the most placid little princess I've ever met, so my dog is always over him like a rash!
 
Glad its not just me.

Tried to explain that it should be praise all the way when the lad comes back. He has never run away from me which made me think he was tough on the lad to begin with :(

I would never feel comfy leaving the animals with him and it put massive doubts in my head about the whole relationship, along with a lot of other stuff that's not dog related!

Problem was he would never be told that he was wrong when it came to anything!.

Anyway! Orionstar, he is an ex now and me and my animals are much more relaxed :) stupid men.
 
i wouldn't have it from a boyfriend. I pretty much bullied my other half into getting our dog and now he tells me off for smacking her on the nose. I think its because she's little and he wants to look after her bless him :rolleyes:. I have to watch that my grandad doesnt shout at her for no reason or he ends up getting yelled at.
 
Nope. MY pets, MY rules. That doesn't mean others aren't permitted to appropriately reprimand my pets, but it has to be measured and consistent. Anyone who can't adhere to that can stay well away as far as I am concerned.
 
I wouldn't even go for a coffee with someone who didn't like dogs. My mother's OH is allergic, he wouldn't have even got as far as a date if it were me!!

My dog would probably bite someone who smacked him so no worries there :p
 
Never used to have a problem with my hubby when I first started seeing him, told him I had the dogs and horses and if he didn't like it don't bother with me, he was fine with that (he had to be, I had to take on his mob of kids lol) and that if he made me choose he wouldn't like my answer, they were there first.

However now it's awful, he picks Mouse up and coos at her that she's beautiful - doesn't ruddy do that to me :p lol

I don't think I could be with someone who didn't like them, I'd never force them onto someone but would expect them to tolerate them. Hubby isn't really horsey but he'll still go and turn out, muck out and bring in for me, he's even been on once!
 
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