WWYD - do you think this is a good idea to ask?

[3OldPonies]

Bit long sorry, bear with me - I need to give some background as well.

I've not been v. confident for quite a while now, and recently a friend said that I could ride her chap as he's really steady and will help me out. All went well the first two weeks and we went out together and had a great time and my confidence is improving in leaps and bounds, getting on really well with her horse too.

But, things have started to go downhill - not with the riding - but with getting to ride at all! My friend is a really social person and the past few times we were supposed to go out she has cried off and we've just not managed to get together. When we first spoke about me riding her horse said that him and me could go out on our own.

So my question is, would it be really cheeky of me to suggest that if she is too busy this weekend then I take him out by myself?

We have a pretty good area of hacking where we don't have to go on the road - so I would be quite happy to say I would stick to that.

 

[The Fuzzy Furry]

Go for it - if you dont ask, you will never know.
Be prepared to take it on the chin if she refuses tho.

Hope you get a positive respose

 

[Polos Mum]

No harm in asking, the worse she can say is no. If you're happy to give it a go alone why not.
Maybe ask it in a way that gives her an easy way out so she doesn't worry about offending you so something like "would it be possible to ride him on my own if you're busy this weekend or do you think I should ride with you a few more times?"

 

[3OldPonies]

Thanks The Fuzzy Furry and Polosmum. You're both absolutely right. I will give it a go and see what happens. Polosmum I love your wording, I'll definitely try that.

 

[3OldPonies]

Well I tried - we should be going out together this weekend - flying solo possibly to come at a later date.