WWYD cat vs partner....

[Fransurrey]

Shut the cat out of the bedroom? Oooh! That's an insane suggestion! My OH would sympathise with the noisy purring, but even when my old cat started with his kidney problems and was yowling in the night, getting anxious and scrabbling in wardrobes, he wouldn't have dared suggest shutting them out! I'd rather have a separate bedroom to OH. The cat's farts are less toxic and at least he doesn't steal the duvet or launch into bed like he's bombing into a swimming pool after a midnight wee!!

When my old cat was alive, I started putting a furry pet blanket over the duvet, which did limit the disturbances, as there was a warm and fluffy thing for the kitty to sleep on. I also had a towel on my pillow, which somehow made it more attractive than OH's pillow (and I got buried in cats, whilst OH snored and farted unaware).

My OH struggled to understand how much I loved my kitties at first and I wondered how much he liked them really. However, when my cat was pts in August last year, OH took it really badly. I think you'd be surprised how much your OH likes the kitty really.

 

[cloverleaf1985]

Another vote for a cat free bedroom. My OH tolerated my old girl in the room as she slept on a radiator bed and was good as gold.
However, since getting another cat (after she passed away) he yowls at stupid o clock in the morning and my other cat started to copy him. OH was getting very frustrated and so was I to an extent, so now they are shut away in the kitchen/diner at night with a litter tray and harmony has been restored

 

[Wozpril]

These replies are great! 2bh reading my post back, I do sound a little weird about the cat, but...... He is totally gorgeous, jet black, looks part Main ****, fabulous coat you just want to rub your face into....
I can't help it! I know he's a naughty attention seeking monster, but I absolutely love him to death, and maybe he is too attached to me, but I'd be gutted if he turned into a typical aloof cat.
He's always sucked his tail. When he was a kitten he would go to sleep holding my finger in his mouth, and just kind of progressed to his tail.
He has suffered really badly with bladder crystals, due to, shall we say 'mechanical' problems with his bits, so I really don't want to stress him out. He is so habitual that shutting him out the bedroom would definitely upset him, and if that effected his bladder again... Well after the best part of 4k to fix him last time, he's no longer covered for it in my insurance as it's now a pre- existing condition
But, I am aware that I'm so mindful to not make him stressed and ill again that I let him get away with murder!!
But I don't mind as he can do no wrong in my eyes lol
Cat is 3, partner has been moved in 2 weeks.
To be fair, partner was fully aware how much I totally love the cat before he moved in!
He loves the dog tho and would let her sleep on the bed any day! She just doesn't want to

 

[Wozpril]

Have you had your partner's back, teeth and saddle checked? This is probably what is making him bad tempered. I would definitely make him go barefoot too, I haven't looked back since taking my boyfriend's shoes off him. Are you being consistent with his boundaries? if he pushes your cat off the bed again then growl at him, followed by a sharp no.
This is brilliant!!

 

[Alexart]

I'd ditch the bloke!! If he can't cope with one little cat then what is he going to be like with kids when all your attention is on them and they are up screaming all night etc - assuming you want kids that is!! I'm always very wary of people who don't like animals!!

 

[Supertrooper]

I do sympathise with you though OP, suggesting shutting him out of the bedroom is very very different from doing it!

Mine would create merry hell if we did that! Basically he runs our household ;-)

 

[Supertrooper]

I am talking about the cat by the way ;-)

 

[sarahann1]

Tell your OH to like it or lump it. Your cat has had his routine for years, not fair to ask him to change it now.

So lucky my hubby is a cat person, he did used to get freaked out when she slept in his back in bed, but he soon got used to it

 

[ILuvCowparsely]

Sorry but I would say to him.

We come as a package take and me and cat or neither.
If he gets his choice then what next will he control????

plenty more fish in the sea.

 

[ILuvCowparsely]

I don't like cats so would get rid of it

I prefer cats to men so rid the man. . A partner should not tell yes TELL their girlfriend to get rid of her pet. Albeit cat dog fish horse. Period.


My man took me and my animals if he made me choose he would see the door.

 

[tallyho!]

My man took me and my animals if he made me choose he would see the door.

Ayyyyymen sistah!!

This lady came with a horse and a cancerous cat. If you don't like it... Sling yer hook mate!

 

[Honey08]

I think there is a compromise here. The cat does not HAVE to sleep on your bed, and I don't blame your OH for disliking this. I love animals. All kinds of animals. I have lap dogs that I love nursing on my lap, but do I let them on my bed when I want to go to sleep? No way! My husband and two sons do. But I have my own room that is dog free. (Hubby and I sleep separately because we have a much better nights sleep that way. Maybe this is an option for you? It does not have to mean the end of romance and hanky panky )

I agree - no animals sleep in the bedroom. I love mine to bits, but the only day they are allowed on beds is Sunday lie ins when they are dry and we are all having coffee in bed!

 

[ILuvCowparsely]

I agree - no animals sleep in the bedroom. I love mine to bits, but the only day they are allowed on beds is Sunday lie ins when they are dry and we are all having coffee in bed!

coffee in Bed mmmmmmmmmmm the thought . Our weekend lie ins involve sleep till 9am then up dressed yard and breakfast when we have finished the yard.

our cats sleep where they want

 

[Clodagh]

I suspect there is a lot of man hating singletons on here!
Humans are more important than animals... End of discussion!
You want to die an old hermit in a house full of cat wee? Go for it!
Mind you my dog bit my OH on our first night together at a somewhat crucial moment, but he (sort of) forgave her and she was allowed to carry on sleeping in the bedroom but not on the bed.

 

[Tiffany]

Get OH some ear plugs and blinkers then he won't see or hear your cat

 

[Mrs B]

Humans are more important than animals....

Humans in general? Not in my world, nor my husband's.

 

[Clodagh]

Humans in general? Not in my world, nor my husband's.

They are in mine, I'm afraid. Our dogs, horses and chickens want for nothing but the children and each other come first.

 

[Django Pony]

Cat was there first! Throw him out of the bed next time he wants a cuddle and see how he likes it!!

 

[Mrs B]

They are in mine, I'm afraid. Our dogs, horses and chickens want for nothing but the children and each other come first.

Ah - but they are not humans in general.

Having said that, even close humans don't always come first with me.

 

[Clodagh]

We shall have to agree to disagree. I wouldn't put any animals ahead of my OH amd 2 boys though. Extended family can lump it! (and the rest of the world)

 

[mperson01]

Ongoing war of attrition in our house; OH decrees which pet should live where. I try to enforce and come up with all sorts of clever plans to keep said pets in place. All fail abysmally, pets end up where ever they want; today had a spaniel asleep on my clean washing, hens capering in kitchen at the dog food and rabbits in the hen house. I give up